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Posted:Sep 24, 2018 7:26 am
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Sorry...wish I had more to say, but it's been nothing much except work, seeing my , and taking care of business and bills.
Nothing interesting on the dating front. But what was cool was my mom and dad celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary this weekend. It was really cool because we planned a special surprise party for them this weekend. We almost had my whole family there, but my had to work that day and couldn't trade days with anyone to take the day off. I will admit, I was a bit bummed about that, but she's growing up now, and she's trying to be responsible which is good.
Regardless, my mom and dad were blown away by the party, and youngest sister made a video collage of all of the pictures we had over the years, which blew my mind. Just seeing the memories of everything as I was younger, the memories just washed over me like a flood, the tears of happiness and everything that happened this weekend, seeing my mom and dad happy like that, it nearly floored me.
What was cool was having my see these pictures and he could see my family like this was really special. Of course, by the end of Saturday night, I was so exhausted emotionally. I felt like I went through an emotional rollercoaster day, and toward the end of the day, I was physically exhausted. It's been a while since I felt like that. And it wasn't a sad day of emotions either. It was a joyous outpouring of emotions. I mean, it was a really good weekend. Plus seeing the Bears win on Sunday and going to 1st place in the NFC this week? Even better!
The only thing that scares me is when things are going good, I know I shouldn't be focusing on it, but...I'm just waiting for the next bad thing to happen. I'm starting to get stable in my life, work is going well, new car, my folks celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary...life is good at the moment. Maybe this is God giving me a break for now. I know I sure could need it, and I hope it stays that way for quite some time.
Thanks for reading...peace!
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Little steps forward...
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Posted:Aug 9, 2018 9:54 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2018 6:50 am
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Well, since I was last on here, I've been focused on work a lot. Plus, with the fact that a contract worker, I don't get days off. Well I get days off, but they are not paid days off that is, but still working. I can count that as a plus.
The bad news was that my car wasn't cutting it anymore. I would drive it to work, and anytime I got over 65 mph (yes I know the speed limit is 55, but when you have been raised on watching Speed Racer cartoons as a , I have a bit of a leadfoot. still a safe driver though...) my car steering wheel would start a bad vibration. I could tell my near 10 car wasn't going to cut it anymore. That plus adding 125,590 miles on it. And to get the car fixed...new brakes, new tires, new exhaust, new shocks, new belts for the engine, plus doing a engine tune up...that would have cost 5 grand or more, and the car per the blue book value on it was from 700 to 1500 dollars. So being as the repairs were going to be more than triple the value of the actual car's worth...the writing was plain to see on the wall. It was time to get a new car.
So I applied for a car loan, and I got turned down by one place right off the bat. Yes, my credit history isn't that great, as I've had credit problems in the past. So I called my credit union, and luckily I was approved for a car loan. The interest wasn't that bad either. So I did my research, and decided on the Hyundai Tucson. Luckily after doing my research, I found that summer is a great time to buy a new car because the dealerships are trying to push out this 's cars to gear up for next 's model of cars to make room. And that put in a great buying position.
So I hit my local dealer up, and after some prime negotiating (my mama didn't raise me as a fool, you never sticker price...you haggle with those sales people!) I got a brand new black 2018 Hyundai Tucson. And it wasn't a base model either, this puppy was fully loaded, for a steal. I managed to knock it down 6k for the asking price and scored a great deal on the vehicle! YAY! 
And man is it a great vehicle! Thing rides like a dream....SMOOOOOOOTH...and it's exactly what I wanted. This love it as well. My has been begging to drive it, and my doesn't have to sit in the middle seat with him manspreading all over the back seat. They love it. So another item for the win column for .
Finally, I had a nice sit down talk with my boss and after talking to him, he informed me that after my 6 month anniversary working with them (right now I've got 4 1/2 months working for them) that they are going to sit me down and see if they can hire me on with the company working for full time! Even more awesome news! I just have to keep busting my butt at work, but I think in another two months, by the end of October, I hopefully will be able to get in with this company full time. Which means full time benefits with the company. Which means paid days off. Holiday . Full coverage. Stock bonuses, pension plan, and other goodies.
So on a personal front, things are slowly getting better. And on a career front, if I can hold on to doing good work, I think things will improve as well.
