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Descending Into Afterglow  

Markster 62M  
20 posts
5/5/2012 2:30 pm
Descending Into Afterglow

A funny thing happens on the way to the afterglow. It’s probably not any kind of secret to the ladies out there, but something changes in the male brain chemistry (could look it up now, but are you REALLY interested in that level of detail?) immediately after orgasm. Stereotypically, this is “kicking the old sleep switch.” Now, there are plenty of theories about why this happens, and much has been learned about the neurochemistry of how it works, but for the purposes of this plea for attention, those things aren’t really important.

I will be satisfied with the idea that men tend to fall asleep after sex because their partner does not turn into a pizza. It’s not an original idea, but it’s true. What I really want to talk about is a deeper emotional issue that I personally experience. After I pop, I start to come down from the heights of ecstatic release into a kind of dark pit. I am not just sleepy, I am overcome with a sense of isolation and nihilism that is short-lived, but intense.

After an intense orgasm, I tend to not want to be. I mean I don’t want to be with my partner; I don’t want to be in that bed, in that room, or on the face of the planet. Now, this feeling only lasts for about, I don’t know, maybe 30 seconds, but it’s real and it’s intense. Of course, it does not interfere with cuddle time as long as it’s peaceful and quiet. I just need a little time to recover my wits.

And it didn’t always happen like that. I remember when I was much younger, an orgasm was merely a brief interruption in the festivities. I would pop my load, blink about six times, catch my breath and bet right back at it. Ah, those were truly the days....

But as time wore on, the orgasm became a much more emotionally charged thing and recovery time became necessary. At this point, recovery time is frankly a bitch. More on that in another post down the road.

I’m interested in hearing how other guys experience this and has it changed over time? And what kind of things do women experience in all this?

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