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Musings and Meanderings
 
Musing, meandering, observation, outrage, venting, and commentary.
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Advice for Ladies (FSM)
Posted:Apr 14, 2019 2:36 pm
Last Updated:May 4, 2019 10:55 am
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First, I'm not presuming to tell any of you how to behave, either online or off, especially here; I have been on two other 'regular' dating sites for a few weeks now, and have noticed some things -- which may not apply a whole lot to NoStrings subscribers, but whatever. I have to blog it, and can't do it on those other sites, so...

Ladies, if you're serious about finding a man, then:

1) HAVE A PIC! And not of your dog, a sunset, or a rainbow. Seriously, guys don't care about that sh1t before they get to SEE YOU! 04/05/19 EDIT: VERY risky having a pic with your much hotter friend, unless you are clearly identified.
2) HAVE A PROFILE! In other words, "I'll fill this out later", "Just ask", or "BLAH BLAH BLAH" will only get the shallow ones and slimeballs who only care about your looks -- but see #1.
3) SEE #2, and FILL IT OUT! Again, those only looking for a hookup or to cyber or perv over your pix will not care, but serious guys will. If the latter don't see much in common other than thinking you're hot (but see #1), you may or may not attract the ones you want (likely not, as I'm assuming you don't want the shallow ones only attracted to your looks, though it's your choice).
4) ANSWER YOUR RESPONSES! Unless they're from a$$holes who only message, "Hay baby i wan 2 fuck u!", then feel free to block the creep without reply. Otherwise a polite, "Thank you for your message, but I don't feel an attraction [or insert other answer, such as 'too hairy'; kidding, try to be polite, yes?]". Is it not simple courtesy that you would expect in return?

#4 is optional, but the rest...

Happy hunting (fishing... whatever.)

J
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Advice for Ladies (FSM) Pt 2
Posted:Apr 18, 2019 4:04 pm
Last Updated:May 4, 2019 10:23 am
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Some more tips (from an admitted 'o*d [stop editing out 'o*d', NoStrings!] man' not necessarily up [seriously; you're going to remove U-P?] on the times). I also freely admit most of the following could equally apply to men's profiles.

1) DO NOT HAVE "LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH" anywhere in your profile! Seriously, ladies, it's trite, and half of you are using it (well, maybe not that many, but still...).
2) DO NOT ALLOW RESPONSES OF "ASK M* ANYTHING"! I can only imagine what you might be asked, but perhaps more importantly, you ne*d to put a little thought into this, as most of you would expect of men; and see next point.
3) DO NOT USE "TELL YOU/FILL THIS IN LATER"! This -- and the next couple of points -- were mentioned in #2 above, but behoove some detail. Again, it says to me, 'lazy', 'scatterbrained', and/or 'doesn't know herself well enough'. Wait to post until you have something to say to me.
4) AVOID "PREFER NOT TO SAY" or similar answers, or at least minimise their use; as others -- including women -- have pointed out: What are you hiding?
5) AVOID GENERALISATIONS such as "I like everything", or "Too much to list"! WTF? You can't think of ANYTHING you like? See #3 & 4.
6) FOR FUCK SAKE, LEARN ENGLISH (or whatever your native language)! 'Nuff said.
7) AVOID LIKING "KISSES" AND "CUDDLES"! Of course you do, and we do too -- but we're not going to admit it.
P*Y! All right, this is not an absolute, but it tells you're serious, instead of awaiting first contact by limited means; and see next point.
9) REACH AND TOUCH (so to speak) SOMEONE! Again, seriously, ladies, it's nearly 2020; you are allowed to make first contact (but I'd rather you didn't make it if you're going to say to me something like, "Please don't contact me. Ever! Not even in my next life.")

Thanx for reading!

J
EDIT: To be fair, see Emails and Profiles of Men Seeking -
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Forbidden Words
Posted:May 4, 2019 10:20 am
Last Updated:May 5, 2019 11:03 am
1526 Views

Can anyone explain to me why the S-P-E-L-L-E-D O-U-T words in my posts are continually stripped?

This is excruciatingly painful, NoStrings; much of my stuff is rendered unintelligible until I manage to fix it sometime after you f*ck it up, and then it's awkward as hell to read.

Please explain!

