Learning the Ropes
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Posted:Oct 17, 2016 12:26 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2016 12:27 pm
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So, the body is failing me, at least the fun parts are. And medication has not helped. I would consider a pump, but I have trouble getting my head around that option. The future for my penis looks bleak. Has this dulled my joi d'vive? Hell yes, but I don't quit that easily. At least not without some struggle. And since it's better to give than receive, I am offering to pass some of that struggle along.
In order to stay in the game, I'm collecting cordage and sex toys. I've got one very accommodating play partner locally who is interested in exploring the kinkier side of stuff with me, and there's another friend who is plopped into my llife after 25 years long time no see. She's in the Advanced category of kinky, has been handled by professional dominas. We've done some negotiation and I expect her to get her ripe ass down here as soon as her life turns in her direction. I hope to learn a lot.
In the meantime, there's much studying to be done and cordage to be purchased. I'm good with basic knots and need to learn to safely bind my guests in an attractive and effective way. Also, need to consider some non-toy purchases (quirts, paddles, and the like). Holding off on the floggers because that can be a serious purchase and you don't want to go too thuddy or too sting-y without knowing what you're doing.
I doubt I've got enough life left in me or access to willing partners to evolve into suspension work, and I'm not inclined to mount hardware in my ceiling, but we'll see.
Just wanted to say so.
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So, it's come to this.
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Posted:Jul 17, 2015 12:18 am
Last Updated:May 11, 2024 4:46 am
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Mark here. Long time no show-up-and-check-my-goddamned-account.
Sorry. Truth is, I'm entering a new phase of life. One where I can't get it up anymore. I've been through all the stages, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and now I'm headed for what may be the last phase - medication.
My insurance may make "boner pills" a possibility. If so, I'm looking into it and making some effort to get off my ass and, you know, do stuff. Especially to that one patient and incredibly orgasmic woman who I've actually met and had big fun with.
Looking for any personal experiences with ED drugs that can be shared out there. Feel free to send them my way.
In the meantime, thanks for looking.
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I Was A Selfish Fuck
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Posted:May 16, 2012 1:04 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2015 12:51 am
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“You take too long to cum,” she told me with a very serious face. The relationship was about two years old and she felt comfortable enough with me to say it, but not enough to be comfortable about saying it. She was sincere and her feedback was well founded.
I was not put off by her telling me this. I recognized that she had a point. I enjoy just about every aspect of sex, no least of all the actual fucking. For me, sex is not about the orgasm -- I can do that for myself. I like the skin-on-skin, the sweet feeling of sliding in and out of my partner as we both just enjoy ourselves. Trouble was, I liked it too much. I really got off driving my partner to one orgasm after another until I decided I’d had enough. I was just being selfish.
This was not what ended that relationship. There was give and take and I worked at focusing on taking my orgasm early then recharging for round 2 which she found much more enjoyable. As I have aged, that whole recharge thing became more difficult, and my stamina generally has fluctuated as one would expect over the years. But shortly after this, I moved on to the woman to whom I would marry.
It was terrific. She was a selfish fuck too. The only real downside to our sexual relationship was that it seemed we would engage in an endurance contest. We would go through all the motions, all the positions, do all the stuff we wanted to do as we ground each other into dust. She would sometimes outlast me and I would wind up finishing her off with my hands, mouth, a toy. Sometimes I would outlast her and she would tell me that she had simply missed her opportunity to take her orgasm, and that she was done. At that point, if I was close enough, I would take my orgasm and we were done with those festivities for the evening. If not, I would frequently cuddle up next to her and masturbate until I was done. It took as a few times, but we both got comfortable with that situation.
What with one thing and another, it’s been awhile since I’ve had a partner. I’m sure that I’m not as long-winded as I used to be, but no matter. This kind of thing is always a negotiation, a dance. There is always the balance between how much I want and how much she wants. I have found that communication is important, and it’s vital that accommodation be made so that no one goes to sleep unfulfilled. Of course, this involves a willingness to compromise. The only question becomes what can and can not be compromised.
Ever been criticized by a partner? If so, how did that work out?
