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Plus I don't want to lose my friend. ...... You won't, her bisexuality seems to have surfaced. Women also say that about men she's "Friendzoned". "I don't want to ruin the friendship", women say, although knowing full well the very reason he made contact with her, at all, is because she can provide sex. A good friend [of the opposite sex or same sex when you're bi] has sex with you [being that you're bi, this doubles your chances]. That "Sex-part of you", is just another level of who you are as a person and with whom they can be friends. I think people get possessive/demanding of another person who shows their sex-side of themselves, is because they are afraid someone will come along and take it all away for him/her self, or be better at sex, thereby they would also lose their sex-source.
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That makes alot of sense. It's always used to confuse me how possessive people got over another person. My theory; If, from teen years to advanced ages, they continue to have years of different committed relationships [or just one], almost back to back, they tend to keep their adolescent point of view [maturity rating] regarding sex equating to something special. Being able to have sex for "Fun" just seems inconceivable because they've never allowed themselves that chance.
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Usually the younger they are, the more they want to have a death grip on what they have with someone who is giving them sexual pleasures because, one, it's a brand new very intense feeling, and, two, they don't know there will be more and better. My theory; If, from teen years to advanced ages, they continue to have years of different committed relationships [or just one], almost back to back, they tend to keep their adolescent point of view [maturity rating] regarding sex equating to something special. Being able to have sex for "Fun" just seems inconceivable because they've never allowed themselves that chance.
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Interesting theory. My only counter would be that I think that sex is special. Not only is it a fun way to burn calories but there's a connection that sex brings. I don't mean love. You share and give a part of yourself. At this point time time I can't explain the connection futher being that I'm still young and haven't fully developed my theory. Not only is it a fun way to burn calories .... That it is. But not enough to make a difference before the next doctor physical. but there's a connection that sex brings ... That connection is due to the shot of oxytocin [natures euphoria morphine] that's produced in your brain, and ovaries, and [for men] in his brain and testis. This neuropeptide creates a feeling of connection, or attachment, to the individual. Like I said, to a teenager going through puberty and chemical changes, this oxytocin released into his or her bloodstream through the action of having sex with someone they have an attachment with, and made greater through sex, is absolute bliss never felt before. A total natural high, literally. Did you know that at birth the female experiences a double dose of the neuropeptide oxytocin, from her within her brain and ovaries, so she won't kill her newborn baby for causing her so much pain? But, from the outside, we see this as a mother bonding with her newborn baby. Developing an attachment to him/her. We'd call it love. Sometimes that neuropeptide doesn't fire off and the mother actually does harm to her newborn.
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My only counter would be that I think that sex is special. ... It isn't really. Sex is something we do to reproduce. Poets, writers, minstrels, modern day song writers, oh and media; movies , tv shows, have over glamourized sex and feelings that happen with it, and people have bought into the romanticized notion, usually because in their minds sex is suppose to be a private action. ... But granted, sex is a lot of fun and feels awesome. Not only is it a fun way to burn calories .... That it is. But not enough to make a difference before the next doctor physical. but there's a connection that sex brings ... That connection is due to the shot of oxytocin [natures euphoria morphine] that's produced in your brain, and ovaries, and [for men] in his brain and testis. This neuropeptide creates a feeling of connection, or attachment, to the individual. Like I said, to a teenager going through puberty and chemical changes, this oxytocin released into his or her bloodstream through the action of having sex with someone they have an attachment with, and made greater through sex, is absolute bliss never felt before. A total natural high, literally. Did you know that at birth the female experiences a double dose of the neuropeptide oxytocin, from her within her brain and ovaries, so she won't kill her newborn baby for causing her so much pain? But, from the outside, we see this as a mother bonding with her newborn baby. Developing an attachment to him/her. We'd call it love. Sometimes that neuropeptide doesn't fire off and the mother actually does harm to her newborn. 
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I get your point and I do understand how our brain chemistry works. All I can do right now is just pout and point out that you had more years to develop your theory.
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I know. 
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Cocky, aren't we? 
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I've had more years to develop that, too. 
