Where I am
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Posted:Dec 3, 2021 3:51 pm
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Separating the chaff from the straw...
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Posted:May 24, 2019 5:43 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2019 10:57 am
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I've been visiting NoStrings, on and off, for over a decade.
It's changed a lot in that time. Back in the early days, it was kind of like "the dark web" with a hint of daring mixed in with delight. The bohemians and eccentrics, the early adopters, were fascinating.
Today it is far more monetized and sanitized. That's a shame, but the problem isn't just inside NoStrings, it's cultural. There are no edgy new places to move to, because the social "progress" to online sexuality is everywhere.
One problem that has always been there is the imbalance of and female participants. There have always been more men than women, men posing as women, and fake accounts. But the latter has clearly been outsourced to industry, a policy of the operators of NoStrings.
not kidding -- confident that foreign server farms are creating fake female accounts. But the most ludicrous part of this is that they appear to be accounts intended for "normal" dating services. Hmmm... what does that tell us about eee harm (properly spelled are often blocked here), and all those other sites?!?
Clear indicators of a fake female are phrases like:
" honest and fun love and search for husband is my whole life."
"My truth is everyone is good, I want find my forever partner."
"Hugs and kisses are real love for you and to be together for real."
first these accounts were "standard." I noticed that they'd message or flirt, but there was no indication that they had ever looked at my account. The organizers have slowly caught on to the suspiciousness of this. Lately, I've noticed that a "view" now often accompanies a message or flirt. And even more recently, I've noticed these accounts are VIP. But still empty, vapid, obviously fake.
So... anybody else noticing this stuff? How does it make you feel? Do you care? Or is this just an alternative to Netflix or Hulu, something you play around with once in a while, and none of it really matters?
I'd love to hear from you.
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Fantasia
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Posted:Aug 30, 2015 1:40 pm
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2018 6:34 pm
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I live in a medieval castle and spend my endless leisure time solving three-century-old mathematical problems while eating white bread cucumber sandwiches with the crust trimmed off; I'm researching a ground-breaking new biography of Leonardo da Vinci highlighting never-before-published proofs that his perpetual-motion machines can actually work; I'm designing a better religion more suited to our nuclear age; I'm an award winning pianist; a brain surgeon; one of the first astronauts, and I continue to spend at least every other summer in outer space.
I'm 50 years old, eternally look 32, and exhibit the slightly fiery off-beat wit of a brilliant 22 year old -- even while suffering a Sunday morning hangover. Using snake oil (derived from actual snakes and long defiled by mainstream skeptics) I have plenty of hair where desirable, and very little where unfashionable.
I'm a liberal: no problem with gay marriage, want women to be paid equally to men, wish the USA had single-payer healthcare, and want real gun control.
My Ideal Person is an engaging, seductive, intelligent female with a look that makes my heart race. Since beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and nobody is perfect, it might be you.
Chemistry is allusive, but polite enjoyable banter can happen anytime and I expect nothing more. A friendly smile goes a long way. 
IM is a great way to meet, and I'm surprised more people don't use it. Find me there when I'm online (NoStrings -> Live Action -> Instant Messenger). It's free to everyone, even Standard members.
If you see my cam on, I'm either chatting up a storm, or moaning on the edge of orgasm. Sometimes both. I get off being watched and heard. This does not mean I'm a freak, weird, or scary. I just might be more balanced than most men you've met.
I'm a real male person seeking a real female person. Please be real!
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Above is what I used as my profile introduction for over a month. It received the least interest of any profile I have posted so far. This tells me a lot about the creativity of the average reader here. I know people do (at least sometimes) read profiles because others have gotten more responses.
I'm a bit disappointed, really. But now I'm trying a heavily abridged version to see if that does better.
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And now for something completely different.
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Posted:Aug 1, 2015 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Aug 10, 2015 2:58 pm
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When Monty Python first introduced the tag line / intro line / skit transition line, "And now for something completely different," it was brilliant. But not expected to become a cultural icon. It became one, particularly among the pop- / pseudo-intellectual crowd.
