MEN!!! Help give your advice to the ladies!
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Posted:May 1, 2019 6:44 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2019 8:07 am
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OK so YESTERDAY....I posted a blog post in which I asked the ladies to post their advice to us men. The #1 one thing they said was to keep the dick pictures away on your profile as they didn't want to see them until much, much, later. So if you have a dick picture in your profile, take it and put it in a private folder for later viewing and AFTER she asks for one.
So....now the ladies had their turn to offer us advice, I think turnabout is fair . What I need now is for the guys to offer their views on what the ladies need to do with their profiles. For example...I'll just throw one out there as a hypothetical bit of advice...
Having a decent camera to take photographs! I've seen some photographs on here and some of you ladies are taking crappy photographs of yourself with 1 or 2 megapixel cameras, which look so grainy and shitty, when featured here, they look like crap. I understand cameras are expensive. I get it. But if you want to take a good photograph of yourself, it's time to upgrade your cellphone or camera and take some better photographs of yourself!
Ok now 's been said, MEN...lay it on them. Whether it's being truthful, taking up to date photographs instead of ones have been taken - years ago, or any advice for this site here or any dating site, post your advice for the ladies here! I want to here it all. If you think women should reply to emails, advice to better improve the ladies chances of meeting guys...any advice you think it pertinent, post it here!
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We men need Advice from the LADIES...
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Posted:Apr 30, 2019 8:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2019 11:39 am
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Ok...so here's what I'm going to do. Since many guys here are basically clueless as to how to better improve their odds to meet a woman, whether it be here or on an online dating site I want every woman sees this to give their advice on what can better improve their odds to meet a woman here.
Ladies, if someone posts something here, and you agree with it, mention it again. For example, if a woman says.....hmmmmm, let me pick something obvious...like she doesn't want to see a dick picture in your main body of photos, and you agree with it, mention it again! This way the more mentions, the more we can establish seeing a dick picture here in the main body of photos is a BAD IDEA. Mention as much as you want to advise us in your comments, the more the merrier!
way we can hear what you ladies want from us men. On a side note...tomorrow, I'll be posting the same thing, just in reverse and I will ask the men what advice they want to give the women so they can increase their odds of meeting a man.
Now, the advice could be for meeting here, or on a dating website like Tinder or Bumble or other dating websites.
Ok...let's hear it! POST AWAY!
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Monday's musings...
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Posted:Apr 29, 2019 7:03 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2019 8:19 am
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Well I thought at least my would want to see Avengers: Endgame with me. But didn't happen as his uncles bought tickets to take him on Saturday to go see the movie. So I said the hell with it, and went by myself and I while I was lucky to get a seat for Friday, I sat next to a 6 year old, while her father was on the phone with someone half way thru the movie. Which ruined it for me. Which means I'll have to go and see it again. I dunno, maybe it was I'm too much of a comic book nerd, but I thought the movie wasn't good. I know everyone else was like it was awesome, but I was like meh.
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Mom is getting dose #4 of chemo today. I hope it won't be bad for her.
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I just got messaged by someone this morning contacting me here asking if I could be her partner for something. I was like "Huh?" And then I looked at her profile, and she had a couple's profile. So I messaged her back and said, "did you split with your boyfriend?"
Then she messaged me and said, give me your email and I'll explain everything as she has a group gets together regularly. I then messaged her back, and said no, but if you would like to meet up tonight after I get off of work, we could talk and discuss it.
She then replied back, and completely ignored my last post and said Just email me here and I'll explain everything.
I then told her NO, you completely ignored my last post we should get together and talk first, and repeated my question if she wanted to get together tonight, yes or no. She hasn't replied back. I'm tempted to report profile for solicitation because she asked for my email. Once again, attempted scam, but I stuck my ground. I guess I have Heathen G to thank for , because he actually gave me solid advice on how to deal with these scammers. If you are going to want to be with someone, instead of asking to talk to them first, you ask to set up an immediate meet same day if possible at a neutral place, like a Starbucks or someplace else. If they avoid the question, then they are not for real and are most likely a scammer. Oh the person might say, "Hey I can't meet tonight, how about tomorrow instead could be considered as acceptable. But if they start to provide excuses or if they ignore your offer, then most likely they are scammers.