The only front I can't seem to get going is a decent love life. Plus I kind of feel that at 48, I feel like my clock is ticking. I know you women say your biological clock ticks, but when we guys get into our 40's, and you are single without a love life...it feels...empty. And I don't want to feel like that. Yes, I know, every person has their own unique plan in life that God sets out in front of them. And yes, I would like to find someone to settle down with and be happy with that person. And please...don't get me wrong, I happy. I do feel my life is getting better every day. But without someone to share it with...it's not the same. You know what I mean?
Well, that's all I got for now. Thanks for reading. Peace!
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Been busy as a beaver...
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Posted:Jul 17, 2018 12:14 pm
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It's been an interesting few months.
I know I haven't posted in a while, but since I last posted, I recently got hired working as a contractor for a major company right now, and since then, it's been non-stop work. Which is good, but my normal life has been curtailed a bit, so I've been focusing on nothing but work and my .
On a good front, I'm playing catch-up with my bills. I wish I was making more money, but something is better than nothing. Also, the people I'm working for have been exceptionally impressed with my work, so I can't complain. So much so, that I figure if I keep up the good work, I'm hoping that they will end up hiring me as a permanent full time employee rather than me being a contractor.
The only downside is that I haven't had a day off since I started in late March. But it's solid work, with opportunity for OT, and I can't complain about that.
In family life, now that I'm getting a regular paycheck, the ex isn't on my backside about paying the bills as much. And I've been able to knock down back payments to her regarding the and used the extra cash I've been making to help get them the clothes they need for summer and for school next year. Which is cool.
The nice thing is that my don't seem stressed anymore about dad being out of work, and I think that's the most important thing. As long as this work holds out, I think I'll be good, and the cool thing for work is that I could be working here for a solid year and still not run out of work to do. In short, work keeps coming, and I can keep paying my bills down and keep my happy.
Personal life however...well, trying to find someone has been highly difficult. Dating websites have been rough. I keep getting people to where I like them on the site, then they match up with me, and then when I type a nice, polite message to say hello and introduce myself, I get no reply back. It's like the women freeze up and they don't know how to handle a man saying hello. It's ridiculous.
So for now, all I've been doing is trying to focus on myself and if something happens, cool, but I'm not pushing for anything to happen. Anyways...I'm back posting, at least for now. Hopefully I'll get a sense of normality soon, whatever that is I guess. My life hasn't been normal in a long time. The worst is being alone. I can handle work life, but being alone...man it stinks. I hope one day I can find someone. Until then, I guess it's back to work.
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Still kicking in 2018...
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Posted:Jan 9, 2018 10:03 pm
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2018 9:24 pm
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Well, I haven't posted too much as I decided to take a break from posting. I wish I had exciting news to share, but so far, it's been the same as the past couple of weeks. The job search has stalled out, and while I have put in a couple of applications for jobs online and outside searching for work, no has ed me back. It's a bit frustrating, but I have to keep plugging forward as much as I can and keep the search going in hopes SOMETHING will happen soon.
I had a semi-eventful week last week as my car battery died out and I had to get a replacement to get the car back up and running. As the car is nearly 9 old now, I'm getting a bit worried on how much longer it can last before something major goes on the car. But as long as it's running, I'm ok for now I guess.
I finally got to see my last weekend just after new , and it was nice to see them. We went to go to my niece's golden birthday party, and while it was fairly boring being at a 6 year old's birthday party, I did enjoy spending time with my . Plus I was able to have some quality time with the and I think the had a good time. The food was good, we ed some party games, and all in all, I think it was a good time.
I wish I had more to say, like I won the lottery or something awesome, but really, not much good has happened. However, other than dealing with the car battery, not much bad has happened either. It's been quiet. And I wish something good would happen soon, like getting a new job, but for now, it's been dull and boring. The worst has been me being cooped up in the house for days now, and I winter boredom has set in. I hope something good happens soon.
Ok, that's all I got for now. Hopefully soon I'll have something good to report. Thanks for reading, and I hope your 2018 has started out better than mine.
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Glad to say good bye to 2017.
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Posted:Dec 26, 2017 11:31 pm
Last Updated:Dec 28, 2017 5:17 pm
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Well, this really hasn't been my best year. Out of this year, I've struggled a lot. I was unemployed for 7 of the 12 months, and so far, while I've put in some applications for jobs, not much has panned out yet, with a couple of phone interviews and no callbacks.