This is not something I know anything about. I've heard the line, drawn personal conclusions (noted above), and now present it as learned fact, or at least carefully considered hypothesis.
But it is neither.
I'm sitting at my PC, several drinks into the abyss, just typing away "about nothing and about everything," which is another pop icon phrase... I think. But since I don't know the origin of that phrase (or even the accurate and precise original wording) I can't say anything more about it. To do so would be inappropriate, it would break the pseudo-intellectual truth-teller code.
Bullshit is fun! Especially when drunk!! I love this state of mind. Any sexy ladies wanna fuck me?!?!
Yours truly,
My Therapist
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When selfies aren't enough, who ya gonna call? MyTherapist. :)
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Posted:Jul 7, 2015 3:49 pm
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2015 5:08 am
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My pic is real. It's part of a series I took by myself, using a Nikon digital SLR camera and remote control software. A little netbook PC is off cam just within reach.
I would love to explore boudoir photography with a sensual woman. Erotic photography is not about "perfect" bodies, it's about light and shadow and suggestive playfulness. At it's best, it is an art form.
This is not some sort of ad. I'm not a professional photographer, not offering a service, and not asking for anything in return. The titillating fun of being an erotic photographer, sharing the experience with you enjoying being an erotic model, is all I seek.
Fantasy is one thing, but what about safety and privacy? Before the camera comes out, we need to meet and be comfortable. Meeting more than once makes perfect sense. Controlling where images might end up is a big issue. I have an older Nikon digital camera with no wireless connectivity. Every image is saved on a removable SD card. If you have any concerns at all, I will leave the card with you. There is no way for the files to end up anywhere else. For pieace of mind, you can examine the camera and do a web search about what it can do.
I'm not hoping we'll end up fucking each others brains out. This is not a thinly veiled come-on with ulterior motives and intentions. I have no problem with other people being present, including your lover(s). Boudoir photography can segue easily into porn photography. If it turns you on and that's where it goes, no problem. But my primary interest is erotic imagery, one step shy of outright sexual imagery. The art -- the skill and creativity -- is in allusion and suggestiveness.
I am a man. If you turn me on and the opportunity arises, I love to make a woman cum (and cum and cum and cum). And I love to cum, too. Forget I wrote this. I'm here to be your photographer. *eyeroll*
My Ideal Person An engaging, seductive, intelligent female with a look that makes my heart race. Since beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and nobody is perfect, it might be you.
Chemistry is allusive, but polite enjoyable banter can happen anytime and I expect nothing more. A friendly smile goes a long way.
IM is a great way to meet, and I'm surprised more people don't use it. Find me there when I'm online (NoStrings -> Live Action -> Instant Messenger). It's free to everyone, even Standard members.
If you see my cam on, I'm either chatting up a storm, or moaning on the edge of orgasm. Sometimes both. I get off being watched and heard. This does not mean I'm a freak, weird, or scary. I just might be more balanced than most men you've met.
I'm a real male person seeking a real female person. Please be real!
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Posted:Jun 4, 2015 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Jun 8, 2015 2:52 pm
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There are many references around here to wanting to meet "real" people. They often accompany disgruntled complaints about men pretending to be women; women with fake or out-of-date pics; and whining about all kinds of people pretending they're a little more mobile or a little more sociable than they really are.
So now I ask: How justified are these suspicions about too many people not being "real"?
It has seemed to me on more than one occasion that some profiles are planted, and some email messages to men are just to lure us in. But I have no firm evidence. And then, every once in a while, I end up in a great conversation with someone who is as real as they cum. (Pun and wordplay intended.)
I would love to hear your opinion on this. Don't hold back. Tell me how you "REAL"ly feel.
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Serious Local Pursuits: Exhibitionism, Anyone?
