Valentine
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Posted:Feb 13, 2020 7:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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I hate Valentine's Day.
Whoever said don't get married on a holiday had it 100% correct.
I know we don't plan on having a marriage fall apart like cheap tennis shoes... But, for some of us, it does.
And, I was the fool who got married on Valentines day.
When I picked my up from school today my ex-husband was already sitting on the couch with her, waiting for me to show up. He got up and walked over to me, giving me a hug and kissing me on the cheek.
"Happy Anniversary, I won't be seeing you tomorrow."
It's his weekend with the , so, no, he won't be seeing me.
"Happy Anniversary"
I said back. We've been divorced for 8 years, he still wishes me a happy anniversary every year.
He's taking his white trash girlfriend out for dinner tomorrow. We talked about it for a few minutes, and all I could think of was this is the first Valentines day that I'll be spending alone.
I started seeing the Hippie regularly in 2013, every Valentine's day since I spent with him.
Now I'm alone.
Fantastic!
On the plus side, I'm sure the gym will be dead tomorrow night. I had to wait for both the treadmill and exercise bike tonight... What a pain in the ass.
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Posted:Feb 11, 2020 7:29 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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Why Women Lose Interest — It’s Two Things
by MaryBeth Gronek
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Women stay interested when their partner is fascinated and fascinating.
Have one without the other (or neither) and a woman will lose interest. Let’s unpack this.
He is fascinated.
When a woman feels she is the object of her partner’s fascination, she will stay interested. What does this look like?
He pursues her. This is often where women lose interest, particularly in the early stages of dating. Men: woo her. Never stop wooing her. This means picking up the phone and calling instead of endless texting. This means reaching out regularly. I once heard a guy friend say ‘if a man goes 48 hours without contacting you, he’s not interested.’ It’s true, and a woman feels it. If a women is left wondering how you feel about her as a result of your absence, she will lose interest fast. To hold her interest, the rules of courtship apply: flowers just because, opening of doors, arriving on time, all manner of gentlemanly behavior, and most importantly, regular contact. If you had a great date, tell her. This is less pep talk, more observation: fascinated men can barely hold themselves back from reaching out and not soon enough. Speaking personally, if a man doesn’t call me 24 hours after a date, I start to lose interest.
He is curious about her. He wants to know what makes her tick. He would rather ask her questions than talk about himself. Because how else will he get to know what moves her, what angers her, what makes her cry? (It’s Toy Story 3 btw). And not questions like where she works & lives, but questions that get to the heart of how she sees the world. When a man doesn’t ask these types of questions (or any at all), women lose interest.
He wants to please her. He wants to know how to exceed expectations. I was once on a date where a man asked me “How often do you prefer being communicated with and in what way?” Subtext: I really like you and I want to hit a home run. This was awesome & very hot. When a man is fascinated with a woman, he will continually position himself to surpass all potential competition. If a man’s not trying to find out what pleases her (I use ‘trying’ loosely because for a fascinated man, it’s a delight and not work), women lose interest.
He desires her. He tells her he wants her. He never stops telling her. He gets specific about how he desires her. Trust me men, this will keep her interested.
Long, long time.
He is taken with her. He is captivated. Even the trivial things are attractive because it is her that’s doing them. She could be walking around the house in yoga pants, but to him it’s Look at that amazing woman wearing those cute black pants. There’s a verse in Song of Solomon that encapsulates this: “Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.” His lady: flower. Every other woman: thorns. No one compares to her. Not a single one.
…He tells her so. It’s not just that he’s taken with her, he communicates it. Speaking personally: when a man is liberal with how he feels about me, my heart melts and simultaneously becomes magnetically attracted to his. His verbalized interest solidifies mine. Tell her you adore her. Tell her ‘when you do x, it makes me feel like superman.’ Verbalize all those wonderful things you’re thinking about her. If you’re thinking/feeling it, and it’s complimentary, SAY IT. The results will be in your favor
He is fascinating.
When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:
is curious about the world and is a life-long learner has values and lives by them
has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
respects his body & takes care of it
takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
is living out his purpose
He’s figured out what he wants to contribute to the world and is doing it. He’s ambitious but also takes time to relax and have fun. He’s intentional about building and pouring into those important to him. He wakes up each day excited to learn, do, contribute. A fulfilled man.
All of these things are a life force for him. He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on. He’s someone she can lean on, learn from, respect, and desire. He’s fully perfect & external to her. And that grounded, stable presence pulls her in.
We’ve all been in situations where someone we are dating is one but not the other. For example, someone who is fascinated with us but have nothing going on in their own life. That’s a turn off. Or the incredible person with the incredible life, but they barely reach out or make an effort. Also a turn off. Both pieces — fascinated and fascinating — are needed to maintain attraction.
I was recently at an event where the speaker could not stop talking about his wife. How much of a rock she was in their marriage. How wise she was. How he loved her smile and her legs (not in that order). She was in the audience — the front row to be exact — and was just glowing. I mean, connect some sort of generator to her and we could power the state of Michigan for perpetuity. The interesting thing? From a looks perspective, she was *average* by the world’s standards. It didn’t matter. Her man’s fascination made her glow.
