Sex Education  

EnigmaInitiative 52F  
2080 posts
7/29/2020 9:03 am
Sex Education


Continued, first comment, due 2 grammar gremlins

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/29/2020 9:03 am

I listen to a few podcasts and yesterday, during one of them, they were talking about sex education and how it differs. Which led me to think, hard, about the quality of my sexual education which was close to none. Dear lort, I think I learned more from my father's penthouse stories than I ever did from school or even one of my parents.

Sure, there was health class when I was in Jr High (like 8th grade, I believe), where we were taught about reproduction. (The reproduction song/scene from Grease 2 has just suddenly popped into my head. Now, I must share a link to it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6honxJ2uzwo for those who don't know what I'm talking about. You're welcome trying to get that out of your head. ) But, we sure weren't taught about the physical act of sex.

My real education came from my first marriage, where I learned most of what I know now. Picture an eighteen year old Enigma with braces sucking cock on her wedding night based on some shit she read in Penthouse and you'll know how it all went. LOLOL.

That led me to wondering:

Did you get sex education? In school? Did your parents teach you? Friends? Siblings? Or, was it a learn as you go thing, as it was me?

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


Paulxx001 63M
16465 posts
7/29/2020 10:34 am

Sex Ed? 🤔 hmmm..
Oh yeah... A buddy of mine who was ten (I was 9), had a deck of cards. Wow! We spent days and weeks examining them. 😎
And then there was my neighbour. She was a year older than me.
I was ten when we first played Doctor 😷.

Now THAT was fricken educational! 👍


Hanktcd 61M
33 posts
7/29/2020 10:53 am

No sex ed from parents at all. HS health covered basics of reproduction w diagrams of anatomy that were not explained. My education was slipshod and still incomplete.


tubesteak66 54M  
636 posts
7/29/2020 11:01 am

No sex education.........I recall a female classmate asking if I had white stuff in my balls yet? I had no clue what she was talking about. About two weeks later, I had my first wet dream. A week later I masturbated and ejaculated for the first time. The mystery was over & I finally understood what she was talking about!


ltrskr 72M  
4423 posts
7/29/2020 11:06 am

My sex education came from reading the stories and "How To's" in PlayBoy and Penthouse magazines, then practicing in the back seat of an old Chrysler!
My Dad did instill one thing in my brain, you knock a girl up and u squat to pee the rest of ur life....
So I concentrated on oral skills, that worked really out well!

Great post!


Granny872 68F  
2616 posts
7/29/2020 11:06 am

My parents taught me nothing, and since I was a total ugly duckling in high school, I had zero chance of going out on an actual date to learn anything, lol.

College exposed me to some wild roommates, but even they didn't share their knowledge with me.

I'm basically self-taught when it come to sex


Mr_Mercedes 59M
386 posts
7/29/2020 11:14 am

As I recall there was some minimalistic formal education coverage, but my Parents did not engage me on the subject. My Father and uncles would drop us boys off (when we were about 12 years old or so) at one of those private trash dump sites in the woods under the premise the old guys were going squirrel hunting for an hour or so. Interestingly there were plenty of these ‘girlie’ / Gentlemen’s magazines laying around and we sort of educated ourselves while we waited for their return.

Now that I think back, I don’t think we ever heard any gun shots or saw any dead squirrels when they returned. Just a lot of empty beer bottles to add to the trash pile.


You are in my most inappropriate thoughts...


hogknot 54M  
875 posts
7/29/2020 11:28 am

Porno and Penthouse


JustlomesumMe 65M
581 posts
7/29/2020 12:04 pm

As a young lad I had a few neighborhood girls that liked to "Play Doctor" a time or two. So by age 7 I had seen a few naked girls; legs spread and close up. Junior High and High School I was the wall flower/nerd no one wanted anything to do with.
Basically just like you it was Penthouse and Playboy and the sex books my best friends dad had hid in his closet. Adam & Eve catalogue also helped with an oral sex VCR tap.

Other than that it has been trial and error.