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Posted:May 10, 2015 5:42 pm
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2015 1:44 pm
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I have really enjoyed cam exhibitionism, sometimes in a chat room like Girls Watching Guys On Cam, other times just on-cam and discovering people who have found me "organically." (Organically! I'm a member! *laughs*)
The best encounters are few and far between, with women (because I'm unwaveringly straight) who take the time to chat and bond; we get to know each other beyond age, body-part size, and other altogether meaningless statistics. Meeting, discovering, and engaging with someone new is hugely rewarding -- it just feels good, all by itself. Then, getting someone to laugh and smile is powerful foreplay.
Now, back to the cam thing. As exciting and enticing as camming has been, it grows tiresome. Could it be the "gateway drug" to live in-person exhibition? I would love to meet someone for dinner or drinks, get to know each other, and -- If we click -- I'd love a safe-sex live exhibitionism encounter.
The safe-sex thing takes the fear and anxiety out of the moment, letting the mind be wild and free to enjoy a very intimate, even exquisite, one-on-one moment. Talking, flirting, moaning, cumming for or cumming with, a new friend can be deliciously, wildly, satisfying.
Are there any women in the Raleigh area who are interested in a few hours of drinks, chat, smile, laughs, winks, seductive innuendo, and -- only if it feels right -- a bit of safe-sex exhibitionism/voyeurism play-time?
Let's get off the Internet and... errr... get off in person.
My name is Jim. And yours? Message me.
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The vagaries of profile language.
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Posted:Apr 4, 2015 7:00 am
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2018 2:33 pm
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Friend with Benefits
This idea is bizarre. At the very least, it is meaningless in the context of real human relationships between mentally healthy adults.
If you want sex without the burden of an emotional relationship -- no problem. Don't spend a lot of time getting to know each other. Limit conversation to pleasantries, humor (laughter goes a long way), flirting. Be sexy, connect, but keep it simple. Take those smiles to bed, enjoy, repeat. In some cases, someone might leave before morning. Those you exchanged might not work.
If you want to build new relationships with real friendship potential, three millennia of sordid human tales suggest you'd be best to keep sex out of it. (More about this in the next section of this blog post.)
If you're looking for a good candidate for a satisfying long-term sexual relationship, you would be best to choose someone who is not already engaged in one (and you shouldn't be in one either). Be prepared to be involved emotionally, as well as physically. And there lies the potential for being friends and lovers.
So how is a FWB relationships different than a "regular relationship?" Since differentiation is important (or we wouldn't have added this new term to our lexicon), is it "a friend and lover relationship that is doomed by design and by intent?" Perhaps a better name for this would be a Sex Acquaintance.
The euphemistic use of the word "benefits" is also odd. In places as liberal and free-spirited as NoStrings it doesn't seem there is any need for this. If you really are just looking for someone to "do it" with, you know, "that," why not just say, "I'm looking for fun, satisfying sex with someone I can relate to, without listening too closely to anything they say, to ensure I don't get too attached, so not really friends, but that word is a euphemism, too.
FWB: Sex without the burden of an emotional relationship. Exchanged work. We call them a couple of times. Works best between mentally unhealthy adults.
Drama Free
Start with friendship. Introduce sex. FWB! Woo hoo!! Feels sooooo good!!!
Thinking about your new friend when you're not together. Notice they are still checking their NoStrings account. Feel a little bit jealous. Don't say anything for a while. There is less laughter in your conversations. More sex but it lacks the magic of the first encounters. Dinner together feels more like a chore than fun. Accusations "out of nowhere." Bitter arguments in which both sides lie to each other to maintain a sense of dignity despite accusations being true. Repeat.
Hey! I've figured out what FWB actually is: "A friend and lover relationship that is doomed by design and by intent." Conclusion is clearly marked by introduction of "Drama."
This whole thing makes me laugh. Remember those Shakespeare plays you didn't quite understand in high school? They were written only half a millennia ago. Time to re-read.