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Descending Into Afterglow
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Posted:May 5, 2012 2:30 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2015 12:52 am
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A funny thing happens on the way to the afterglow. It’s probably not any kind of secret to the ladies out there, but something changes in the male brain chemistry (could look it up now, but are you REALLY interested in that level of detail?) immediately after orgasm. Stereotypically, this is “kicking the old sleep switch.” Now, there are plenty of theories about why this happens, and much has been learned about the neurochemistry of how it works, but for the purposes of this plea for attention, those things aren’t really important.
I will be satisfied with the idea that men tend to fall asleep after sex because their partner does not turn into a pizza. It’s not an original idea, but it’s true. What I really want to talk about is a deeper emotional issue that I personally experience. After I pop, I start to come down from the heights of ecstatic release into a kind of dark pit. I am not just sleepy, I am overcome with a sense of isolation and nihilism that is short-lived, but intense.
After an intense orgasm, I tend to not want to be. I mean I don’t want to be with my partner; I don’t want to be in that bed, in that room, or on the face of the planet. Now, this feeling only lasts for about, I don’t know, maybe 30 seconds, but it’s real and it’s intense. Of course, it does not interfere with cuddle time as long as it’s peaceful and quiet. I just need a little time to recover my wits.
And it didn’t always happen like that. I remember when I was much younger, an orgasm was merely a brief interruption in the festivities. I would pop my load, blink about six times, catch my breath and bet right back at it. Ah, those were truly the days....
But as time wore on, the orgasm became a much more emotionally charged thing and recovery time became necessary. At this point, recovery time is frankly a bitch. More on that in another post down the road.
I’m interested in hearing how other guys experience this and has it changed over time? And what kind of things do women experience in all this?
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Ugh.
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Posted:May 4, 2012 1:00 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2015 12:53 am
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Friday and I'm still in a major grumpus. Need to pull out of this somehow. Need a pithy and insightful blog post about an important and interest-grabbing topic.
I've got nothing.
Maybe later.
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Say what?
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Posted:Apr 30, 2012 12:33 pm
Last Updated:May 11, 2024 4:46 am
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Virtually everything that people do is communicative. We send a message with every gesture, facial expression, and noise we make whether we want to or not. Communication is vital to any experience shared by two or more people.
And yet somehow, some of us are really inhibited when it comes to saying anything during sex. I'm not talking about "talking dirty" which I find incredibly stimulating when done well and often hilarious when it's not. I mean just basic communication. When your partner touches you there in just that way, it feels good and you react. Your body will move and you will make some kind of noise. If your partner is paying attention and he or she is able to interpret the signs correctly, then communication can be described as effective to at least some extent.
Unfortunately, all those "if's" leave a lot of room for error. What I once mistook for ecstasy was in fact a case of "Hey, you're on my hair." And I just thought I was doing well.
Communication doesn't have to be verbal; you don't actually have to say anything in some cases. In fact most human communication is non-verbal. And you can communicate a lot of stuff non-verbally. Of course, during sex, there's an awful lot of nonverbal stuff going on. That can cause misunderstandings as well.
One piece of feedback a lot of people offer is that their partner "don't tell me what they want." By trial and error, we figure it out and that can be fun, but in a new and rapidly moving relationship, that may increase the risk of somebody causing offense. Hopefully, two people will get to know each other and set ground rules, etc.
The profile questions on this site are essential in that respect. Not only does that sort of thing allow people of similar proclivities to attract, but it serves as material to start the kind of conversation I think people need to have for a sexual relationship. But even that is imperfect and leaves a lot unsaid.
I suspect there are people that don't commit important details to their profile to avoid scaring off prospects or getting locked into something when they are really more interested in keeping an open mind about the whole thing. If those things aren't talked about, I think there is a risk of an unhappy encounter.
But all is not lost. There is plenty of opportunity to get clear on important issues before any damage is done. I don't think we all maintain a laundry lists of do's and dont's, but surely there are things we make sure the other knows before anything happens.
And things change. As you get to know someone, breaking an established taboo in a controlled manner and environment by become an exciting idea. How do you talk about that? And when?
Have any of you stumbled onto communication techniques that efficiently and non-threateningly help teach partners what you want them to do or do NOT want them to do?
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You did what, where?