Add to it, dealing with Trump as our President, well...needless to say, dark times are ahead, because it will take the next president to undo the damage that has been done, as all he's done is effectively been an ineffectual President, alienated and divided many within our country.
And I haven't found a good woman to try and settle down with.
But...out of the 5 months I was employed, I was able to get caught up on some of my bills. And I am alive, I have my health, I have my and they are fine, my mom and dad, and with my family, I have been blessed to be safe and warm, living with my folks. So while its not the ideal situation, I've been able to weather the year as best as possible.
So I can at least say good bye to 2017, and I can only pray that 2018 will allow me to find a better job that is permanent, focus on continuing to fix my financial situation, and work toward better things in life. I will say that no matter how bad things get, sure they can get worse, but, I just have to hold on to hope that 2018 will be a much better year.
And that's the real thing I think I want to convey with this post. The message of hope. No matter how bad things get, you have to keep plugging away. Keep hope alive that someday things will get better. That tomorrow truly is a brighter day. And sure, things may be difficult for some of us, as long as you hold onto that hope, it allows us to keep alive for another day, for tomorrow is promised to no one.
Even for people that have it good and read this and say "So what? Life's good for me. Why should I care?" There are a couple of reasons for that. You never know when your good fortune can go to bad. You also need to realize that when life can change in the blink of an eye, you need to keep fighting, for life is hard and it can be difficult for others. And most importantly...when you see others suffering, like the people in Texas, or Florida, or in Puerto Rico, who are still recovering and suffering from the massive hurricanes this year, there is always someone who might have it worse off than yourself, and you need to try to have compassion for your fellow man or woman who might be suffering. Whether it's the loss of a loved one, financial hardships, dealing with life can be highly difficult for some people. It's up to us to retain the compassion for others who are suffering, who are hurting, and reach out to do what we can to help them out. Even though I was going through financial hardships, I still donated what I could to the hurricane victims this year, even though I didn't have the money to spare, I still spared it for them.
Finally, it's the hope that keeps us alive for new beginnings of next year. So this year, I am especially looking forward to making 2018 a much better year. Not only for my family, but to find a good woman, and to hopefully be able to make things better for myself.
So I propose a toast....to 2018. May 2018 be the year in which we can all rise above the problems, troubles and afflictions we suffered, and become wiser and stronger, yet more compassionate and be able to work together in peace for a better world!
Cheers!
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A white christmas for me!
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Posted:Dec 24, 2017 9:01 pm
Last Updated:Dec 26, 2017 1:03 am
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Well, when I woke up today, I kind of got a shock, as instead of just a frosting of snow, we got socked with about 3 or 4 inches of snow. And can I say, how cool it was to get snow on Christmas Eve day? Oh sure, I had to shovel it. But it still was cool to see. If there is one time I want to see snow, it's on Christmas Eve and/or Christmas Day. So needless to say, it really brightened my mood to see a white Christmas.
For the folks down in the south, if you have never seen a white Christmas, I don't know what to tell you. But it is really a sight to see. Plus it's not that melted black snow on the streets. But it was a solid wonderful white.
After I was done, we did a bit of food shopping because we saw the weather that next week might be a huge wallop of snow coming our way starting on Wednesday and going all the way until early Sunday morning, which by the end of it, we could see possibly 20 inches or more of snow on the ground in my area. While I am not looking forward to that, it should be a wild event.
This weekend was a bit crazy, and while my ex-wife tried to make things a bit more hectic and stressed on me, I did get a chance to see my for Friday night and I took them to see The Last Jedi in the movie theaters, thanks to my sister and her early Christmas gift. I was really fun to see, and watching it with my was incredible. I thought it was really good, however, some people had said in the internet that the movie wasn't that good. I do not want to spoil it for anyone who hasn't seen it yet, but I still thought it was a really good movie. And the loved it, so that's what counts I guess.
Unfortunately, if the snow does get crazy next week, I might miss seeing my for the New Year's weekend. And as much as I would like to get out, with the bad weather coming this week, I might be stuck indoors not getting a chance to see them. But I hope it won't be bad so I can at least get a chance to see them next week.
