Can't figure out why I'm popular with guys...
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Posted:Mar 26, 2019 7:11 am
Last Updated:Mar 31, 2019 11:01 am
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Baffles the crap out of me. I get more homosexual men liking my photos, sending me dick picts, asking via IM if they could suck my dick, than I get women even talking to me here.
Look, don't get me wrong, I do not hate homosexual men or them being thirsty over me. It's just not me. I'm not attracted to men in the slightest. But for some reason, I get at least 2 or 3 IM's from guys asking to suck my dick. I mean, if they took the time to read my profile, they would see that I'm not attracted to me. But I just don't get why they are attracted to me. I appreciate the compliments though. I'm at least secure in my sexuality to take a compliment for what it is. However, it's a little annoying. I wonder if this is what women have to deal with...thirsty men constantly sending them messages all of the time. If this is what it's like with them, no wonder they get upset and terse with men for being too pushy.
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Mom did not go through chemo yesterday. Her cell count was at 82. To give you a base line, if it's at 50 or lower, you get admitted into the hospital for her low T-cell count. So what happened is they gave her such a huge dose the first time that they had to hold back and not give her a chemo dose this week and will postpone her chemo until next week, where they hope her T-cell count rises. So this week, plenty of rest, food, and relaxation for her so she can build her immune system up.
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I did get a message from a woman today, 2 of them actually. One of them is an actual blogger here. She rejected me because she recognized that I was an older poster here. Now I'm not sure, but she said she remembered me from when I was married and I think she thinks that I am still married. I've been divorced since 2008. Regardless, she rejected me, and I'm not going to push it with her. If she didn't want to hang out/get to know each other better, that's ok. I'd rather not be that guy to be that pushy or get upset about being rejected. There are other people out there, and while no one likes to be rejected, I'd rather move on. I will say however, I still wanted to be her friend, because she is a fellow blogger, and I've always liked to talk to other fellow bloggers here. Strictly to get their opinion on things and discuss stuff. It's kind of like a kinship if you will, getting to know other bloggers here and talk to them about their thoughts and be able to spill my guts out to you folk.
I blog when I can because it helps me stay sane really. I don't have many friends in real life. Not that I want to be alone. But after I got divorced, I lost a lot of friends because they were my ex-wife's friends. So for me, blogging and talking to others helps me when I'm lonely and cope with the loneliness. Don't get me wrong, have a couple of people I call friends, but I think I can count the people I talk to as friends on one hand, and I choose the people I call my friends carefully.
I almost forgot! There was another person that messaged me today. I sent her a reply back to get to know more about her. Her profile seemed short, so I sent her a message to say hello. Of course when she replied back, she said she lived in North Carolina. Yet her profile said she lives in Illinois, only 9 miles away from where I live. Ummmm, yeah, that's not going to work out. *sigh* I don't know why people do that here. Why try to do that when you live in an entirely 4-5 states away? I might be a bit thirsty, but not thirsty enough to drive 700 miles away to just meet someone. I know there is water where I live thank you very much! LOL!
Well, at least I'm popular with the guys. (slaps forehead, not the little head)
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Not so good as gold
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Posted:Mar 24, 2019 1:36 pm
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2019 10:34 am
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Yesterday I got contacted by someone who wanted contact me. I debated on it and decided take a chance, so...I got Gold status for the next couple of months see if I could talk her and see if maybe something would change here.
I broke down, purchased a 3 month subscription here, and messaged her back. After a while, she messaged me back and we talked for a bit. I then took the risk, gave her my number, and we talked last night over the phone. Afterwards, we discussed a possible meet up today and I went to bed last night.
Today I called her because she hadn't called me back.
"Hello?" I said?
"Who is this?" she replied. She had no idea who I was...I tried to explain myself, but she told me she had to call me back. So she hung up.
Two minutes later, she called me back again. "Do I know you?" she said.
"Ummm, we talked last night. I'm J, from NoStrings?"
"Oh yeah! Why do you always sound so happy over the phone?" she said in a bit of a demeaning tone. Which got me to thinking, if she didn't even remember me, or care to remember that she agreed to meet up the next day, I don't think this was going to work out. So I made the decision to cancel the meet and go on our separate ways.
