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ENHANCING SEX: 2 - Touch
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ENHANCING SEX: 2 - Touch 2. TOUCH We all know how important touch is. We remember it from our childhood. We remember it from when we were growing up … either touching someone else intimately for the first time … or ourselves. Come on. Be honest. I know you’re smiling. Touch has this strange effect on all of us – it brings comfort and it opens us up to smile. Touch conveys secret messages. It conveys warmth. It creates sharing without words. It creates intimacy. The gentleness, the warmth, the caring. Touch is used in this way by many living things. It is something special. Apes and chimps touch in much the same way as we do. Dogs and cats and horses are incredibly social creatures who value touch as a means of conveying feeling. It is the same for all of us. The tenderness is unmistakable. So … why do we, at the pinnacle of evolution, so easily forget the value of touch? When we forget then we invariably also forget the gentleness and the warmth and the caring. Then our relationships suffer. They suffer because we are not giving the necessary comfort nor the necessary hidden, very quiet messages between individuals that are so important. Touch is that important. Do you touch your partner? I don’t mean grabbing her tits or her ass as she passes. I mean her hand, her face, her arm? I mean to show you care and you appreciate her being there? Many men forget to do this and many women lament the loss of that secret communication. If communication goes then the sexual attraction goes and then you’re in trouble. So … is it time to wake up, smell the coffee and realise the value of touch. Please be assured, touch is not a sign of femininity. It is a necessary human function that if missing leaves a yawning gap in communication. Many men are brought up with the mistaken belief that for some strange, warped reason gentle touching is wrong and forbidden. That a slap on the shoulder shows you care and that a slap on the arse is the type of sexual attention every woman appreciates. How wrong this is. As a start try this: she is standing somewhere, anywhere. You are behind her. You are near her. You can feel the warmth radiate from her body. You can feel her breathing. You can smell her hair and her body. Instead of slapping her on the backside and making a joke about it … trying standing behind her (please, in a non-threatening manner!!! – I’m surprised I have to tell you these things) and run your hands up her arms. She will jump. Of course she will. But as long as she doesn’t scream then you’re alright. She might ask you what you’re doing. Tell her honestly that you are just touching her, that you like the feel of her skin and her warmth. Without saying any more she will either understand or she will demand you have a<b> drugs </font></b>test. But, if she’s cool with you touching her arms, then touch the back of her neck. The back of the neck is an incredibly sensual part of a womans body (as is the base of the spine but we’ll get on to that later). If you are brave enough, try kissing the back of her neck – gently now, not too fast, not too hard. Just touch your lips against her skin. Who said touch just had to be with your hands? This is an important point. Where ever you are and you want to initiate sex, try a different approach to simply jumping on the poor woman and pinning her down with your desires. Try touching. For example: you are both in bed. You are feeling frisky. Do what you did before. Start by gently (and I mean gently) touching her arm. When you do this it is important to remember a few points: 1. don’t rush 2. be gentle 3. don’t fidget (women like confidence) 4. look her in the eyes and tell her how much you appreciate her Come on – are you a man or a mouse? Just do it and sound convincing. As you stroke her arm (a few times will be fine and not repeatedly so she becomes annoyed), kiss her hands, kiss her arms, kiss her lips – very, very gently. Your lips are the best thing to touch her with. Just make sure you have brushed your teeth. I can’t believe I have to tell you these things. Gently now and slowly, start kissing down her neck. Feel how she breathes. Feel how she moves. When you reach her breasts (you see, I know you already), take great care. Many women have sensitive nipples. Gently kiss along her breasts, paying special attention to her nipples. Swirl your touch slowly around each nipple and feel that sharp intake of breath. Take your time. There is no rush. It isn’t a competition. You won’t get a gold medal if you cum first. And then … when you slowly make your way down her stomach and down between her legs, just gently brush your tongue along her pussy. It will be wet and it will be warm … but don’t be tempted to dive straight in. Not just yet. Run your tongue along her pussy … and then away, down to the inside of her thighs where you will slowly lick and kiss down to her knees – and then back up again. When you reach her pussy once more, again tease her by just touching her clit with your tongue – and then down the other leg. She will be breathing heavily by now. When you go back up again, this time – oh my goodness – this time you can start playing with her clit, with your tongue – very, very gently. Feel the impact of how you touch. It’s you that’s doing this. And it’s your partner who loves it. Ready for more? |
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