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A spot for my random naughty thoughts
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It finally happened...
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Posted:Apr 6, 2017 7:43 am
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2019 7:48 am
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I actually ran across someone I recognized on here. Was reviewing my friend requests and there lo and behold was one of the fathers of one of the I cared for back when I worked in childcare. Now I haven't had anything to do with him in well over a decade. The are grown and his profile tells me he's now separated.
I'm kinda squicked out though.
I always wondered how I'd feel when it happened.
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I’m gonna have a heart attack and die from not surprise!
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Posted:Oct 3, 2016 8:27 pm
Last Updated:Aug 27, 2018 7:33 pm
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So at long last this summer I managed to find a FWB situation that worked with my challenging schedule. We did it right we talked out all the details. Discussed STD testing, other partners etc. So I was aware he has another partner. But tonight as we texted about meeting up again sometime soon. He throws out there… that the other partner is now his girlfriend. But he adds he’s “okay with our kind of fun still.” So i figure better do my diligence on this one… “Is she okay with it?” I ask. Aaaaaaaand wait for it…….. He replies….
“She doesn’t know.”
Really… imagine that… in fact I think I’m gonna have a heart attack and die from not surprise!
Seriously what the hell… this is how he wants to start his new relationship. I mean shouldn’t you at least want to be faithful in the beginning of a relationship when all is new and shiny. What the hell is wrong with some guys.
Edit to add in a less ranty way:
Okay so after a poor nights sleep... I find it interesting I'm actually more offended on the girlfriends part then anything. I suspect he's setting the poor woman up to get hurt the way others have hurt him. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. But that's sure what it looks like to me. Sad. And no I'm not going to be involved.
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Random things I've learned this week...
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Posted:Oct 22, 2015 11:30 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 3:22 pm
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1. I watch far too much Fast and the Furious… because the cute (and too young) blond lifeguard at the pool now seems that much hotter because I saw him arriving at work and now know what he drives.
2. A clean house makes me feel so much sexier. Now if i could just figure out how to fit a full time maid (or house boy) into the budget.
3.Calgary has not one but two “lingerie maid” cleaning services and they pay better than my technical positions in oil and gas ever did. I may just apply.
4. I am endlessly doomed to be on a different page then the men I interact with… oh and most of the guys i interact with are jerks. I suspect this means i have terrible taste.
5. The weight machines in a big gym (with all those muscular people who know what they’re doing using them) are sooo much more intimidating than the lone machine in an empty office gym. (Any regulars at Vivo who wanna help me out?)
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Arg Encore
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Posted:May 8, 2015 9:38 am
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2020 6:11 pm
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Okay so this is just a total vent really feel free to ignore I just need to get it off my chest....
Some men are just jerks... Mr Let me down gently from the previous arg post... Is no longer a co-worker due to the state of the oil industry and lay offs. But we are still "friends" and keeping in touch. He's been getting flirtier and more suggestive in his behavior again.
Honestly I didn't much care... if something were to happen... cool. If not... whatever.
Then last night out of the blue he announces he's moving next month. Oh really? Why? Says me. "100% more girlfriend in the new apartment." Is the answer.
Excuse me... girlfriend?
He had the perfect reason for telling me not interested yet avoided mentioning a girlfriend at all costs. Now I'm not great at understanding male behavior... but I can read between the lines pretty well on this one.
JERK!!!!!
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What is it about the forbiden fruit...
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Posted:May 7, 2015 12:34 pm
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2019 2:17 pm
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What is it about forbidden fruit? Or at least very unwise fruit. Be it your boss, co-worker, or some other totally inappropriate person… what makes them so damn attractive
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My current (ok current for a year or so now) forbidden fruit is one of the maintenance guys in my housing complex. He’s a nice guy in general. But so… so so so… not my usual type. Gauged ears, smokes (vapes now), bit on the short side, and I think there’s a girlfriend. To be honest he’s the kind of guy I would barely notice if I passed him on the street. Well maybe if he smiled.
My common sense tells me that this is defiantly a hands off situation… I mean it’s my home and his work place… were I to pursue and something went wrong… awkward would not even come close. I mean there’s no escape. And there’s the rub of course… because I’ve put him in the hands off category… damn I want him.
Alas given my time constraints and the situation nothing is ever going to happen. I will just have to be content that warmer weather is coming and he’ll be wearing less and less and sweating more and more.
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Arg....
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Posted:Jun 15, 2014 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Aug 27, 2018 7:43 pm
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Warning: Confusing rambling vent follows
These days I am in fact not looking for a serious relationship in anyway shape or form. I don’t want one and even if I did… I don’t have time for one. I want a nice regular FWB type thing. Seems simple enough right.