"Well, about that...I just wanted to call you in person, as I think a text would not have been appropriate. I just wanted to say I just don't think that..." she wouldn't even let me finish, and said she didn't think we were going to be a good match. I agreed, and before I could finish what I was going to say again, she cut me off and said "Yeah well goodbye!" and hung up the phone.
Not to be rude, and if she's reading this, well, but I think she did me a favor. Regardless, I don't wish her any ill will. I think she said this because she was afraid for one thing. And for another thing, I think she really wasn't serious about even meeting in the first place.
Now, normally I would be upset over it. But the more I think about it, she did me a favor. I reached out to her. Talked to her. And while I think she tried to reject me, I didn't take it personal. I don't think it was a good match to begin with upon retrospection and reflection. But...I do think it was a good thing, because it helped me get out of my funk a bit. It allowed me to think, maybe I should get back into trying to find someone out there for me. So for now, I'm going to use this newly found gold status to reach out to others here and see if I truly can find someone to reach out to and see if I can find someone who is compatible for me.
Always try to find the sunny side of the street I guess.
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On a side note, my mom is doing ok for now. I know some of you had inquired about her, so I thought I'd give a status update on her. She's going in for her 2nd dose of chemo tomorrow. She's now going to be doing chemo every two weeks and then Nulasta to help her deal with the effects of the chemo. So far, she's been doing well, and the only side effect is that she's constantly cold at times. So while she's taking naps on the couch, we wrap her up in blankets and try to keep her warm.
Plus today, I spent some time with her watching some of her favorite black and white movies today. It was nice to spend some time with her today.
Well, now that I'm a Gold member again...I guess the search is on!
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Hanging in there like the kitty on that motivational poster
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Posted:Mar 13, 2019 11:54 am
Last Updated:Mar 16, 2019 7:22 pm
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Hello all and thanks for reading! I just wanted to give a current update on how I'm doing at the moment.
Right now, things are ok at the moment. I've been busy at work and for the most part I've been focused on my family and dealing with my mom's cancer. As of recently, she just had a port put in for her chemo, and she just had her first dose of it this week. She's ok at the moment, and I've been trying to spend more time with my mom in order to show I'm doing what I can to support and love her as best I can. Basically, as long as I focus on stuff from day to day, it makes it easier for me to deal with everything. But it's still fairly overwhelming, because I have a tendency to drift toward what will happen if this happens. It's basically my head likes to jump ahead and be a planner, and I have to sit back and realize I just have to let things happen in the natural order of things and just let things be as they are.
My are handling it well so far. My and made my mom a chemo gift bag, things she will need like lotion and lemon drops and life water bottles as well as a super warm socks to keep her feet warm, because the chemo can make the body extremities feel cold. As soon as my mom saw it, she immediately broke into tears, and I knew she loved it. I love my . My also for her pre-med class she's taking did a paper on how colon cancer effects the body and ways to combat it, and that's how she found all of the stuff that helps to help make her gift bag for my mom. I'm so blessed to have that thoughtful.
As for myself, all I've been doing is staying home and focusing on keeping the house clean, doing chores so my mom won't have to. The only problem was that my own room was a disaster area. I had laundry baskets of washed but unhung clothes, a layer of dust on my desk, dresser and TV, and my room was super dusty as I hadn't vacuumed my room up. The worst part...I admit it, I'm a guy...it smelled. Like farts. I hadn't washed my bedding in a while so the odor was trapped inside of the sheets and bedding. As of yesterday, I spent some time doing some cleaning in my room, putting away clothes in the baskets, stuff like that to help clean up my own room. Of course, my mom saw it, and pretended to have a fake heart attack, as sarcasm. *sigh*
But it did feel good to clean up my own place. (and yes, I live with my folks, I pay rent to help out, because they need the help) You don't think of it, but when you do clean your own space/room, the cleaner it is, you feel a sense of order and it does relax you somewhat. I still need to do more cleaning in my room and I think if I have time this weekend, I'll be doing my bedding and wash to get the odor out of my room. I can't wait until warmer weather when I can open a window so I can air it out. Nothing better than fresh spring air in the house! But I'm looking forward to when I can get things a little more orderly so I can relax and try to relive some of my stress.