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Posted:Apr 27, 2012 5:58 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2015 12:53 am
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I'm going to post briefly about a subject that some women seem to find unpleasant. Bear with me, it's not that bad. My topic here is coitus interruptus, pulling out.
I started having sex at a reasonably young age. Access to birth control just wasn't there, but information was available for those who would seek it out. I was a voracious reader and really curious, so I did what I could to learn about pregnancy and how to avoid it. When I finally formed a relationship with a young woman who was interested in exploring matters of the flesh with me, we agreed that pregnancy was something we youngsters wanted to avoid.
Now, my partner was very open minded and adaptable for her age. She was actually quite interested in ejaculate and enjoyed watching me squirt onto her belly or breasts, then touching it, rubbing it in, tasting it. We had great fun. She became so comfortable with it that she soon took to letting me cum in her mouth. No, not just letting me cum in her mouth -- she requested it. While not a universal thing with all my partners, I discovered that there are plenty of women out there who actually do enjoy receiving the fruits of their labor on their tongue more than other places. I find that delightful.
I also still have no problem pulling out and decorating her belly or tits, and in the spirit of a fun thing, I have enjoyed some snowball action with these ladies. I figure it is a generative fluid (as opposed to "waste") and it came out of me, so why not? In fact, I may have a slight preference for not finishing off inside my partner, especially with a condom in play.
Now the partners I have been with had no problem with my pulling out, I have heard some some women respond to the very idea with revulsion. That's unfortunate, but I think I understand where they're coming from. At any rate, I respect their sensitivities and I say if your partner wants you to keep your jizz to yourself, then do so. Now, if my partner freaks at the very idea of masturbation, we may face insurmountable obstacles.
How about you? Are you down with the pearl jam or is it simply not sex if he cums anywhere but deep inside you? And what variations on this theme have I not mentioned? School me!
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A position that I have issues with
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Posted:Apr 25, 2012 7:36 pm
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2013 11:09 pm
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I like oral sex. A lot. I mean, I like oral as an appetizer, an occasional main course, a palate cleanser, and sometimes for desert. And I'm not talking about the selfish blowjob kind of oral sex, though I do particularly enjoy the wet, sloppy blowjob with some handwork. No, I'm talking about cunnilingus. Eating pussy is something that I just really love to do.
It's not a deal breaker necessarily, but if I can't go down on my partner, it takes a bit of fun out of the experience for me. Now, I'm not saying I HAVE to do it every single encounter, nor does my partner have to reciprocate, but I do consider oral sex a staple. I hope all of you do as well, though I don't begrudge you your predilections.
This brings me to a wonderful position that we generally refer to as "69" for obvious reasons. It is the opportunity for both partners to apply their oral skills on one another simultaneously. Pretty cool, huh?
I can say that I even expanded this concept to a daisy chain once in a threesome with two wonderful ladies. And it was just as good, but there is this thing about 69, or the daisy chain, or this general idea.
The thing is, I find it hard to enjoy having my cock sucked when I'm focusing on eating pussy. And I find it hard to enjoy eating pussy when I'm focusing on having my cock sucked. You see the conundrum?
The best adaptation I've found to cope with this situation is to sort of agree to take turns. While you're sucking on me, I'll lay back until I feel the time is right to turn the tables. At that point, I'll start licking and fingering and generally working your side of things. When you feel like you've had enough for the moment, you can start sucking on me again and I'll lay back.
Happily, this works for a while. Inevitably it seems one of us will get caught up in the whole thing and it all gets carried away. I suppose that's just the natural way of saying, "Enough! Let's fuck now."
Beyond that, I really like this position. I like it when she's on top. I like it when I'm on top, I like it on our sides. Hell, when I was younger I was known to take a petite partner and sling her up so that we had a standing 69. I'm pretty sure those days are over for good, but now I'm interested in finding someone who likes oral and can work it with me.
How about you? Any thoughts on the finer points of oral sex?
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KRE revisited
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Posted:Apr 23, 2012 7:37 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2015 12:56 am
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Kneeling Rear-Entry (KRE), as I referred the position commonly known as "Doggy style" in my previous post, begs a revisit. There are a couple of considerations that some of my partners have not been aware of.