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See, I'm horrible at it. I offered to rub your butt, but if you want full on "goofy girl" flirt, well, I can manage that too. I wasn't talking about you when I said that, by the way. I was talking about her friend, the one she was dancing with. I don't believe, as you stated to me, that the same kind of communication works for every person. As a matter of fact, I was glad you said that to me, about modifying my words so people will understand me. You too, have a big brain... I should tell you how I made you the woman in the bus station who I followed around in Atlanta. It's a good story. Nerdygirl and BigLala, are you two coming to the party? The bash? Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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nerdygirl721 replies on 8/29/2016 12:01 am: Just waiting for you. Let me see you twerk. Next weekend, when I have room to get my "dance" on Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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Plus I don't want to lose my friend. ...... You won't, her bisexuality seems to have surfaced. Women also say that about men she's "Friendzoned". "I don't want to ruin the friendship", women say, although knowing full well the very reason he made contact with her, at all, is because she can provide sex. A good friend [of the opposite sex or same sex when you're bi] has sex with you [being that you're bi, this doubles your chances]. That "Sex-part of you", is just another level of who you are as a person and with whom they can be friends. I think people get possessive/demanding of another person who shows their sex-side of themselves, is because they are afraid someone will come along and take it all away for him/her self, or be better at sex, thereby they would also lose their sex-source. This was awesome...thank you Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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I ended up not saying, because she acted like nothing happened. She did ask me more questions about my sexual views. I'm taking the wait and see approach. Knowing how she view relationships, I'll just fall back. Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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Usually the younger they are, the more they want to have a death grip on what they have with someone who is giving them sexual pleasures because, one, it's a brand new very intense feeling, and, two, they don't know there will be more and better. My theory; If, from teen years to advanced ages, they continue to have years of different committed relationships [or just one], almost back to back, they tend to keep their adolescent point of view [maturity rating] regarding sex equating to something special. Being able to have sex for "Fun" just seems inconceivable because they've never allowed themselves that chance. Then, I was treated poorly by people I thought were my "friends". Did I make poor choices in partners? Yep, because we didn't take enough time communicating our collective needs. New plan, no sexy times without Clear and Concise Communication Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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My only counter would be that I think that sex is special. ... It isn't really. Sex is something we do to reproduce. Poets, writers, minstrels, modern day song writers, oh and media; movies , tv shows, have over glamourized sex and feelings that happen with it, and people have bought into the romanticized notion, usually because in their minds sex is suppose to be a private action. ... But granted, sex is a lot of fun and feels awesome. Not only is it a fun way to burn calories .... That it is. But not enough to make a difference before the next doctor physical. but there's a connection that sex brings ... That connection is due to the shot of oxytocin [natures euphoria morphine] that's produced in your brain, and ovaries, and [for men] in his brain and testis. This neuropeptide creates a feeling of connection, or attachment, to the individual. Like I said, to a teenager going through puberty and chemical changes, this oxytocin released into his or her bloodstream through the action of having sex with someone they have an attachment with, and made greater through sex, is absolute bliss never felt before. A total natural high, literally. Did you know that at birth the female experiences a double dose of the neuropeptide oxytocin, from her within her brain and ovaries, so she won't kill her newborn baby for causing her so much pain? But, from the outside, we see this as a mother bonding with her newborn baby. Developing an attachment to him/her. We'd call it love. Sometimes that neuropeptide doesn't fire off and the mother actually does harm to her newborn. How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? You can communicate, sure. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person? Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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I think sex can be special when it's between two people who care about the actual experience of their partner. How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? You can communicate, sure. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person?
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Thank you for being able to put in words the concept that I only had a part of. Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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See, I'm horrible at it. I offered to rub your butt, but if you want full on "goofy girl" flirt, well, I can manage that too. I wasn't talking about you when I said that, by the way. I was talking about her friend, the one she was dancing with. I don't believe, as you stated to me, that the same kind of communication works for every person. As a matter of fact, I was glad you said that to me, about modifying my words so people will understand me. You too, have a big brain... I should tell you how I made you the woman in the bus station who I followed around in Atlanta. It's a good story. Nerdygirl and BigLala, are you two coming to the party? The bash? 