For a second I was almost jealous of her. Not because I wanted to be with her husband, but because I wanted someone to feel about me the way he clearly felt about her.
Men, don’t miss this. It’s less about your looks or your paycheck and more about how you make her feel. Your affection has the power to make a woman shine. Be liberal with it. She will blossom under the sun of your interest & shade of your presence. And that’s not to say women can’t bloom without a partner. That’s not it. It’s that there’s a certain type of illumination unique to a woman basking in the rays of a man’s fascination. It’s breathtaking.
And the speaker was more than just fascinated. He was fascinating. He was changing lives through his public speaking career. He was charismatic and captivating. He was living out his value system. He was community-driven and purpose-driven. He was someone she could admire and respect.
I would often look at couples who had been together for decades and were still taken with each other, and compare them to those cheerless couples that make observers want to run from commitment, and wonder how the same situation — years in a relationship — could produce totally different outcomes. I don’t wonder anymore. It’s the science of interest. Smitten couples are doing the work of fascination. That is it. They are still interested and show it, they are still interesting and live it. That’s the magic sauce.
When I see couples like that it inspires me to hold out for the real thing. And validates every past decision not to settle for something less than
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Posted:Feb 10, 2020 7:44 pm
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Since when is this a "hey I don't know you, but let's hook up today and fuck" site? I at least like to get to know someone first. LOL
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He First
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Posted:Feb 9, 2020 7:38 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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I guess it's good
I never told you
I loved you.
I never said the words.
I saved myself
That knowledge
You would not have
Cared or bothered
Except to say
You are sorry
That I felt so much.
When you did not share
My feelings.
You might have said
Sorry I was hurt.
You didn't mean
For that to happen.
Is this the lesson?
Never speak the words?
They almost slipped
This last time.
What a fool
I would have been.
You would have told me
How foolish I was
How I misread the signals.
You were just a man.
In a passionate moment
Nothing special
Any woman would do.
In fact another woman texted
While we were together
But I didn't know.
So the lesson from now
Let him tell me first.
How long should I wait?
Weeks, months, years?
I am not getting any younger.
My heart is not the strongest
I will keep it safe as best I can
Words will not escape
That can be thrown back
Discarded as unwanted
And worthless to them.
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Bored
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Posted:Feb 7, 2020 7:57 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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That damn flu took the wind outta sails for sure. I had all sorts of plans for 7 days off, sleeping most of the time away wasn't top of the list. The rest of the time I mostly stare at the walls. I have tried a bit to plan safari trip but it all seems so complicated some days that I just want cancel the whole thing. I now have travel agency #2 trying help ... last night I get an saying is the flight, gimme your info so I can it, never mind the rest of the safari info .. we will work on that later. Pardon ? Oh in order work on the rest, I need a $50 deposit. Ok, I have never a travel agency before but mind went wtf at that point. I just dunno. Why is it such a pain in the ass? So back staring at the walls I go. Ughhh.
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She
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Posted:Feb 6, 2020 7:57 pm
Last Updated:Feb 7, 2020 7:57 pm
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Beginning:
And then someone will say something to the effect of, “Hubby hasn’t been pulling his weight, guess ain’t getting any tonight?” I am sticking with heterosexual relationships as they are the ones I am most familiar with. (I do not assume this sort of thing doesn’t occur in gay or bisexual relationships, nor do I assume there are no straight men would ever withhold from their partners.) Most of the responses will be laughter, or hearty words of support commending her for showing her man what’s up. They are almost all happy. I have a lot of feelings when I hear this, and happiness isn’t of them.
I feel jealous. Jealous of the crazy amount of she must be having afford go without it prove a point.
I feel angry. Angry that something which is so important a healthy relationship could ever be reduced a mere bargaining chip.
I feel ashamed. Ashamed that while we have come so far as women, our sexuality is often seen as our source of power.
Mostly, I feel sad. Sad that the way she can get through her husband is go without something in theory both partners should enjoy.
Sad that maybe her life is so unpleasant she would so freely go without.
Sad that this is seen as a badge of honor and not as a sign of a troubled relationship.
Let be clear: no should never ever feel compelled engage in any sexual activity. in a marriage is still R ape. Nobody “owes” anyone sex. It doesn’t matter if it’s his birthday, he got a promotion or he did the dishes. I have just as big an issue of using sex as a reward as I do with using it (or not using it) as a punishment. If sex isn’t something both parties are into, that is a problem.
If we withhold sex we aren’t merely denying your partner. We are denying ourselves. We are denying ourselves the opportunity for connection. We are denying ourselves gratification. You are denying ourselves something which is quintessential for a thriving marriage.(relationship) END
Sex is a powerful thing, I think we can all agree. Hell, this sight wouldn't survive without it. Yet, for some of us, sex has become a chore, mundane and without feeling. It's just like any sort of power, if misused, it can be dangerous or detrimental to those affected.