So nice to be insane; no one asks you to explain.


positively4you 71F  
4030 posts
7/29/2020 1:03 pm

I thought I knew it until I signed on this site. Some eyeopeners here.


pacnwlover42 51M
8134 posts
7/29/2020 1:50 pm

I learned at a young age by reading the Joy of Sex and from Playboy magazines. I had to sneak them out of my parents bedroom though.

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


classicalrebel4 65M  
1492 posts
7/29/2020 4:27 pm

Ordered sex manuals by mail, that and porn. We had a kinda sex ed in high school which consisted of warning the girls about boys.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


Massass1963 57M
316 posts
7/29/2020 7:17 pm

I believe even the sex educators are still learning. Learning from experience is the preferred method, anyway.


Logan0867 53M
212 posts
7/29/2020 9:41 pm

I vaguely remember some sort of sex ed in middle school...I think they used bananas and condoms...but by then it was old hat for me. Little backstory on me for anyone reading this...my parents were total hippies...dad was a folk rock musician, mom made all our clothes. I don't remember this but my mother told this story to me. We lived down the street from a commune and one time when I was about 5 I came home for lunch.
"Did you have a good time", mom asked.
"it was pretty good. I learned a new game today"
"Oh what game is that" she replied
"Its called Fuck", I said
Mom got a strange look on her face "Oh really? and how is played"
I commenced to tell her about how the game was played. She didn't get upset or punish me even for dropping the f bomb but I don't think I was allowed to go down to that house anymore after that.


author51 57F  
100451 posts
7/29/2020 11:24 pm

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    I listen to a few podcasts and yesterday, during one of them, they were talking about sex education and how it differs. Which led me to think, hard, about the quality of my sexual education which was close to none. Dear lort, I think I learned more from my father's penthouse stories than I ever did from school or even one of my parents.

    Sure, there was health class when I was in Jr High (like 8th grade, I believe), where we were taught about reproduction. (The reproduction song/scene from Grease 2 has just suddenly popped into my head. Now, I must share a link to it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6honxJ2uzwo for those who don't know what I'm talking about. You're welcome trying to get that out of your head. ) But, we sure weren't taught about the physical act of sex.

    My real education came from my first marriage, where I learned most of what I know now. Picture an eighteen year old Enigma with braces sucking cock on her wedding night based on some shit she read in Penthouse and you'll know how it all went. LOLOL.

    That led me to wondering:

    Did you get sex education? In school? Did your parents teach you? Friends? Siblings? Or, was it a learn as you go thing, as it was me?
No sex Ed from my parents, but we did have it in High school.I learned alot from my two older sisters who would explain things to me if I asked them questions on it...xoxo

One can never have enough JOY in their life...


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:08 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Sex Ed? 🤔 hmmm..
    Oh yeah... A buddy of mine who was ten (I was 9), had a deck of cards. Wow! We spent days and weeks examining them. 😎
    And then there was my neighbour. She was a year older than me.
    I was ten when we first played Doctor 😷.

    Now THAT was fricken educational! 👍
After reading over most of the comments, it does seem like "playing doctor" of some sort is one of the highest on the list. Go figure.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:09 am

    Quoting Hanktcd:
    No sex ed from parents at all. HS health covered basics of reproduction w diagrams of anatomy that were not explained. My education was slipshod and still incomplete.
I feel like most of our education was incomplete. Ya know?

Thanks for coming by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:10 am

    Quoting tubesteak66:
    No sex education.........I recall a female classmate asking if I had white stuff in my balls yet? I had no clue what she was talking about. About two weeks later, I had my first wet dream. A week later I masturbated and ejaculated for the first time. The mystery was over & I finally understood what she was talking about!
Wow....quick turnaround.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:11 am

    Quoting ltrskr:
    My sex education came from reading the stories and "How To's" in PlayBoy and Penthouse magazines, then practicing in the back seat of an old Chrysler!
    My Dad did instill one thing in my brain, you knock a girl up and u squat to pee the rest of ur life....
    So I concentrated on oral skills, that worked really out well!