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Well I wish I had something more exciting happened this weekend. I stayed home, did laundry, cooked for my folks, and watched a bunch of Netflix. I will say the one film I enjoyed the most this weekend...if you have Netflix...watch Hardcore Harry. It's a bit queasy because it's shot in 1st person, and while the protagonist in the movie doesn't talk, its a great movie with lots of blood, gore, violence and action in the movie. And it has Sharto Copely in the movie which plays some funny stuff in the movie, and while it's confusing at first, if you stick with the whole film, it's actually quite good. Definitely a guy film however, with lots of blood and gore, so I don't know how the ladies are going to like it.
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Ok 's all I have for today folks. Thanks for reading!
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Great, guess someone was butthurt over my last post?
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Posted:Apr 26, 2019 12:28 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2019 6:23 am
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OK I don't know how this happened, but either the site or someone here got butthurt over my last blogpost, then got it removed. In fact I think that's what's been happening with some of my blogposts, because they have been reporting my some of my blogs, and they have been disappearing. Why? I don't know.
, if you have a problem with directly, post it here and hash it here like an adult. Don't be a douchebag and report my posts to get them removed, especially when there's nothing wrong with them to report.
If you got an issue with , tell directly, and discuss it like a normal human being, instead of being a jerk and trying to delete my posts.
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What a difference 24 hours make...
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Posted:Apr 26, 2019 6:45 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2019 12:29 pm
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Well I had a talk with my over the phone yesterday, and I we discussed her not wanting to go on vacation with dad. She said it had nothing to do with not wanting to be with me for the couple of days. Its the fact that this summer is going to be so busy for her, that with everything going on, she wouldn't have the time to get away for those days. Trust me, she does have a lot going on her table this summer.
After talking to her and she telling me how busy she was, I explained that I felt that we were losing connection between us because she's so busy. However we did agree to work on days where I could take a day off during the weekdays instead of the weekend and that we could go other places or take a day trip somewhere and come back later in the evening. And I think after talking to her, I felt a lot better and the stress was off of me last night somewhat.
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Update on my mom: She had her 3rd chemo treatment last week, and this time, it hit her hard. I'm not sure if they hit her with a really strong dose, but she was having major issues this week. She could hardly move around and was constantly in pain throughout the week. During Easter, she hardly moved off of the couch. And my sisters had to see how badly she was doing this Sunday. Of course, they only see her for a couple of hours. I have to see her constantly everyday, and it wears on me a lot. I had to ask one of my sisters if she could maybe come over and give me a break on one of the weekend and help out around the house, and she said that she would work to get all of my sisters over here for Mother's day weekend and help clean up the house and plant some flowers for mom's garden. My mom does love her garden and she loves to spend time outdoors in the summer, because she says it's the only time she's not cold and her bones ache. But she's hanging in there.
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I've been waiting this weekend for a while now. Avengers: Endgame is out today. I'm planning on taking my this weekend if I can get lucky enough to grab some tickets. I don't know if I will be able to because they said many theaters are sold out. But I'll give it my best shot. I don't want to disappoint my ! LOL! But so looking forward to seeing this movie. I hope it's good.
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I got a weird message from someone on Twitter asking if I could be their . I replied back "Ummm...ok?" and then asked them what they want. He said attention and loyalty. I then replied back I'm not quite following here, what exactly you are talking about. That's where it's been left so far. Weird....
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That's all I have for today. I'll keep ya posted on the weirdness in my life as usual as long as you guys keep coming back for more. Thanks for reading!
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The point when you know your don't want to be with you anymore
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Posted:Apr 25, 2019 7:49 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2019 11:04 am
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Yesterday was a bit of a hard day for me.