J
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Advice for All (Addendum to Ladies)
Posted:May 3, 2019 1:53 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2019 2:06 pm
1785 Views

I feel the need to reach o*t [WTF? Why is O-U-T not allowed?] to everyone on this site as well, but although it pretty much applies to all, I especially would like to advise ladies in order to avoid or least minimise unwanted contacts -- since they get the most.

Given [EYE-EM] and communication on this site is [hopefully I will save NoStrings deleting my comment], users should:

1) FILL IN YOUR PROFILES - Be as specific as you can; although 'attraction' is relative -- one person's 'lightly salted' is another's brine -- rule O-U-T/in whatever you can, including sexual preferences, body hair, age range, proportions... whatever. Personally, I hesitate to dismiss (almost) anything, since I AM [WTF, NoStrings? I AM not referring to EYE-EM here!] trying to be open-minded and broaden my interests. Plus, putting down a cut-off age, for example, of a certain A-G-E is, well, just a N-U-M-B-E-R; you may miss someone very compatible even one Y-E-A-R outside your 'preference'. And lots of people L-O-O-K/act Y-O-U-N-G-E-R/older than their chronological age. Similarly, body hair is transient... But to each their own.
2) BE CONSISTENT - I don't know how many profiles I've seen T-H-A-T say different or confusing things between "Interested in", "Status", and "Profile". For Example "Men, Women...", and elsewhere they rule O-U-T men, or say something like, "Seeking compatible couples", or Gender et al. are Xed -- or not -- on the Compatibility Chart.
3) ANSWER MESSAGES -- One more time, unless a clear violation of your conditions -- but see above -- since contact is spotty even among friends, not answering may very well signal only T-H-A-T you may not have received it; so can you blame someone for trying again and again? A polite "not interested" goes a long way, instead of nothing... nothing... nothing... and then suddenly "stop messaging me".
4) EXPECT A MESSAGE IF YOU REPEATEDLY CHECK ME AND DON'T MSG - What am I supposed to think?

SOAPBOX: I think it's unreasonable to be annoyed at 'unwanted' contact if one has failed to do these simple things.

Thanx for reading!

J
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Female Ejaculation (a.k.a. Squirting)
Posted:Apr 24, 2019 5:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2019 1:29 pm
1606 Views

It seems to me that there is still a serious dearth of research and definitive medical opinion as to whether or not the phenomenon of squirting (I prefer that term; ejaculation is so... clinical) is 'real'; how many women actually experience it; and what, exactly, it is (assuming it's real). We also need to reduce the stigma and confusion still attached to new discoverers of this marvel.

I'm therefore proposing an official study to look closely at the subject(s) and determine answers to these difficult, important questions.

For a conclusive study, I estimate a minimum sample size of 500 female 'squirter' volunteers will be required, of all ages (min. 18 ), sizes, etc., as well as perhaps 100 others willing to be clinical observers -- 'squirtees', if you will -- who will be required to stimulate the former to repeated orgasm and take meticulous notes on the results: distance, amount, feel, look, taste, and so on.

This could be a very useful study for the purposes of a masters or even doctorate degree in medicine, psychology, or sexual health.

Applicants for all positions, including applicable theses, should comment and/or contact me directly, describing their credentials, the position for which they are applying, and availability. Pictures demonstrating your abilities will put you at the top of the list.

Get your application in soon, as vacancies are liable to fill up quickly!



J
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323953.php
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21995650
https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/544c5686-e3bc-4ac2-b4ca-f91eccefe441
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Candy's Dandy...
Posted:Apr 4, 2019 11:22 am
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2019 12:38 pm
1971 Views

but sex won't rot your teeth.

My first week or so on this site has been a bit of a downer. So many fakes/scammers (what, did you really think that stunner less than half your age from South Africa actually likes you?).

I was lucky enough to find one 'for real' couple, and a very nice lady, who are apparently real -- though I've yet to meet anyone IRL. The latter gave me some tips on my profile and pix (silly me, thinking it was like a 'regular' dating site, where face pix are more important than dick pix!). And the couple emailed stories of their adventures have sharpened my appetite to experience some for myself -- with them and/or others... who knows?

Still, I don't even know if doing things 'right'; too much info in profile; should I 'Friend' ppl before I msg them, or only after we've exchanged an or two; does everyone get IMs, or only certain members...? Oh well.... learn, & learn some more, and don't take it too seriously -- or too personally.

l8r!

J
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