I suppose men and women get objectified when it comes to sex. When this happens, it becomes more about quantity. It's too bad more people don't strive for quality and take sex seriously, not that sex can't or shouldn't be fun and lighthearted, it should. I'm not suggesting quality comes when you're in love with someone, for it may or may not be enhanced. Unfortunately, some of us are aware love doesn't equate better sex.
So, maybe we shouldn't be so quick judge, the lucky ones are.
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Posted:Feb 5, 2020 7:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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I am kind of flattered when one on this site tries to invade my body shots and snatch them to call their own.. But it it dishonest, misrepresenting both you and myself and the proof and truth will always win out regardless...
You know what? Others complain on here about body shaming the BBW's so now all one sees is in blogs BBW's and love them because they get bullied and picked on. Welcome to the world of a Size 2-4.......
Those like me, who are labelled Tiny, Petite, Skinny, small, Proportionate Size 2's, we not only get labelled, but we get our photos stolen. We get asked if we are real or photos from 20 years ago. It works both way ladies and gents.....We are told to put more meat on our bones in order to look larger than we are......
I own my Size 2. I rock it for a reason. I work damn hard for it, most of my life, then on a site like this, get my own photos stolen and put on others profile pics to incite interest because of my body....
A blog for another day......
For those who steal other peoples profile photos for your own, please do not. It is not fair nor right to the one, you did it to .It misrepresents you and the one you stole the photo off in the first place..It is not your body........
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Love
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Posted:Feb 3, 2020 7:44 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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Love doesnt make the world go round love is what makes the ride worthwhile Now change the word love to sex ha ha
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Hello
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Posted:Feb 3, 2020 7:36 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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The coworkers have been capitalizing on my delimma.... Apparently it's funny when I start laughing and noises never before heard in nature emit from my body. Or, better yet, how hilarious is it phone continuously throughout the day hear squeak a barely audible 'hello'.
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Choice
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Posted:Feb 2, 2020 7:36 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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"Touch , tease ... , I'm about explode..." - Rated NC 39
Now, this is the kind of woman I'm looking for... maybe...
As long as she is gentle with ...
In the past I've written about what I want in a woman... it starts with them liking themselves... they are resilient... they are confident... they know what they want, and go for it... I prefer them 2 be calm and easy going...
I do luv their inner beauty... but... I'm not sayin' I'm not attracted 2 outer beauty either... It's just that has 2 balance the other... sometimes, that is not possible... at least, from what I've seen in life... there are those with expectations... with a list of demands, if you will... and, that doesn't work for ...
I was at a comedy show awhile back, and this set that the comedian gave, dealt with his realization that he was a ( of )... He found at a very young age... that by knowing your limitations (boundaries of needs) "A man has got know his limitations" (Dirty Harry - Clint Eastwood)... you can go further in life and have a '' ratio that eliminates much of the drama and angst in other people's lives...
Now... maybe... if you find that special person with a similar comfort zone... a similar disposition, preferences with a "live and let live" attitude
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Plate
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Posted:Jan 31, 2020 7:56 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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Did you know the first country introduce license plates was: FRANCE
Required plates and registration were per the Paris Police Ordinance, passed on August , 93, Drivers were required add the markers their vehicles. The United States didn't require identification plates 1901 when York became the first state order drivers put their initials on a unique tag. Other states slowly adopted the idea. There were bigger concerns for American drivers at the time, however. Did you know that mandatory driving tests and licenses weren't introduced the 1940s!!!
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Hook up
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Posted:Jan 30, 2020 7:46 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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Still trying figure how this site all works, like the different blogs, messages, you can view or talk , you can;t, leaving, reading messages.....etc . Howerever i am enjoying what I have been able have access so far. I do know that man and I are looking add that bit of spice that I....i mean we have been craving. No strings, no feelings, or getting attached or hooking up outside of agreed interactions. Managing be close and casual but still disconnected enough not interfere with our everyday lives. Good can easily confuse the heart and mind that it is something that it's not . We all know that a good orgasm can make you "fall in love" with a piece of tail, so in opinion, being honest and mature is key successful hook ups. Which honestly would be Very . If there is anyone has experienced "complications or confusion" about what goes on , please add any tips or advice on how avoid situations that could come and how be sure keep that balance within . I would love hear your comments
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Posted:Jan 29, 2020 7:40 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:38 pm
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Im not sure if a blog is so i can vent or what but .....people i know ur there i am so tired of getting dressed in my sissy clothes an riding my 9 inch vibrator. Mean yea t feels great but. Want to b tied up pissed on spanked slaped humiliated enslaved pegged strap on or if im lucky enough make me suck cock before he pounds my ass showes me what a real cock is not being gental at all iv been riding the vibrator for bout 10 years i ent out an got a cucumber today ....i just want to b bent over an fuck me hard i need someone else slamming my sissy man pussy .....PLEASE
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