Anyway, I also been recently going through the dating apps on my phone more. I really haven't talked to anyone however. I'm debating on if I want to actually do a paid dating app to seriously start looking for someone. It seems the free dating apps, people are just not serious into dating. I wish it was the case, but I'm not sure what else I can do. I'm getting to a point where sex would be great, but honestly, I know I'm past that. I'd rather find someone to actually develop a relationship with, not just for sex. Sex would be nice though... sometimes I think a light breeze could blow in and I could get stiff from that. I think that's how horny I can get sometimes. And masturbation doesn't cut it at times. But for now, I'd definitely would rather find something more of a relationship meaningful than just sex.
The main thing is I'm forcing myself to make sure that I'm motivated to hang in there, just like that kitty on that branch in that motivational poster. I will get better. And I have to stay positive that things will get better. I won't admit to defeat. I don't want to sit there and say "Woe is me". I don't have time for it. Besides, no one wants to hear me complain anyways.
Well that's all I have for now. If you are reading this, thanks for stopping by. Peace!
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The passage of time
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Posted:Feb 9, 2019 6:53 pm
Last Updated:Mar 31, 2019 5:07 pm
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One of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with happened last week. I do not even know how to go about saying this, so I'm just going to say it.
This past Monday, my mom got in new test results. She has stage 4 lymphatic and colon cancer. It's inoperable and...it is terminal. At best, she might have little more than a year left to live. It might be more depending on if the chemo treatments can curb the growth of the cancer. And it's possible to use a new technique called laser proton therapy which targets the cancer directly to help slow down the cancer, giving her more time. But in the end, she will die of cancer.
Originally I got the call from my dad in the middle of the day, when he told me over the phone. He asked me to pretend that when my mom told me to act surprised. However, when he told me, it felt like someone hit me in the gut with a large brick. After I got off the phone with him, one of the blessing of my work is I work alone in a data center. I found a corner of the data center that was the most private, and I cried and I sobbed in pain.
Even today, I still have part of me that doesn't want to accept it, although I know it's true, but I still do not want to accept it as true. Right now, I'm trying my hardest to stay strong about it. The worst part the next day having to tell my ex-wife that she would have to break the news to the that their grandmother is dying from cancer. While they took it well, when I saw them yesterday, I could see it on their faces, the sadness they had. It was like someone ripped away a tiny part of their souls.
Right now, my mom is happy and for the moment, not in pain. But I have seen a person die from cancer. It is not pleasant. They scream in agony because the pain is unbearable. How does one cope and deal with something like that? I had to shut it out when I saw my grandfather just before he died. It's not something you forget.
The worst thing...is not having a friend to talk to about it. I really cannot talk to anyone. I don't have friends I can count on to talk to so I can deal with the feelings I have regarding it. Part of me still has trouble wrapping my mind around it. No one wants to see their parents die. No one. But it is a fact of life. My grandparents died. My parents will die. And I someday will die. We all will. When you are young, you think nothing will touch you. You are invincible. As you get older, you see the finality of things. Sure you put it out of your mind, but it's there.
I love my folks. They mean the world to me. To see them go, it scares me and most of all, it hurts to know one of your parents are going to die and their time is soon. It's not that soon right now, but it is coming. Some nights I'm ok, some nights I feel my whole life is on hold and I can't move forward. But I know I have no choice. Life does not go on hold. You cannot hit the pause button. Life changes. And death...is a part of that change. Like it or not, that's the truth of it.
I wish I had the answer to it all.
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Going to be 49 soon...
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Posted:Jan 21, 2019 12:50 pm
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2019 6:54 pm
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On the 25th, I'll be 49 .
Man, it seems like time flies by so damn fast! I can't even fathom where the time goes, it just slips by like sands through the hourglass...like days of our....ummm, yeah. So I watched soap operas. No wonder I love professional wrestling.
Update on my mom, her cancer doctor fucked up all of her paperwork, and at first they denied her going back for a follow up CT scan to make sure the cancer was cleared out of her body. Wasted time. But she has it straightened out now, and this Thursday she'll go back for her CT scan to make sure that all of the cancer has been removed out of her body. I hope it's ok.