But apparently men around me always assume I’m in a relationship. Should I dare to show interest in any of them and set the record straight that I am in fact single. Well then they run for the hills because I must only be interested in a serious relationship. Annoying.
Now I will grant this is complicated further by the fact that I only really meet men through work because of my hectic schedule so I must tred carefully with laying it out there with “I just want sex.”
Once again this week came the assumption that I could only want a serious relationship. My friend/co-worker attempted to “let me down gently” would have almost been laughable if it hadn’t bordered on insulting. Additional suggestion on his part that I try another co-worker who was another past attempt that failed didn’t help matters.
But seriously… is it that hard to image a girl might actually just want sex.
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The mommy vs sexy dichotomy
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Posted:Sep 21, 2013 8:06 am
Last Updated:Aug 27, 2018 7:39 pm
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I've tried several times to write this out... but I always find when thinking about it that it's a much more complex issue then it seems on the surface. So I figured I'll just go for it and i can always add more in a later entry.
Sexy vs Mommy sounds actually fairly simple and at first for me it really did seem that way. But as my libido returned I started to find it was actually a much more multifaceted issue.
There's the fact that my body is not the same as it was pre-pregnancy. I've given birth. I'm still battling that last darn 5 pounds of baby weight. While my abs were never a ripped 6 pack they are defiantly a little squishier these days. My hips... seem to have gone back to their old measurements... and yet in some pictures of myself lately they seem awfully wide. Now I know we are all our own worst critics and much of this is really only a perceived difference on my part... but all the same there it is. I simply don't feel nearly as attractive as I did before baby. In some ways it's almost like being a virgin again... as well I don't know how sex will feel post baby... I've heard some horror stories out there on the 'net so yes it makes me decidedly nervous
There's the mental block... the I'm someone's Mom now I shouldn't want those naughty nasty things I used to. I'm sort of getting over this one... but really don't feel ready to dive back in to the deep end for sure. There's days I feel like I must be a terrible parent for even logging on here.
There's the knocks I've had to take to my ego as my past FWB all of whom I really did consider friends I happened to sleep with. Have not put any priority on seeing me... I've invited.... they said oh yes... soon. I know it's not really me it's that they were used to the me who could just agree to meet up on fairly short notice. That just isn't possible now. I need things scheduled in advance so I can arrange someone to watch my little one (and as my primary babysitters at the moment are my parents this would take some creative talking to explain). But it's still tough to swallow that men I really did consider friends have turned out to really only hanging around for the convenient sex.
And if the logistics and mental block are rough with men I've known for months and years... well they're about 100 times worse with the idea of meeting someone new.
This sort of feels like it lacks a conclusion... but I guess that's because i haven't found one yet.
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How I came to be a member of a "shocking" ;) site like this
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Posted:Sep 17, 2013 8:55 am
Last Updated:Apr 5, 2017 6:40 pm
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I first discovered this site... well... a decent number of years ago when I tossed my then boyfriends favourite user name in to a search engine. This was the days before you could opt out of showing up in searches (not that i think it would have occurred to him anyway.) Imagine my distress at what popped up in that search. Lets just say while this site was the most prominent in the results it was far from the only one. A little further research on my part revealed no less then 3 fully paid accounts on different adult sites (for a guy who always claimed to be short of money too.) And countless "free' ones that may or may not have been in current usage.
In retrospect this probably should have been not just a red flag but something along the lines off all the national flags in the China waving madly in my face. But I loved the guy so I confronted him... we talked... accounts were deleted. Of course he drastically underestimated my internet skills... so I did see the 2 new accounts that appeared very shortly there after. (Again... with the red flags.) But for some reason I can't fathom at the moment I did not run screaming in to the night. Really from there on out our relationship was pretty much all down hill until it's spectacular fiery end something like a year later but that is a story for another day... or perhaps several stories.
However in my searching I'd made an account of my own to see just what he was up to on this site... imagine the boost to my bruised ego that in under a week I managed to gain the popularity privileges on my measly standard account needed to actually poke around properly. While that first account was deleted after our chat... it wasn't all that long before I missed the ego boost and the fun of it and decided heck if he can start new accounts... well so can I. It wasn't until sometime later I decided to really properly develop an account... (sadly even that I can attribute to by then the ex-boyfriends actions on this site... but again story for another day.) But man have I ever had fun doing it. And it's still a spectacular ego boost.
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What’s in a picture?
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Posted:Dec 26, 2012 11:56 am
Last Updated:Apr 5, 2017 6:43 pm
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What’s in a picture?