    Great post!
So, you basically learned as I did, from porn.

Thanks for responding and stopping by.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:13 am

    Quoting Granny872:
    My parents taught me nothing, and since I was a total ugly duckling in high school, I had zero chance of going out on an actual date to learn anything, lol.

    College exposed me to some wild roommates, but even they didn't share their knowledge with me.

    I'm basically self-taught when it come to sex
I'm beginning to think the majority of us were self taught.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:14 am

    Quoting Mr_Mercedes:
    As I recall there was some minimalistic formal education coverage, but my Parents did not engage me on the subject. My Father and uncles would drop us boys off (when we were about 12 years old or so) at one of those private trash dump sites in the woods under the premise the old guys were going squirrel hunting for an hour or so. Interestingly there were plenty of these ‘girlie’ / Gentlemen’s magazines laying around and we sort of educated ourselves while we waited for their return.

    Now that I think back, I don’t think we ever heard any gun shots or saw any dead squirrels when they returned. Just a lot of empty beer bottles to add to the trash pile.
I went "hunting" with an ex boyfriend and his friends once, never heard a gunshot the entire time I was with them. They seemed to do a lot of running their mouths and drinking, and not a whole lot of hunting. Seems like a theme here....

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:15 am

    Quoting hogknot:
    Porno and Penthouse
Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:17 am

    Quoting JustlomesumMe:
    As a young lad I had a few neighborhood girls that liked to "Play Doctor" a time or two. So by age 7 I had seen a few naked girls; legs spread and close up. Junior High and High School I was the wall flower/nerd no one wanted anything to do with.
    Basically just like you it was Penthouse and Playboy and the sex books my best friends dad had hid in his closet. Adam & Eve catalogue also helped with an oral sex VCR tap.

    Other than that it has been trial and error.
Play Dr and porn seem to be at the top.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:17 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    I thought I knew it until I signed on this site. Some eyeopeners here.
Facts!

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:18 am

    Quoting pacnwlover42:
    I learned at a young age by reading the Joy of Sex and from Playboy magazines. I had to sneak them out of my parents bedroom though.
Oh, I remember the Joy of Sex, my parents had that too. Woah, talk about a blast from the past.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:20 am

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    Ordered sex manuals by mail, that and porn. We had a kinda sex ed in high school which consisted of warning the girls about boys.
I'm trying to remember if they warned us about boys in school in a formal way, but I can't. It's sad that was the state of sexual education, though.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:20 am

    Quoting Massass1963:
    I believe even the sex educators are still learning. Learning from experience is the preferred method, anyway.
Life is one big educational experience.

Thanks for stopping by and responding.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:21 am

    Quoting Logan0867:
    I vaguely remember some sort of sex ed in middle school...I think they used bananas and condoms...but by then it was old hat for me. Little backstory on me for anyone reading this...my parents were total hippies...dad was a folk rock musician, mom made all our clothes. I don't remember this but my mother told this story to me. We lived down the street from a commune and one time when I was about 5 I came home for lunch.
    "Did you have a good time", mom asked.
    "it was pretty good. I learned a new game today"
    "Oh what game is that" she replied
    "Its called Fuck", I said
    Mom got a strange look on her face "Oh really? and how is played"
    I commenced to tell her about how the game was played. She didn't get upset or punish me even for dropping the f bomb but I don't think I was allowed to go down to that house anymore after that.
Hey babe...how did I know yours was going to include the word commune?

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/30/2020 8:22 am

    Quoting author51:
    No sex Ed from my parents, but we did have it in High school.I learned alot from my two older sisters who would explain things to me if I asked them questions on it...xoxo
I'm glad you had it. More proof Canada is just better.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


Logan0867 53M
212 posts
7/30/2020 7:43 pm

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    Hey babe...how did I know yours was going to include the word commune?
Because it goes so well with hippies? LOL


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/31/2020 8:17 am

    Quoting Logan0867:
    Because it goes so well with hippies? LOL
Probably LOL

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


covidsux99 44M
12 posts
7/31/2020 11:08 am

sex is complicated...my partners remind me all too frequently..lol


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
7/31/2020 12:50 pm

    Quoting covidsux99:
    sex is complicated...my partners remind me all too frequently..lol
It can be, yes.