It seems women are generally aware of the idea that they have more freedom to use their hands on themselves in this position, and I've noticed that even women who are shy about touching themselves for whatever reason, are less inhibited about doing so in this position. Of course, I'm in favor of that. I'm also aware that the flexion (leg spreading) that generally goes on in this position is described as preferable by some women. From what I can gather, it helps women constrict muscles shunting blood to the genitals making them more engorged and sensitive, or something. Any of you ladies would be doing us all a favor by addressing that idea. Please do chime in.
What my partners are often not aware of -- and this is not unique to this position as I often encourage partners to change the angle of my cock during oral sex -- is that KRE allows me to alter the angle of my penis to my body. Here's the thing: by altering the angle of my erect cock so that it points more down relative to my body, more restriction is placed on the vessels and erectile tissue near the root of cock. That, in turn, helps force more blood into the erectile tissue and helps seal it there so that my erection is firmer and more sensitive in a good way.
Now in some men, especially younger men, that downward angle may be very small. I remember a time when I had trouble with this position because my erections were simply too firm. Ah, those were the days.
At any rate, KRE allows me to better control my angle of entry. It also allows more freedom of movement and muscle control of my ass and thighs. There are plenty of other reasons to enjoy this position, but I wanted to mention the whole angle of the dangle specifically.
Any questions?
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Honesty is such a simple word
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Posted:Apr 21, 2012 1:52 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2012 5:55 pm
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Flirting is fun. No doubt about it. In some ways, it’s even better when there’s no chance she’s going to slap your face, throw a drink in it, or have her burly boyfriend punch it. Of course, if it’s done right, none of those things will happen, but everybody makes mistakes now and then.
Flirting on NoStrings is fun too, but I’m noticing some things I’m curious about. First of all, I seem to be getting a lot of attention from attractive young women from all over the place. Now, this is fine. I have expressed admiration for women and couples with profiles that struck me as particularly attractive or interesting. But deep down, there is the nagging suspicion that some of these members may not be who they say they are.
Shocking I know -- the very idea that people will misrepresent themselves on a site like NoStrings. Now, I don’t really want to say too much about that. Folks are perfectly free to sign on to NoStrings for a free ride and pretend to be whomever they may choose. Some of these members are likely having relationships anonymously that they find perfectly satisfying. Who am I to judge?
Well, I’m a real guy who is not nearly as anonymous. Hell, you can see nudie pics of me on my profile! I’m out there! I’m trying to meet somebody and have some actual fun. My only beef here is that I’d just as soon you not waste my time. If you aren’t interested in getting to know me at all, please just say so. If you want a relationship limited to you knowing more about me than I will ever know about you, just say so and let me make a considered decision about what I will do. Is anybody out there with me? Call me naive, but if you’re going to remain completely anonymous, then what have you got to lose by telling me the truth?
Beyond that, there are members here who, for some reason I can not fathom, will not fill out their profile. These are members who by all measures seem genuinely interested in meeting someone to play with. Given that they are expressing an intention to actually meet someone, why not answer all the interesting questions that make this whole thing work? This site is well-known as a place where people can seek adult sexual relationships of all kinds. Why would you not take the 15 minutes to complete at least the most relevant questions within the first week or two of setting up the profile? I just don’t get it.
I’m assuming that the explanation for this comes back to the explanation for virtually all human behavior -- these members are getting what they want out of this experience without actually investing in it. It’s possible they may just want access to the content that others are posting here. I have to say, as amateur porn goes, NoStrings is kicking roof off the place. There are some members posting hot images and video here, my profile notwithstanding. I appreciate the hot stuff of others, but as much as I enjoy their stuff, I’d much rather be a part of it I suppose.
So, as much fun as flirting is, I have a genuine desire to take a chance and meet somebody here. All the shilly-shallying and inauthenticity here is frustrating. I realize that not everybody is here to actually meet somebody, have actual sex, or find their way into a gratifying lifestyle. And I realize that by being stuck here in Smalltown, USA I’m not doing myself any favors, but for my time money and effort, I’d appreciate the honesty. That doesn’t mean we can’t get to know each other, it just lets me know what to expect.
Do you share my frustration? How do you handle this kind of thing?
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