Other than that, Christmas is tomorrow. I don't expect to get anything really for Christmas, seeing as we already had an early Christmas party with the family. So I think tomorrow will be a fairly laid back holiday. The only thing that will be nice is that we're having a large turkey breast tomorrow, and man, do I love turkey! The nice thing is that I helped my dad pick out two awesome lamps for the my mom, to help redecorate the downstairs. I hope she'll like them as they were expensive, and I helped chip in with my dad to get them.
Well that's all I have except for one more thing. I hope and pray that you have a wonderful Christmas tomorrow. And even for the people who do not celebrate it, I hope you've had a wonderful holiday season so far. My prayers are for that anyone who reads this that you have a blessed, happy, and most importantly as safe Christmas. Please make sure that if you are driving that you either have a designated driver or you practice moderation, or get a Uber or Lyft to take you home, or just stay the night on the couch at a friends, or even take a taxi home if you are too drunk. Finally, God bless us all...everyone.
Thanks for reading. Peace!
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Feeling a bit more relaxed...
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Posted:Dec 18, 2017 12:28 pm
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2017 8:39 pm
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Well, my family just had our annual holiday party early this year, because my brother in law has to work all this weekend. So in order to help him, we had our holiday party early. I will have to admit, I was nervous because I wanted it to go well. Plus we had a special one, in which we had a Chinese Christmas.
If you ever have seen the movie A Christmas Story, where at the end, the Bumpus' dogs eat the turkey for Christmas, and Ralphie's family goes to the Chinese food restaurant to eat? And they sing fa-wra-wra-wra-wraaaa, wraaa wraaaa wraaaa wraaaa....well, that's what we had. We ordered in Chinese food take out, with Beef and Broccoli, Lo Mein, Orange Chicken, fried rice, Crab Ragoons, Egg Rolls, Won Ton Soup....it was really fun! And for the , Chicken strips with fries. Actually it took a lot of stress off of me, because I didn't have to cook, neither did my folks, and it just made things a lot easier.
Afterwards we opened up Christmas presents for the , and while it was a bit stressful at first, once the party was over, the next day I began cleanup duty. I normally feel good after the party, because then all of the stress leaves. However, it took a full 24 hours, because I felt so stressed over everything being alright, I must have had a stress letdown.
For those of you who don't know what a stress letdown is...have you ever been in a highly stressful situation in which after the event is over and everything works out in the end, your body feels like it went 15 rounds with both Mike Tyson and Muhammad Ali in a heavy weight prizefight? Yeah, that's how I felt. What happens is your body relaxes, but in the process of relaxing, the brain shuts off the levels of dopamine in your body back to normal levels. But because your body is used to the high levels of dopamine, you actually...crash. You feel bad physically, mentally, and emotionally. It's basically a natural high that gets ripped away and your body then feels the stress, the pain, the soreness, the tiredness, and you feel bad for the first 24 hours after the event is over.
Well, today, I feel better. Yesterday I dealt with the crash, and today, I feel a bit better. I took a long hot bath, got plenty of rest, and today, I feel...balanced. Normal.
Add to it that today is day 30 of my no porn and masturbation period, and I just rubbed out two very intense orgasms. So...I feel much more relaxed! LOL! Needless to say, I feel like a human being today. And the stress of Christmas is off of me early so I don't have to worry about the holiday party this weekend, so this weekend, I'm going to relax and take it easy.
Anyway, now is crunch time folks for many of you. I know it will be stressful, so do your best to take that breather, relax with a cup of hot chocolate, take a hot bath, and do whatever you have to do in order to give yourselves a break. I know it won't be easy, but try to make a bit of time for yourself. If you have to, if the family holiday party makes things a bit stressed, do what I do, sneak away, find a part of the house to hide in, your own little corner, or even go outside for a breath of fresh air to breathe and cool off. I know sometimes family can make things crazy. Just do what you have to do to take a small break to make it easier on you to deal with your crazy sister, brother, or aunt or uncle, or family member who drives you batty. We don't get to choose our family, but they are family. Hang in there!
And don't forget to breathe!
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The holidays are here...so is the stress.