This Friday, I took the day off for my birthday. not sure what exactly I want to do, but sleeping in for a bit sounds wonderful. I hope I can also get my for Friday evening so I can take them and my mom and dad to dinner for my birthday to someplace really nice. I think that would be awesome, just being able to spend time with my and my mom and dad.
Some fair news, I scheduled a doctor's appointment to start to have him check me out thoroughly. Most people would be, ugh, gotta see the doctor. Me? actually happy. Because it means doing something about my health issues and it's the start of me trying to get better. I go in to see him this week on Wednesday. I hope he can figure out what's wrong with me.
Other than that...I've been working like crazy. Last week I pulled in a 60-hour work week. So taking that day off on Friday will be nice. The only thing...I just wish I had a girlfriend to celebrate it with. So far, 2019 is my year to recover. To get my finances in order, my health in order, and God permitting, to find a woman to be in a solid relationship with and get my life fully on track. I think things are slowly getting better. The holidays have passed, my SAD is gone, and now...it's time to grab life by the balls and tell him this is my year bitch! LOL!
Thanks for reading! Peace!
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Ok, well some good news finally hit my way...
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Posted:Dec 26, 2018 5:47 am
Last Updated:Dec 31, 2018 7:56 pm
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Well, my mom is back from the hospital. We brought her home Christmas day in the afternoon. So it was a great Christmas gift for me to have my mom back in her house. All in all the surgery went well and they believe they removed all of the cancer from her at this time, so I am pleased and happy she is home safe and sound after 5 days of waiting.
Of course, that is the good news. The bad news? I'm exhausted. Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually...I am just plain tired!
I had 4 days off from Saturday to Tuesday, and to be honest, I did more work at home than I did while I was at work!
11 loads of laundry
cooked my dad meals every day
cleaned the house from top to bottom, getting all of the rooms done
late minute Christmas shopping and trips to the grocery store
washing dishes
taking out garbage
PLUS I had to rewire some internet cables from my router downstairs to my upstairs bedroom!
In short, I'm actually glad I'm at work because with it being quiet, I might be able to get a nap in at work and relax! LOL!
Also, by the way, my last post got reworded somehow. It kept adding in TO into everything and reposting it all over the place. I don't know if I got hacked or if NoStrings fucked up my post on purpose.
Well, with everything hopefully returning to some semblance of normal...sort of...maybe I can start to relax a bit, god willing.
Peace unto you and I hope you had a Merry Christmas!
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HAD SEX WITH 50 WOMEN THIS WEEKEND!
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Posted:Dec 10, 2018 9:47 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2018 6:49 pm
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Sucker.
Got you with the tremendously fake headline. LOL!
Yeah, no...I did not have sex this weekend. But I got you pervs to check this out just the same. Do you feel cheated? Meh...
Update on my mom, today she goes to get her CT scan to have her checked out for her colon/intestinal cancer issue...I hope it's small. But I'll know later how it is.
I had to help work on repairing our dryer this weekend. I'm pretty handy with tools and youtube videos, so I just watched those and figured it out. The motor went, so I replaced it and got the dryer working again, and saved a bunch of money doing it, which helped my folks. And it dries our clothes even faster than before! The fun thing is I wash my mom's comforter in the wash and dried it up, and then afterwards as my mom was laying on the chaise section of the couch, I took the freshly hot comforter, and laid it on her and she turned into a cozy mouse, and snuggled into the warm comforter and fell asleep for a solid hour. She used to do that to us when we were laying on the couch, and we'd wrap ourselves up like giant burritos, sucking up the warm heat on a cold winter's day and we wouldn't move off of that couch all morning. You had to get a crowbar to pry us off that couch because it was too cozy. I miss those days.
I spent some well needed time with my this weekend. Man seeing them really helped recharge my batteries. I wish I could see them more, but that's how life is when you are a divorced man and the live with their mom. Plus I'll be able to get some time to bring them to my folks house this coming weekend so they can see their grandma and grandpa, which should brighten their spirits.
Plus, watched the Bears last night and that defense dominate the Rams! What a game that was! Plus watching the Bears, their level of play is so infectious with the level of trick plays they do, it's amazing!
Were you really disappointed that I didn't have sex with 50 women this weekend?
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Why I haven't been on in a while...