Well I’m sad to say this concept seems to escape many users here. I am primarily speaking of the men simply because those are the profiles I view but I would imagine there’s women just as guilty of failing to understand some simple things about your profile and pictures and your success on this site.
So I give you a few hints.
#1 HAVE ONE.
I know this is a bit scary for some people. You are worried about your privacy etc. Note I did not say have a head shot as your main photo. No picture at all = No response at all. Physical attraction is pretty much everything on a site of this nature. My main pics have always been naughty/enticing… but they don’t actually show anything terribly intimate. For you guys… a chest or body shot are often still very appealing to me… enough to get me to look further anyway. At a bare minimum have some private pictures you can share in chat or email and actually offer to share.
#2 Content
Photo must have some part of you in it. It should not be a photo off a porn site that you found hot even if you label it as such and are not trying to pass yourself off as said porn star… that is not what photos on this site are for. Even if it fills your quota for points etc. Nor do I wish to see your motorbike, pet, or a lovely scene unless you are in it somewhere.
#3 Appearance
Please… please… PLEASE actually look at your photo before submitting it. Try to see it from the point of view of your audience. If my first response is Ewwwww (and sadly it often is) you will not be getting a response or any future views from me. You may be a god in bed… but with out some attraction happening… it’s not going to happen. Look at your body position in the shot… my body isn’t perfect folks my work out routines need more discipline but I chose shots that show my body to it’s best. (And many of you seem to approve) The lighting (photo by light of your laptop screen is NEVER flattering folks.) A web cam or cell photo is fine… but a little effort please... basic grooming… tidy the hair, ensure you are wearing clean clothing (if you are wearing clothing.) LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE BATHED RECENTLY. This is not a mug shot it is an attempt to get someone attracted enough to have sex with you.
#4 Background
Okay while I can occasionally over look this one it’s still vastly annoying. Look around you before taking photos… check again after. What else made it in to you picture? I do not need to see 3 weeks or dirty laundry. Your unmade bed. Your dirty kitchen. And if you must do a bathroom mirror shot tidy the room and close the toilet seat first.
#5 The cut out
Okay I know some of us don’t have a lot of photos… but if you must cut someone else out of your photo make sure it’s nicely done. Do not use one of you holding your ex or current for that matter (unless they’re involved and have given permission) squeeze and just blur the face or cut their shape out. The happy face over your buddies’ faces… just looks stupid.
#6 Permissions
Do NOT post intimate photos of anyone you’ve been with without their explicit permission. Okay I can’t tell if you have that permission but its just good manners. I have the misfortune of discovering an ex of mine had intimate photos of us up on this site with out permission… let me tell you I was not pleased. I don’t care how great a shot it is… or that you can’t see any faces… believe me the subject of said photos will know if they see it.
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When did viewing a profile become such a serious thing...
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Posted:Sep 17, 2012 2:40 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2020 6:09 pm
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So I only just took my profile out of hidden a week ago now... as usual I've gained a bit of attention.(good for the ego it is) But I've had a surprising number of emails saying... "you viewed my profile why didn't you email me".
Soooo... rant mode on
So when exactly did viewing a profile become a commitment to communicate???????
Last I checked viewing profiles was how one decides if one even wants to communicate. And honestly there aren't too many profiles on here that would convince me to send a message. There are a few more that combined with a nice email from the person may convince me to reply but again still a minority.
If i viewed your profile and didn't email/reply... I likely did't like you that much. Your profile probably offended my delicate sensibilities in one of many ways.
Perhaps you have a horrid photo. Seriously i don't know what some of you were thinking when choosing your pic.
Perhaps you have no photo... hard to be attracted to that like grey out line of a man.
Maybe you used text speak throughout your about me section... I hate text speak.
More realistically i probably felt from your description of your interests that we wouldn't suit as i have pretty specific tastes.
Or possibly you didn't bother filling out any details... which left me no information to decide if we could possibly suit.
You can moan and wail all you like about how it's easier to talk about such details once contact has been established... so guys but with the number of emails I get I just don't have the time to go through the motions for every one.
So today's PSA: A profile view is simply a profile view. It does not equal any sort of binding contract for communication.
Rant mode off.
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New profile pic...
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Posted:Feb 5, 2012 7:12 pm
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2018 9:26 am
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I've wanted to do a black winged angel pic for a long time. So I finally did today. Tried out the new camera I got for Christmas. Over all I'm pretty happy with the finished product. But I'm not entirely sure... it almost doesn't look real sometimes when I look at it. Now I'm curious how others see it.... so folks what do you think?
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