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Posted:Dec 14, 2017 5:15 pm
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So now that the holidays are here for some of us, and with Christmas rapidly approaching, I've been finding myself trying to deal with an increasing amount of stress. Along with trying to find work, when no is hiring at the moment, my family is having their annual early Christmas party this Saturday. It's a bit earlier than usual, but we do it in order to try and get every together in our family so that my sisters can get together with their families and spend Christmas by themselves, or others have to work on Christmas, like my brother-in-law. it's not easy, trying to get every together. Added to this, my mom has gotten increasingly agitated with the holiday party coming and she's getting stressed out because the house wasn't clean today. Yet I spent yesterday vacuuming, cleaning the bathrooms, taking out garbage, and wrapping gifts yesterday. And today I did laundry, cleaned the kitchen and mopped the kitchen floor, yet she was raising her voice at me because I had the floor cleaner and I was mopping the floor while she wanted the mop for the downstairs bathroom floor. I get it that she's stressed. But she's lately resorted to taking it out on me for not doing enough when I've been doing nothing but trying to clean up, pick up newspapers, clean up and try and get the house picked up so it's presentable for the party.
So...what to do? How have I been dealing with the stress? Not well. I still need to get more presents for my niece and nephew, bills tomorrow, make rice krispie treats tomorrow for the along with a pistachio Bundt cake for my (she loves pistachio Bundt cake,) finish the cleaning and get the rest of the house in order.
So my question is...how do YOU handle stress? What do you do to manage and deal with stress? Any ideas? I know things will be a bit easier once this party is over, but still, it's tough managing things. I want the party to go well, I want my to be happy, but this year has been really rough. Because I was unemployed since early November, I wasn't able to get a lot of things for the this Christmas. Plus I know I'm doing my best, but as much as I feel that I'm trying as hard as I can to do everything, I feel stretched out. So what do you think? What do you do to cope with stress?
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What my preferences are...
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Posted:Dec 10, 2017 5:46 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2017 9:56 am
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I was thinking about this and I thought I might like to share this with anyone that is running over my profile and blog, so it would make things easier for someone to see what I prefer in a woman.
1) While sex is great, and yeah, I'm game for mostly anything with woman, whether it be a one night stand/one time thing, a couple of times, a friend with benefits situation, or something where I can develop a relationship with someone and then become intimate with that person later on, I prefer a relationship over anything else. Could a one night stand or one time thing develop into a relationship? I'm not saying that couldn't happen, but odds are, it most likely will not. Which leads me to #2...
2) I prefer meeting ahead of time in a public neutral place for the both of us, so we can both be safe. I allows you and I both to feel relaxed. Whether it's at a bar getting a drink for you (sorry, I do not drink, but I'll grab a coke or a sprite or something like that), getting together for something to eat (I'm a gentleman, so my treat, since it's the first time meeting, but if you prefer to split it, I can go with that as well), or my favorite, grabbing a cup of coffee or hot chocolate at say a coffee place, we can then from there talk and get to know each other. Which leads me to #3...
3) Once we meet, I want to get to know you and in turn, you get to know me. Why? Sure, if you just want to meet and go "Ok, let's fuck.", yeah, that might be exciting, but how do I know what you like? If you've been tested for diseases? If you prefer anal sex versus oral sex or strictly penetration sex in your vagina? Or you have a special kink you want me to satisfy? See, I don't know that. And without me asking questions and getting to know you and what you want, what you are looking for exactly, I don't want to make the wrong move or cause you embarrassment, or most importantly, for you to waste your time and my time. Which is why when we meet, we'll need to talk for a while, feel each other out, see if there is an attraction for me as well as there is an attraction for you too. Because I don't want to be with someone that isn't attracted to me. There is nothing worse than having sex with someone that is not only not into it, but not attracted as well, and you end up laying there waiting for it to be over. It's definitely not fulfilling nor is it exciting when you are just going through the motions just trying to get off and you're not attracted to that person.
4) Once we get to know each other and discuss what we both want and are looking for from each other, and IF....IF we decide to get together sexually, I want to know what you like and don't like. So prepare for a lot of questions. And to be fair, ask me as well. Showing you want to get to know me is a turn on and that it means you care enough to know what I'm thinking as well.
5) Some heads up on what I do NOT like:
- very rough play, like inflicting severe pain on someone. Can I lightly spank you for the stimulation? Sure. When you want me to lay into you and smack the crap out of you across your ass, face, or body to strictly inflict pain? Absolutely not! So any sadomasochistic stuff is not cool with me.