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Posted:Dec 7, 2018 7:30 am
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 9:20 am
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Well, I said I was going to post more stuff, but unfortunately, real life strikes again.
On the good news front...
Work has been all encompassing, and it took a turn for the better. In November, my boss informed me that a position had opened up in the books for an employee spot, and they were able to bring me on into the company as a full time employee. And that means, full benefits, better , vacation/sick days, and things are going to be a lot better for me. So while that's good news...why I not excited about it?
Well, I , but recently I got some terrible news from our family.
My mom has colon-intestinal cancer. This now makes it the third time she's had cancer in her life. That hit me like a brick in the face. To make matters worse, she's going to be having the surgery around Christmas time and will most likely be in the hospital during Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.
I had to tell my sisters the news. Out of me 3 sisters, two of them took it hard and were to do whatever they could to help. However, one of my sisters, I'll be honest, I have no clue what the fuck is going on in her head. Its like she almost couldn't be bothered with the news and it seemed she didn't care. It was like she's completely disconnected. It made me so mad, it infuriated me. I swear I have no clue what the fuck is going on in her head.
The worst though was telling my and my ex-wife. My completely lost it and started to cry on the phone and my ran from the room in tears. What's worse was to tell them that our normal family Christmas party would be cancelled and the look forward to it every single year. Not for the presents, but it allows them to have some freedom and relax and enjoy the holidays, because my ex-wife's side of the family are, to put it bluntly a bit odd and some of them are emotionally disconnected. Like my sister.
Needless to say, things have gone and flipped upside down in my house. My dad has been taking my mom to doctor appointments and tests so that they can evaluate my mom's cancer. She goes in for a CT scan next week to determine how bad the cancer really is. So far they only found a small polyp in her large intestine/colon area and they hope its been contained. But I honestly do not know how bad it is, and we won't know fully until she has the CT scan.
To make matters worse, my health is not so great either. I've dealt with an ever increasing progressive pain in my joints, and I think developing arthritis. On a pain level from 1 to 10, with 10 being crippling pain, on a constant 3-4 level all of the time. hoping I will get my medical cards soon from my work insurance. But for right now, until they come, I can't go to the doctor just yet.
Finally my SAD/Seasonal Affective Disorder is just starting to ramp up. Its been difficult to deal with, but I try to stem it off by staying in highly lit areas (bright light helps deal with the disorder), taking baths, and getting plenty of sleep.
In short, its going to be a really crappy Christmas season. While some things have been good, a lot has really hit home. doing what I can to stay strong. But really, I could honestly use someone to give me a great big hug right now. I feel like I've been putting on a front for my whole family, trying to stay strong for all of them, when I feel like the one falling apart.
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You can't always get what you want...
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Posted:Oct 17, 2018 9:59 am
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2018 7:12 am
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Great song by the Stones. And appropriately, sort of how my life is going at the moment.
It's ok, I'm not really complaining about it. I know that no matter how real life issues get in the way of things, I just have to have some patience and deal with it. It's mainly work getting in the way of me wanting to push forward and get back on track, but I know that sometimes, it takes time before things develop into where you want them to be and where things are REALLY are at the moment.
It's been six months since I've started my new job as a contractor for another company. And things are going well, but, they haven't hired me yet. I did just recently have a good discussion with my manager, and they informed me that they do not have an open position yet to bring me into the company full time. The department that I'm working in doesn't have an available position in the company as of yet, but they said that could change sometime possibly by next year.
Contractors sort of get the short end of the stick. Yes, we get money. But the benefits working as a contractor really suck. Shitty health care, no days off, no 401k or bonuses. So I was hoping that my company would have hired me by now.
However, they didn't say that they were not going to hire me. It's just that they don't have the available position to hire me at the moment. So I just have to hold on and wait a while longer. And the nice thing is that they did say that they were pleased with how I am working right now. So it's an indicator that they are planning on hiring me full time, but they can't at the moment due to there not being an open position at the moment.
For me, I just have to be patient.
Patience however isn't my strong suit. It's something I'm learning to deal with on a daily basis.