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va·gar·y
ˈvāɡərē/
noun
plural noun: vagaries
synonyms: eculiarity, oddity, eccentricity, unpredictability, caprice, foible, whim, whimsy, fancy
"the vagaries of the weather"
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The Mile High Club
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Posted:Mar 1, 2015 5:48 pm
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2015 6:39 pm
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The average commercial flight cruises around 35,000 feet, which is more than six miles up. Sex in airplane lavatories is unlikely at a mile up, since it would have to be shortly after take-off, or shortly before landing. Not saying impossible, just unlikely. But really, it wouldn't allow as much time as I'd like to have with a Six Mile High Club friend.
Is anyone interested in a trip somewhere, maybe Vegas? I have a fantasy that needs to be realized.
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Cautious, with Guarded Pessimism
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Posted:Jan 31, 2015 1:50 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2015 3:13 pm
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cau·tious
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adjective
(of a person) careful to avoid potential problems or dangers.
"a cautious driver"
synonyms: careful, heedful, attentive, alert, watchful, vigilant, circumspect, prudent; More
antonyms: reckless
(of an action) characterized by the desire to avoid potential problems.
"the plan received a cautious welcome"
pes·si·mism
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noun
a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.
"the dispute cast an air of deep pessimism over the future of the peace talks"
synonyms: defeatism, negativity, doom and gloom, gloominess, miserablism, cynicism, fatalism; More
PHILOSOPHY
a belief that this world is as bad as it could be or that evil will ultimately prevail over good.
de·feat·ist
dəˈfēdəst/
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a person who expects or is excessively ready to accept failure.
synonyms: pessimist, fatalist, cynic, prophet of doom, doomster; More
antonyms: optimist
adjective
adjective: defeatist
1.
demonstrating expectation or acceptance of failure.
"we have a duty not to be so defeatist"
synonyms: pessimistic, fatalistic, negative, cynical, despondent, despairing, hopeless, bleak, gloomy
"a defeatist outlook"
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Sigh. Perhaps tomorrow will be different.
Jim
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The Trouble with Discretion
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Posted:Jan 17, 2015 2:50 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2015 4:16 pm
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Most married individuals in NoStrings mention being discreet. (Which, by the way is *not* the same as discrete -- these two words are vastly different. But that's a story for the non-existent "NoStrings Intellectual Chat" forum"...)
Being discreet usually ends up requiring a bit of "truth bending." For example, I am a married man and I recently met a married woman for a drink to see if we had any chemistry*. During our date, she received a text from her out-of-town husband. She texted back about how she was on call for work, and had a terrible headache, and really just wanted to be at home. This is all part of maintaining a sense of normalcy in real life. But, of course... it's (gulp)... lying.
We were having an ok time and it wasn't about to end. Her lie served to extend our time together, to justify her being away from home, to keep things feeling normal with your husband.
I do the same thing. Most of us do.
The moment we observe someone bending the truth, we know they can do it and do it (for the most part) pretty well. Thus, we cannot trust anything they say to us. So the next time we ask about getting together and they tell us why they can't, we distrust it. They can't find a babysitter; their just called and her car broke down; work called and they have to go in; the heating broke and they're waiting for the service guy; they have a bad cough and a headache, it might be the flu.
The problem is that not all people are lying about everything. Really, they probably are not lying about very much. But a relationship that starts with lying -- it's very existence requires a lie -- is usually doomed.
I'm married, but want to have an honest, fun, exploratory relationship that does not involve my wife. I love my wife, and she loves me. But she has no interest in things I want to discover with someone else. We don't stroll through Adam and Eve and buy sexy things; we don't go to a hotel room and watch adult movies while pleasuring each other with our mouths and toys. And I crave all of that.
Sigh.
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* It's fair to say that chemistry is a rare thing, so I never expect it, and on this date we really didn't have it. That's ok. When I go out for a first meeting I intend to have fun conversations, enjoy good food, and probably never see that person again. When you don't feel like you want to fuck each other's brains out, that usually also means "I don't really need a new friend." (This is *not* always true -- I have two female friends I've met here that I will probably never sleep with, but I truly enjoy a nice lunch from time to time where we laugh, share stories, and have great times.)
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