Now I have a secure job, I wanted to do something really nice for my and I wanted to take them on vacation someplace nice, because due to my divorce, I've had financial difficulties throughout my life. At this point, my bills are slowly disappearing and getting paid down. I've been able to take a 9 thousand dollar debt to owing back support down to around 00 dollars owed. It's taken me over 2 years to do . In short, I'm becoming financially solvent. It's still not easy. I still have a ways to go before I'm back in the black instead of in the red. But the light is now at the end of the tunnel and soon I will be basking in sunshine.
However...
I called my ex to ask if I could take the somewhere nice for a couple of days in the summer so I could plan it out and they could enjoy themselves.
My ex hemmed and hawed a bit, and finally told me my oldest didn't want to go on vacation with me. She now has a part time job, she's planning on going to a summer softball league, plans to go to her first away college trip to take a pre-med course for study this summer in July, and...recently I found out she has a boyfriend.
In short, she doesn't want to go with dad on a small 3 day mini vacation.
I've always touted here we need to be honest, and I try to strive to do . But yesterday I lied to my ex when I said it was ok and 's fine. Part of me is ok. If she doesn't want to be around me, then there is . However, when I said I was ok, I wasn't. It hurt.
I guess there is a point in every mother and father's life when a doesn't want to be with their parents, and they want to do their own thing. It's a part of life. It's a part of growing up and becoming an adult. But man, did this suck. I wasn't prepared for it. Oh I knew it was going to happen. But I ignored it. I tried to call my yesterday to see how she felt about it, but she didn't even answer the phone, the one I'm paying for her so she can talk to dad. But it's always me calling her, and she never calls me anymore.
I get it. grow up. As she's getting older, she's busy with softball at school, school work, work at her part time job, her friends. But it would have been nice for me to be able to have a couple of days with her so we could reconnect.
I know there will be more times where the two of us will be able to talk. But it still hurts a bit she doesn't want to be with her dad anymore.
I still love her and I always will. But it still hurts.
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What is a MAN?
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Posted:Apr 19, 2019 8:23 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2019 10:27 am
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Recently I had someone on Twitter I follow as a female who like wrestling, she posted how she was supposed to meet up on Tinder with another guy at a bar. The guy failed to even show up, so she was mad as hell about it. I don't blame her either. But then she was so mad, that she posted this...
"Men are trash."
So I replied back to her, "No men are not trash."
And she replied back that the fact that I was offended by her post meant that I was trash and that my post directly applied to me that I was one of the people she posted about.
TO which I replied back "If you don't know what the definition of a man, or men, truly is, you have some learning to do." I then told her I understood why she posted that men are trash, but it wasn't correct to say that, because by saying that, she's insulting men.
Of course, she didn't get it at all, and still was mad as fuck. Which I understand. When you are upset, anger has a tendency to blind you from the truth and keeps you from comprehending anything, so I left it alone.
Ladies, please allow me to help you understand this:
MEN ARE NOT TRASH.
MALES ARE TRASH, but not a man, or men in particular.
A MALE is someone who someone who hasn't grown up and thinks women are their playthings. That they are there to have women service them for their own needs. A male is someone who has no manners and they were not raised properly by other males. In short, a male is a toxic individual who make other MEN look bad.
A MAN, or their plural, MEN, is someone that thinks of women as their equal. They treat women with respect, kindness, thoughtfulness, and they have manners. A man will share their emotions with another woman and they were raised properly by other men and women to treat women with dignity, just as they expect to be treated with dignity themselves. In short, a man is not a person that breeds toxicity and make other MEN look like they should.
That's the difference. The problem is because there is still toxic males out there, it makes the rest of men look bad and thus, women look at all men as bad. And that's simply not the case.
We men understand it's not been easy for women. Generations of toxic males have been bred, and we're learning to treat each others with respect and dignity. It's not easy. At the same time, some feminists think that men with manners are there to suppress them and make them look weak if we protect other women, or treat them with respect, and manners, by opening the door for them or coming to their defense when other men treat them with disrespect. That is not the case. Men look at people as human beings equally. We do not tolerate other people attacking other people, because we want to treat others with dignity and respect. Thus some feminists who go overboard and attack men for being nice to them, or coming to their defense. Men understand that women are strong too, we know this. But we were raised not to see women disrespected. We would not want our mothers and our sisters, or our daughters disrespected, so we want to come to the defense of other women as well. Men protect the abused, the downtrodden, to keep others from being bullied. It effects us that some people like to pray on others to make themselves feel better, so we want to stand up for others.