Same thing with my love life. I want to have a relationship with someone, but finding that person who is right for me...well that's frustrating because I'm not finding anyone. It's like the song from Wreckless Eric "Whole Wide World". Maybe my girl does live in Tahiti. And yes, Cage the Elephant covered this song. I know my music!
But again, I just have to be patient. I know eventually I will find someone. But it's not on "MY TIME" it's on "God's time". And yes, I know for some of you who don't believe in God, I get it, I'm not trying to force my ideals on you. It's just what I believe. I know God's got a plan for me. What it is, I don't know, and what he has in store for me either.
I just have to have a bit of faith that things will work out and when it happens, it happens.
So you can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you get what you need. So for now, I'll be patient, be aware, and hope things will get better.
Peace, and thanks for reading.
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I'm amazed at the easy money I made from this place...
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Posted:Oct 1, 2018 1:07 pm
Last Updated:Oct 3, 2018 11:50 am
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Ok, I normally try to be helpful with people here, so if you haven't been tipped on this...this is something you need to know.
TOP CLASS ACTION
If you do a search for this, you will come across this website. This is something you ABSOLUTELY need to sign up for so you can get the newsletter. Normally every couple of weeks to a month, the website sends out a newsletter to your email address. Now I know you're saying "Fuck why do I need another email newsletter? I get a ton of spam in my email box for my personal email already!" Trust me on this one, you're going to want this email to hit your personal email.
Every couple of weeks, they send out a list of all of the top class action lawsuits that come out. Stuff you normally buy. Basic stuff. Like items for food. Or you bought a TV. Or a computer. Or a new car a while back? Well if there is a top class action lawsuit that is related to the stuff you normally already use, like your credit card company that you use over charges you on over draft fees, or a bank or whatever you use, if that company is being sued in a class action lawsuit, you can get money back for certain items you use.
For example, I bought a Monster HDMI cable from Best Buy. They drastically overcharged me on the cable, even though the cable was advertised as being a superior product because of the gold plating on the cable. I paid 49.95 for the cable at Best Buy. Monster got sued in a class action for falsely representation of the cable being faster when it wasn't. I then put my name in for the law suit, and after a couple of months...I got a check for 10 bucks in the mail. The lawyers took out their fees and I got 10 bucks back in the mail. Now, you're thinking...eh, 10 bucks is nothing right?
Today I got a check in the mail for 140 bucks for purchasing a Carrier air conditioner because of a class action lawsuit from over 10 years ago. I just put my name in, and 3 months later....140 bucks back in my pocket because Carrier screwed up and overcharged me.
I've signed up for this a couple of years ago. So far...I've made over 1000 bucks back from companies who've overcharged me for products. Or companies who misrepresented their products to perform stuff they were supposed to do something and didn't do.
Recently, I got back 80 bucks from another company in which they drastically overcharged me on for a TV due to price-fixing with other companies, creating an unfair trade market.
In short, it does add up. So I wanted to share the love on this that you too could check this out and get some money back. You might find something that you bought that you use on a daily basis in which you could get some money back on. And on a side note....I'm not getting paid for this...I just thought I'd pass it along so you too might be able to get some money back as well.
Peace!
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Can an average guy find a relationship without buying a membership here?
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Posted:Oct 1, 2018 12:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2019 12:36 pm
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So for quite some time now, I've tried being a paying member here (with little success) and being a non-paying member here (with no success). Of course, that was back in the day when if you were a blogger here, bloggers got more attention and were able to communicate via their blogs to talk to people.
Today, the site has made that virtually impossible. I hate to say it, but unless you are a male model or look like one, if you are a normal average guy, it's nearly impossible to find someone here.
Of course, as I've gotten older, my taste has changed from "hooking up" or a FWB situation to actually actively trying to find a solid relationship here. And yes, I know, it is possible to do it. I've seen others here do it. But it's like needle in a haystack type odds.
So is it possible? Yes. But it's hard to do and it's not easy on this site. Let's face it, some guys here just make it harder with an attitude like they are god's gift to women and that women should be subservient to their whims and needs. Now if you are a sub, that's all well and good, but most women are not subs. And let me say there is nothing wrong with being a sub. If that's you're cup of tea, awesome. But finding a woman like that is difficult in today's society.
So what can you do? How do you find a good woman on here? It's possible. And here are some tips that I've been told that can help:
-Remove the dick picts.