- degrading you and/or me. I will not be participating in humiliating or degrading you in any way shape or form. Nor would I like to referred to as your bitch or calling me a piece of filth or trying to humiliate me in front of others or make me feel degraded. I would not do that to you, so I expect you not do that to me.
- There are certain kinks I probably would not be turned on to, like feet, being turned into a sissy, pretending I'm a baby and you taking care of me, being cut, or stuff like being pissed on or peeing on someone, things of that nature. I might be willing to explore something if discussed ahead of time, but just start doing something kinky without talking about it first beforehand.
6) With that said, here are some things I do like:
- Sometimes I receive more pleasure giving more than receiving. I love to go down on a woman and for myself, I won't stop until told not to. Plus, when you tell me how well I'm doing, it's a great boost of ego for me. Ladies, huge tip, we men have fragile egos. We might not show it, but if you say the wrong thing, it can greatly damage our ego and how we feel about you. So positive encouragement is greatly appreciated by myself.
- Now, just because I like to give, doesn't mean I like to receive. So I love oral as well. Also I love performing anal sex on you, if you are willing. There is something primal about performing anal sex on a woman, and while some woman don't like it, and I understand that, but the act of being inside a woman anally is almost primal in nature, and it's almost like a huge ego boost for myself. Having a woman allow me to fuck her ass, I can't describe the feeling, but it's huge.
- Now, my ass is exit only. Is that unfair? Hate to say it but yeah, it's unfair. But I will say this, I've tried a woman sticking a finger in my ass, and only ONE time was it done right. She rimmed me for a while stimulating my ass, all the while stroking my cock, and just when I was about to cum, she then put her pinky finger into my ass gently and wiggled it around, and I'll be damned if it I didn't have one of the most intense orgasms of my entire life. Of course, other times, I've had woman just jam a finger into my ass with no lubrication and expect me to be turned on by it. So just like you women like to be warmed up beforehand and turned on before any ass play happens, guys are the same way. You just can't go in cold. In short, I normally do not like ass play on myself. I just don't normally get turned on with stuff like that, and I know how it feels for me, 99 times out of 100, it does nothing for me. But if you know how to do it, it can be great.
- Most importantly...you have to engage my mind. This is not only just for sex. I'm talking about working to stimulate me when we are just alone together. Or being to where we are in a public place and you whisper in my ear "I can't wait to get you alone so I can fuck the shit out of you." Dirty talk is awesome.
- Also important, your actions are HUGELY important. If you say you are going to be at a certain place at 7PM, and you show up late, it shows me you don't care. Now, if you call me and say "Hey I'm so sorry, I'm going to be late, and I apologize, but the traffic is bad, and I can't wait to see you soon!" I'm ok with that. If you are constantly late, or do not bother calling at all, and forget and don't bother to show, that shows a lack of respect. I would not do that to you.
- I am very affectionate. I need an affectionate woman to match me. Holding hands, hugging, kissing in public, the occasional tickling once in a while (or a lot, I love a woman that is ticklish) is cool. I need and crave all of this, so I need a woman that can match that intensity as well.
- Finally, I am... a nerd. I've got a goofy and odd sense of humor. Would I love a woman that can be just as nerdy and goofy and like to make me laugh as much as I like to do the same for her? Absolutely! Someone that loves watching a Marvel superhero movie or a sci fi movie with me and be as almost as excited if not even more so when we go to the show together. Or watching the Walking Dead. Or Game of Thrones. Or Agents of SHIELD. Or maybe playing a video game or PC game together. Or playing a board or card game or just doing something the two of us love to enjoy, like going to a comic convention together. Doing nerdy stuff together makes it all the more enjoyable.
Well that's all I have for now. Thanks for reading.
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Sometimes, you win...other times, you stumble and fall.
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Posted:Dec 9, 2017 7:45 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2017 4:07 pm
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I was in the local chat room today. As I was there, I noticed someone I had been trying to talk to for a while now, and I couldn't get a chance to talk to her. So I took a risk, a gamble if you will, and asked her if she might want to get together sometime to hang out. I never asked her for sex, just to see if we could hang out so we could get to know each other.
She replied that she would not and that she did not reply to someone asking her in a public chat room to hang out. What happened next kind of took me back. Within moments, a couple of the guys within the room started to insult me, call me stupid for asking her out, and then they began to verbally attack me within the room.