MALES will not understand this. Feminists might, but they will still look upon a man as a MALE, and think he doesn't understand what it's like to be a woman. And while that might be partially correct, that does not mean we cannot empathize with all women and want to help them. We don't want to suppress women! We want to help them!
I think that there are many here who do understand it. But some won't. Some...never will. And it's the job of a man to educate others so that maybe one day, there will never be another toxic male out there. It might take generations to breed it out of males before we can start to treat others with equality.
Remember, a couple of generations ago, racism was rampant. Now I'm not saying racism is gone. It's far from it. But today, racism is looked down upon by the MAJORITY of people today. We've grown from what used to as racism as normal to it not being tolerated by today's society. Toxicity in males is just being talked about now. It make take 2 or 3 generations to get to a new society to where it becomes the normal to where toxic males will be frowned upon in society as well.
We are at a wonderful age right now. It's an age of education. More and more people are growing to become a better society today. And the older forces will resist as much as possible. But when our grandchildren grow up, things will be a lot better than they are now. But for now, we need to learn that things like racism and toxic men are no longer wanted nor are they tolerated anymore. It won't be easy, but I do have hope for the future things will be better than they are now.
It's up to the true men in society to do their best to help make that one day become a reality.
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What a crazy day yesterday!
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Posted:Apr 15, 2019 7:00 am
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2019 1:22 pm
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Yesterday I woke up and I was planning to do some laundry and cleanup of the house yesterday. I don't know why, but for some reason I got up early (at least for a Sunday early) and I started to hear what I thought was the pitter-patter of feet on top of the roof our house, in which I thought the squirrels were being rambunctious. I got my laundry and started to head downstairs. Instead I saw this as I looked out the top window of our living room:
Isn't this supposed to be spring???
I worked downstairs, tossed my laundry in to the wash, and then began breakfast, making some bacon and eggs for myself and my folks. While I was doing that, I decided to also make some lunch as well, and I whipped up some chicken noodle soup for my folks in the crock pot for lunch. By the time breakfast was done, I tossed in a second load of laundry, and then started to tackle the outside snow. I cleared off the walk, which was a slushy heavy wet snow, and then got inside in time for lunch. The chicken noodle soup did wonders to warm me up. After lunch, I got the all of the clothes dried, folded and put away. I was still cold, so I went for another small bowl of chicken soup. And then...my energy ran out. I was so tired and exhausted, I couldn't stay awake. So I thought I would lay down for a quick minute nap at 3:30 PM. That turned into a 2 hour nap. I got up at 5:30PM, well past time for me to make any dinner. So I got into the car, drove to a local rib joint that I know has some killer baby-back ribs, and got me and my folks 3 half slabs of ribs (a full slab of ribs is overkill, it's like 3-4 pounds of ribs) for the 3 of us. Delicious.
After that, I still had to clean up the rest of the house, vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms, and by the time I was done with that, I had missed the Game of Thrones premier and it was 9:30PM. I had just enough time to shower and shave, and then I passed out.
Today I got up super early to make breakfast, clean off my mom and dad's car for snow, as today is chemo day for my mom for her 3rd dose. I hope it goes well. To be honest, I like to go to work because I can actually get a break in at work as opposed to home, dealing with taking care of both myself and my folks. It gives me a chance to rest a bit here. The good news this week is I only have to work 4 days this week and I'm off for Good Friday. So hopefully this will be a quiet week this week. Plus Easter is this Sunday, so I hope it will be a quiet one this year as well. With my mom's cancer, is giving this Easter an odd one, because I don't know if this year could be her last one. I know family holidays can be stressful for some people. But make sure you take the time to show your family love. You never know if it could be their last one. Thanks for reading!
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