First and foremost, if you got a dick pic on your profile, and you are trying to find a relationship on here, chances are, you won't find one. Having a dick pic on your profile is like saying "Hey, I'm here for sex and that's it." Now yes, this is a site for hookups. I'm not denying that. But if you are looking for a relationship, and you have a dick pic on your profile, 9 times out of 10, a woman that is looking for a serious relationship will pass your profile over without reading it as they will not care what you posted. So dick pics....you'll need to get rid of those.
-What does your profile say about you?
So the dick pics are gone, but still no luck finding a relationship? Check what you have in your profile guys. Having a poorly worded profile or nothing on there...it's not going to help at all. Also, spelling errors are a major turn off for women. Yes....women can read. And it's statistically been proven that women get sexually turned on more by engaging their brains. When compared with pictures two average guys, the person with a well-read, well thought out profile, with no spelling mistakes, excellent grammar (knowing the difference between YOUR and YOU'RE), shows their intelligence. And most women love big brains. So double check and triple check that profile for errors in spelling and grammar.
-What you say matters!
This is related to #2 above, but you have checked for spelling and grammatical errors, but what you also say about yourself matters too. If you are post you are DTF (down to fuck), you're only going to get women that care about hooking up. If you post that you are open towards looking for a serious relationship and are looking for a woman that can match your intelligence and thoughtfulness, you are going to find that your quality of woman is going to change as well. Yes, every guy likes to fuck. As does every woman. But, if you are diving into the water, do you just jump headfirst not checking that the water is shallow thus risking injury, or do you ease yourself into the water first, and then dive in later? The smart person takes their time. Besides, you don't want to risk finding the wrong woman later and wasting your precious time, having to dump that person to find someone else causing problems for you when she gets mad at you and keys your car up because you broke her heart because she's not the right person for you. Think about what you want from this site, because if you want to hook up, there are plenty of people for that. If you want a relationship here, you have to put in the work and effort to find that gold instead of running across some pyrite.
-BE YOURSELF!
This is probably the most important thing I can tell anyone here. Never pretend to be someone you are not, nor do it for a woman you want to attract in order to draw her in. It's wrong on so many levels. Besides...don't you want someone to love you for who YOU ARE? Of course! Everyone does. Being yourself is important. Me? I love comic book movies, and Japanese Anime, and computer games and reading books. Are there some woman that are going to be turned off by that? Yep, absolutely. But for some woman that are going to be turned off by that, there will be others that do like that. Does it limit you a bit in finding the right person? A bit, but you want to find a person that is attracted to you for who you are. Why? Because if they share your interests in the things you like, then it allows you to draw more upon that person to share your interests. And that does mean both ways for people.
By being yourself, it allows you to know that if a person likes you for who you are, they will be willing to stick around because they like what you like. And you don't have to like everything about a person and be the same, but by being yourself, it allows the other person to determine what type of person you are, and whether or not they could allow themselves to be attracted to you and determine what type of character you have.
-Be OPEN to new things!
If you are open to trying new things, it allows you to keep an open mind about others. I used to hate sushi. I never tired it, but I thought it was a prissy, preppy urbanite looking food that rich people would eat and brag about eating. And then I had a female that I dated a long time ago that forced me to try it on a date one time. I thought it would suck. But I allowed myself to keep an open mind and give this a shot.
It was like eating a slice of heaven. I tried 6 different types of sushi that night. And it blew my date away that I was open enough to try new things. Which greatly turned her on, and we were supposed to go to a movie later, but she dragged me back to her place and promptly fucked my brains out that entire night. It didn't work out eventually between us due to she was a die-hard Republican and I'm a more independent political guy, but it was a fun night.
The point being though is allow yourself to be open to new things. By doing that, you could discover the love of your life. Or at least, delicious food. Or that you like watching Japanese Anime. Or fishing. Or a ton of other new things. And most importantly, it allows you to open your horizons to new thinking and new ideas and concepts, which broadens your horizons to new and wonderful things in this world.
I'm sure there is more ideas I can post here. And I'd love to hear what you think. What do you think can help find a relationship here? Any ideas or thoughts you have on this? Post them here! I'd love to hear them!
Peace!
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