Instead of lashing back, I took the high road from them attacking me. I replied back that "because I'm a standard member, and that I wanted to hang out with her, I thought I would take a gamble at asking her to hang out so I could get to know her. And I fully endorse and respect a woman's right to say no."
Of course some of the males in the room continued to ridicule me, but I will admit, not only did a couple of women in the room come to my defense, but the woman I asked out as well. She commended me for respecting her right to say no. And I in turn thanked her for her honesty that she told me no and was honest. And one of the guys said that I showed guts, because he said he couldn't have done that.
Was I right or wrong to ask her in a public situation? I don't fully know. I didn't want to or mean to embarrass her, and it's possible that I might have done that. So if this person is reading my blog, well, if that is how you felt, my apologies as that was not my intention. But still, I fully believe that if you don't try at all, you'll always miss 100% percent of the shots you take. You have to try, regardless of a loss of ego or pride or embarrassment.
So why share this? Why share my failure with you? I think I would want people to understand and realize that if you fear failure and only take the safe road, when it's convenient and easy, then of course, it will be safe and easy. But as my father always said "You have to risk it for the biscuit." Or in this case, the prize. What this means is, if you don't risk things in life, get out of your comfort zone, sure...you may fall. But when you fall, you learn to get back up, and keep getting back up again and again, so that sure you might still have fear, but you won't be afraid when the time comes to do what is right. And yeah, I've fallen a lot. But I know that when things get tough, and when you end up succeeding in the rough moments and win, that's when the victory is the sweetest.
So yeah. I failed. Yes, I've fallen. But I won't let fear rule my life, and I'll keep taking risks. And even if I fail, at least I tried. But I'm determined not to fail, no matter how many times I get knocked down. I will get back up, dust myself off, and keep trying no matter what.
So take your losses with dignity, for they only make you stronger. My favorite saying of all is from Friedrich Nietzsche...and it goes like this...
“That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.”
And so far, I'm still kicking and breathing. And I'm stronger because of it. Thanks for reading.
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Well that was a bit crazy...
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Posted:Dec 8, 2017 2:50 pm
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2017 5:51 pm
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Well it's been eventful to say the least. Yesterday, my folks were coming home from working at a local food pantry they normally go to when they came in and yelled for me to 911. Seems of the neighbor's houses down from us, their garbage can caught fire, it spread upwards and started to melt their vinyl siding along side their house and started to spread.
So I ed 911, and while that was happening, my dad rushed over and pounded on their door for them to get out of the house and tell them their house was on fire. Luckily it wasn't a huge fire at first, and they were able to get the fire under control with some buckets of water and turn on a hose outside and keep the fire contained to side of the house on the outside. By then, the fire department showed up in less than 5 minutes, and continued to spray down the side of the house to make sure nothing else was smoldering.
While the damage was fairly bad, it was kept to the outside walls of the house, and it didn't get far.
Today the insurance company was over there and they had already had out a contractor to them work on their house. Also we worked on a bag of cookies and goodies for their . Needless to say, my neighbors were thrilled and they were happy that the were not homeless for Christmas.
It's a ary thing, because according to statistics, it takes only 17 minutes for a house to fully catch fire to where it can fully engulf a house and spread. And had we not reacted so quickly, things would have been much worse.
So needless to say, yesterday and today has been eventful. People say things like, oh my life is a mess and things can't get much worse. But I couldn't imagine being homeless or losing my home. To me, I think it's God's way of saying to count your blessings. We have it good here in the US. Large homes, electricity, running water, heating in the winter and air conditioning in the summer, a wardrobe of clothes to wear...we take a lot of this for granted. But there are people without a home. No running water, no electricity, no heat or air conditioning, and have just the clothes on their backs, if at that. We don't take for granted that we are very lucky and that we have these things. And that, in an instant, it can all be taken away from us in a fire. Sure things can be worse. But it just reminds us that we must be grateful for the things we have now and that we need to count our blessings for what we have now. That we are alive, and that most importantly, we can make our lives better through hard work if given the opportunity to do so.
Right now, I'm unemployed. Yes it sucks. And yes, I would love to get back to work as soon as possible. But I am alive and I am lucky to be living with my family and that if I keep at it, things will be better. Sure things are not where I want them to be, and yes, things can always be worse. But if you don't stop to count your blessings for what you have now, and try to stay positive, you miss what is most important...and that is YOU ARE ALIVE. Celebrate your blessings people, and take the time to think about what you have now, not be focused in negativity about what you are missing.
