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Blogs > uncajerf > Musings and Meanderings

Advice for Ladies (FSM)  

uncajerf 65M
21 posts
4/14/2019 2:36 pm

Last Read:
5/4/2019 10:55 am
Advice for Ladies (FSM)

First, I'm not presuming to tell any of you how to behave, either online or off, especially here; I have been on two other 'regular' dating sites for a few weeks now, and have noticed some things -- which may not apply a whole lot to NoStrings subscribers, but whatever. I have to blog it, and can't do it on those other sites, so...

Ladies, if you're serious about finding a man, then:

1) HAVE A PIC! And not of your dog, a sunset, or a rainbow. Seriously, guys don't care about that sh1t before they get to SEE YOU! 04/05/19 EDIT: VERY risky having a pic with your much hotter friend, unless you are clearly identified.
2) HAVE A PROFILE! In other words, "I'll fill this out later", "Just ask", or "BLAH BLAH BLAH" will only get the shallow ones and slimeballs who only care about your looks -- but see #1.
3) SEE #2, and FILL IT OUT! Again, those only looking for a hookup or to cyber or perv over your pix will not care, but serious guys will. If the latter don't see much in common other than thinking you're hot (but see #1), you may or may not attract the ones you want (likely not, as I'm assuming you don't want the shallow ones only attracted to your looks, though it's your choice).
4) ANSWER YOUR RESPONSES! Unless they're from a$$holes who only message, "Hay baby i wan 2 fuck u!", then feel free to block the creep without reply. Otherwise a polite, "Thank you for your message, but I don't feel an attraction [or insert other answer, such as 'too hairy'; kidding, try to be polite, yes?]". Is it not simple courtesy that you would expect in return?

#4 is optional, but the rest...

Happy hunting (fishing... whatever.)

J
I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think.
bitchkitty2017 71F

4/14/2019 2:53 pm

 yeah ok!


uncajerf replies on 4/14/2019 4:18 pm:
Hiya, bitchykitty; welcome, and thanx for the response!

max221167 56M
2 posts
4/14/2019 2:56 pm

 Nice


uncajerf replies on 4/14/2019 4:19 pm:
Hello, Max; thanx for your response, and welcome!

Morboexcita 52M

4/14/2019 3:16 pm

 Haces bien en avisar a las mujeres.


uncajerf replies on 4/14/2019 5:18 pm:
¡Hola, Morboexcita, y beinvenido! (I'm relying on Google Translate here, as I do not speak Spanish; but obviously you speak English, so thanx for reading, and your comment! J

smileybugg69 53F
397 posts
4/14/2019 4:19 pm

 Answer our responses? So I HAVE to answer like 20 messages a day? Is it more polite to say nothing than to say “damn your ugly” or “no f’n way”?


uncajerf replies on 4/14/2019 4:35 pm:
Hallo, smileybugg, and welcome!

Even so, I personally don't see the difficulty in responding with a simple, "Thanks but not interested" -- c&p it if you want. Of course, I readily admit that I'm not exactly being spammed by 20+ messages a day. At the same time, doubtless many of those could be classified as above in the "Idiot" and "A$$hole" files (see above reply to saltie), so how many does that leave?

Also, I should clarify that my post is mostly directed at serious women, who may or may not be caught dead(?) on this site (as we all know what we're looking for here, more or less, right?). Still, courtesy is courtesy.

Thanx for reading & commenting!

J
P.S. ROFL re: "damn you're ugly" et al. Refer then to adage, "If you can't say something nice...."

jajo696 113F
Ask me for a photo
4287 posts
4/15/2019 5:47 am

 Thanks for this post....its always interesting to see ONEs opinion.

I always keep to: My opinion is not fact....its only fact....to me ~~


uncajerf replies on 4/15/2019 8:25 am:
Hi, jajo, you're welcome & thanx!

You are of course correct about it being only one man's opinion. I would post it on those sites if I could, and maybe conduct a poll, for more or less 'official', responses, but...

J

pagancountrygirl 66F
Ask me for a photo
6466 posts
5/4/2019 8:38 am

 Too hairy???? OMG...I love that! Well, up until I think about a few of the profiles pics I've seen where it looked sort of like a picture of Chewbacca...
Umm...yeah. I don't think they make enough Nair for that...
Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


uncajerf 65M
20 posts
5/4/2019 10:33 am
    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Too hairy???? OMG...I love that! Well, up until I think about a few of the profiles pics I've seen where it looked sort of like a picture of Chewbacca...
    Umm...yeah. I don't think they make enough Nair for that...
LOL, pagan!

Maybe send them a pic of a hedge trimmer? Then again, given the apparent denseness we've been referring to around here, maybe they wouldn't get it.
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Thanx for reading & commenting!

J
I'm not sure that you understand what you thought I said, but I think you'll agree that what I understood you to say is not what I think.


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