Thanks for stopping by

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


citizen4722 62M  
68114 posts
8/1/2020 8:31 am

No sex education in school. No wonder it wasn't until I was 22 before I lost my cherry!


EnigmaInitiative 52F  
3984 posts
8/1/2020 9:55 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    No sex education in school. No wonder it wasn't until I was 22 before I lost my cherry!
I don't know why I thought that the UK would have had it in school; I suppose I just see you as more progressive than we are here in the states.

In a sense, sexuality is the built-in psychedelic experience that only a very few people manage to evade.

~Terence McKenna


QuitetheSOP 54M
122 posts
8/10/2020 12:25 pm

In England our sex education only got as far as holding hands and spreading your cape across a puddle to prevent trenchfoot in a lady.

Regards SOP


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/10/2020 12:36 pm:
Pfft, that's not even sex education.

SpoGirl2002 18F
25 posts
8/15/2020 11:43 pm

Thanks


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/16/2020 7:15 am:
For?

Ginnung2 41M
165 posts
8/21/2020 8:23 pm

My parents sat me down with an anatomy textbook when I was very young. I remember correcting the teacher in my first sex ed class in the fourth grade.

I didn't learn much about what sex really meant until I came here. I spent a huge amount of time reading and participating in the advice lines back when that was a thing, and I learned a tremendous amount from that experience.

In particular, it got me thinking about sexual paradigms. Sex, more than anything else in life, is what you decide to make it. People tend to focus so much on the details and mechanics that they lose sight of the big picture which I found to be so very much more rewarding. Figure out what you want sex to mean to you, and the details will take care of themselves.


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/22/2020 9:58 am:
It seems you're one of the few who were actually given some form of an education. How great are your parents.

I don't know that I agree that it's as simple as figuring out what it means and the details working themselves out; I know what sex means to me and many times the details did NOT work themselves out. The details can be important to those of us who enjoy particular details.

Thanks for stopping by and responding

fashionablegma 77F
7961 posts
8/22/2020 2:56 am

It is good they teach it in school,i certainly never was taught it,had my eyes opened in my 50's and learnt from there on


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/22/2020 9:58 am:
I wish they'd teach it here; but you know how puritanical us Americans can be when it comes to such things.

Ginnung2 41M
165 posts
8/23/2020 10:18 am

I should also mention that my parents' frankness about sex led to some odd situations, like the time I walked in on them having sex and said:
"It can wait. Go back to what you're doing."
And walked out.


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/23/2020 11:14 am:
Bwahahaha

I was with guy with young sons, and one of them walked on me giving his dad a blow job.

It was a whole "thing". He thought I was eating his father...

resant78 41M  
2795 posts
8/25/2020 6:32 pm

That's a great question!

Growing up I didn't get any relationship or sex advice from my parents.

When I was in 6th grade, I happened upon a torn out page from a porno mag and I immediately stuffed it in my back pocket (I won't go into detail with how long I kept it) eventually I felt guilty and I burned the page with matches. I was super religious at the time. (which kinda makes me laugh now)

In high school we had a health class that covered reproduction, then we were shown a VHS tape of a woman giving birth in a hospital.

When I went to college, I was still a virgin, and I got my first skin on skin sex lesson from a woman that was twice my age. (long story short) she was my roommate's coworker, we threw a weekend party, her and I hooked up.
She did all the heavy lifting, but I was young and cute.


EnigmaInitiative replies on 8/26/2020 2:04 pm:
Thanks!

Good old health class. We didn't even get the vhs tape with giving birth....of course, we also didn't have vhs tapes when I went through it.

I took my first husband's virginity when he was twenty one. Yours was probably so much more fun than ours.

Bigmorgan20 43M
38 posts
8/27/2020 3:10 pm

nice one!here for the points too thanks


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