Thanks as always for reading. God bless.
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A pet peeve of mine...
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Posted:Dec 6, 2017 8:36 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2017 5:36 pm
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Ok, if for some reason that I talk to you via IM here, and we continue to talk, and then all of a sudden, you stop talking and ghost me, and then refuse to talk to me afterwards...ok I can get the hint. You don't want to talk to me. But to not have the guts and say "Hey, I don't think we're going to get along here" or "Hey, I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling a connection" or "You know...I'm sorry, but I read your profile and I don't think we're right for each other," to me, that just shows me a lack of character on the woman's part.
I mean, I get that the men here can be ridiculous. And yes, a woman does not owe me an explanation. But to just up and disappear and stop speaking without any reason just shows a lack of character and a lack of a spine.
Have we become so afraid of any negative response that a person goes "Ewww, I don't want to tell him I'm not interested. SO....I'm just not going to reply back to him/her at all! That way I won't have to deal with it!" Have we become so scared of confrontation that we want to do everything to avoid it? I mean, have the guts to tell someone how you really feel, and more people would probably respect you for saying "I'm sorry, but I just don't feel we're compatible." And even still, I think people would appreciate it here instead of ghosting them or just up and disappearing completely, they would probably treat people better if more people were just upfront and honest instead of just pulling a dick move and disappearing.
What do you think? Do you do this to people where you just up and disappear on people? Or do you prefer to be upfront and honest with people and just tell them what you think? What are your thoughts on this?
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For ALL BLOG POSTERS...Warning needs to be posted for you to beware...
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Posted:Dec 5, 2017 11:13 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2017 4:17 pm
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Apparently, I was notified of this by another one of my blog watchers that there is a member that is purposely plagiarizing people's blog posts word for word. So I went to see, and sure enough, the guy took one of my posts and copied the entire thing...word for word.
Needless to say I was fairly pissed off about it. When the blog poster was confronted about this by one of my blog watchers, because he had copied one of her blogs as well, he blatantly said "I don't really care, I'm just doing it to get points earned so I can skirt around the issue and be able to view other people's profiles or view stuff here."
In short, he plagiarized/stole my post in order to get points. Both I and the other person he stole that person's blog posts have reported him to NoStrings, but needless to say, I don't know if there is anything that can be done about it. The guy is a grade A douchebag who lives in the UK and doesn't care about stealing other people's posts just so he can get points.
What sucks more is the fact that the asswipe doesn't even care about blatantly stealing other people's stuff. And because of the TOS, while I can report him, I cannot name the guy and publicly shame the guy for doing so, because that would be harassment. Which is bullshit.
So I hate to say it folks...for the blog posters out there, you're going to have to watch out because this guy is going around stealing people's posts and unless NoStrings does something about him, chances are, he may steal one of your posts as well.
To me, the worst thing you can do to a writer is steal someone's work. And I know some of you are like "Why even care? Him stealing your post is a form of flattery! You should be honored!" NO. You don't steal someone's hard earned work, and then claim it for your own and then say I did it. If that was the case, I could go to his work, take his paycheck and say "Hey you worked for it, but I'll take your pay since I'm a dick and I don't care." Ok I know that's not the greatest analogy, but stealing is wrong. You don't steal from others. Songwriters have to pay if they use a hook or lyric from another song. And I could see if you took some of the topic idea and then reworded it for your own, that might not be stealing. But to take a person's writings and use it, word for word? Gee, if I did that from J.R.R. Tolkien's books and instead of calling it The HOBBIT, and stole his entire book word for word and just titled it, "I'm stealing this blogpost because I need the points on NoStrings", how is that fair to me? Or to anyone else I steal from? It's not!
The point being, if you are going to use a particular topic from someone here, ask permission first before you take it from them. And sure as hell do not just copy it word for word and use it and say you wrote it without quoting where you took it from and before you even do it, you ask the person first to see if they will allow you to take it from you.
So have a scrotum and don't steal blog posts from others. Have some balls and write your own stuff. Unless you want people to think either you are lazy as shit or you just don't have a single brain cell in that giant goofy looking melon you call a head.
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