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I hope You both can make it. BigLala, For You PsstBigLala Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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In my case? I've had lots of sex just for fun... Then, I was treated poorly by people I thought were my "friends". Did I make poor choices in partners? Yep, because we didn't take enough time communicating our collective needs. New plan, no sexy times without Clear and Concise Communication
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A good guideline to follow about men and sex, always approach sex with him as if it's for play, not seriousness. Then you'll be fine. I said to a man, this is "just for fun" He agreed. Guess what happened to me? I ended up in court, prosecuting a stalker. I will stick with getting to know someone first. Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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I think sex can be special when it's between two people who care about the actual experience of their partner. How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? You can communicate, sure. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person? How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? ... You won't ever know until you jump on them and spend organic time together. Anyone can talk up a magnanimous sexual resume. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. ... Sometimes that reasonably happens in the beginning. Number one is looking for pleasure. Maybe if, or when, you connect on other levels then pleasuring the other will become more normal as you know more about them. But first you have to build that connectedness/attachment with them, if they are willing. And first, it's a good idea to approach sex on a selfish level. Basically you're having sex for fun, not anything deep and meaningful. If that happens, it happens later. But withholding sex completely until those other connections are established, won't work. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person?... Without spending actual time with them, can't ever be done. You won't know how deep the pool is until you step in and wade around.
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I think sex can be special when it's between two people who care about the actual experience of their partner. .... Yes, it can be, but the selfish sex is fun too, or even the fast and furious quickies are pretty damn awesome, too. How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? ... You won't ever know until you jump on them and spend organic time together. Anyone can talk up a magnanimous sexual resume. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. ... Sometimes that reasonably happens in the beginning. Number one is looking for pleasure. Maybe if, or when, you connect on other levels then pleasuring the other will become more normal as you know more about them. But first you have to build that connectedness/attachment with them, if they are willing. And first, it's a good idea to approach sex on a selfish level. Basically you're having sex for fun, not anything deep and meaningful. If that happens, it happens later. But withholding sex completely until those other connections are established, won't work. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person?... Without spending actual time with them, can't ever be done. You won't know how deep the pool is until you step in and wade around. Let's just agree to disagree. You think sex that is fast and furious is pretty damn awesome...I think it sucks. Difference of opinion You and I are different people who don't connect on a mind level, it's cool. Shall we just agree to disagree, rather than have fruitless arguments over who is right and who is wrong? I'll live my life my way, and you live your life your way. Easy peasy Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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Interesting, because I've approached men with that EXACT statement. I said to a man, this is "just for fun" He agreed. Guess what happened to me? I ended up in court, prosecuting a stalker. I will stick with getting to know someone first. But don't spend too much time "Getting to know him" before having sex. [lets say the guy is normal] showing no sexual interest is not going to keep him interested. If you're interested, you need to communicate that , too.
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I think sex can be special when it's between two people who care about the actual experience of their partner. .... Yes, it can be, but the selfish sex is fun too, or even the fast and furious quickies are pretty damn awesome, too. How could a person possibly know if sex is going to be good, or if someone is going to put forth the effort? ... You won't ever know until you jump on them and spend organic time together. Anyone can talk up a magnanimous sexual resume. But, so many people are "looking out for number one", and could care less how the experience is going to be for the other person. ... Sometimes that reasonably happens in the beginning. Number one is looking for pleasure. Maybe if, or when, you connect on other levels then pleasuring the other will become more normal as you know more about them. But first you have to build that connectedness/attachment with them, if they are willing. And first, it's a good idea to approach sex on a selfish level. Basically you're having sex for fun, not anything deep and meaningful. If that happens, it happens later. But withholding sex completely until those other connections are established, won't work. So, how are we supposed to figure that out without spending actual time with the person?... Without spending actual time with them, can't ever be done. You won't know how deep the pool is until you step in and wade around. I can name at least one person on this site I'm having sex with on a regular basis. You are not blocked from my blog, he posts there sometimes. He knows how many people I've been with...he's met some of the people I've "been" with. I don't feel the need to boast or play games, I'm here to have a good time and hopefully teach people something. If those people can't have an open mind and be willing to learn from each and every person they meet? We won't get along. And, it seems, at least to me..Heathen...you want to be right all the time. And, maybe in your realm, in your world, in your way of life...you are right all the time. In my head, in my world, you are wrong. And, you know what else? I am wrong all the time...so maybe I'm wrong about you. However, it seems to me, that you want to "push" your views onto other people. You don't seem to want to debate. It seems, at least to me, you want to push an agenda. What agenda? Have all women available for sex with anyone I don't withhold sex from anyone unless that person makes no effort to connect with me on a mind level. No need for boasting or "making up a magnanimous sexual resume". I'll point you in the direction of at least one person who thinks I fucked one of the men she was seeing. I didn't fuck him, but she thinks I did. Here's the thing, I will come back if you answer me, if nerdygirl allows me too. Why? it's her blog, and she's, I believe, my friend. Would I fuck her? Better fucking believe it. Why? She's taken the time to get to know me, and I love her brain. Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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