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Writing Each Other Off A Poem
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Writing Each Other Off A Poem I almost breathed a sigh of relief To find that someone I had Thought so utterly fascinating Was just ordinary. Not deserving of hero worship As I had been experiencing. I cannot say why I feel sad and Somewhat deflated. I guess it is the loss Of what could have been The fulfillment of dreams Whose nature was epic. He was just a man Not perfect This could make It easier for him To find me attractive Now that I think of it. We could be Imperfect together Now wouldn't that be something? But I doubt that will happen Since he has fallen In stature I have less of an urge To make an all out effort. I do still wish us to be friends As we have a lot in common. Our love of sports And a similar view of politics. What can I say? It was a long shot anyway. I was not his usual type Now I can feel A little less distressed Beat myself up a little less As I am inclined to Also writing him off. Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely |
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Being just friends , would not be a good idea. No man , with any woman should resign to being just friends , after having an intimate situation. Even if a man pursues a woman, never gets to anything intimate, and she tells him , "No, but we can be friends", [something to that regard], he should walk away.
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What he said ^^* o
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we need to chat more. Embrace the suck
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We never had an intimate situation. We only exchanged messages and chatted. I also think that lovers can be friends afterward if it does not work out. It is not the ideal situation but if one is honest about their lives then it is better to be friends than enemies or indifferent. Wishing someone well is always the goal with me. I would not like to tell an ex lover to go to hell. That is not what I would want them to think of me either. LOL We only exchanged messages and chatted..... Yep, wasting time. I also think that lovers can be friends afterward if it does not work out. ... No. If you tell a guy, whom you've had sex with , "No more sex , but lets be friends", and he agrees, he's an idiot. Now, as just your friend, he is giving you support, validation, emotional attention and he is no longer getting the physical attention he initially wanted from you . Physical attention was his reason for getting with you, or any woman, in the first place. It is not the ideal situation but if one is honest about their lives then it is better to be friends than enemies or indifferent. ... No . This new situation is a scam. He's being ripped off, by you friendzoning him. Wishing someone well is always the goal with me. .....Fine , do that while saying , "Good-bye", not , "Be my friend, give me attention, validate my looks , talk to me, listen to me, go home". I would not like to tell an ex lover to go to hell. .... You have if he was lousy and mean to you. You certainly wouldn't invite him to be your friend, you certainly wouldn't want him giving you attention. That is not what I would want them to think of me either. ... When a woman is an ex-lover, most men walk away immediately. What he thinks , is up to him. No reason to stick around, being friendzoned, dealing with the woman. Some [the men with low self esteem] might take awhile to leave completely, but eventually there is no more contact with the woman, his ex.
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2/27/2018 1:05 pm |
If nothing more was meant to be, then let a friendship keep you together. A friendship that is real without expectations.
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If nothing more was meant to be, then let a friendship keep you together. A friendship that is real without expectations.
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You are showing that you are the sucker for missing out on being a friend. Unless of course you are a lousy lover in the first place and the woman has no use for you whatsoever. Be friends with her? She gets all the attention, admiration, validation, talks, listening.....but he gets the gay badge of sucker. No. To be friends with a woman whom he was sexually involved with , is seriously messed up and very much showing of a low self esteem problem. Unless of course you are a lousy lover ... No,...lousy or great lover, he should still walk away from the train wreck. the woman has no use for you whatsoever. ... The woman always has "USE" for a man who stays around and will listen to her.. When a woman chooses not to engage sexually anymore... ha.. he must dump her on her ass and get out of there.
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I really think you need to take up your women hating ways with a psychiatrist/psychologist. Because only a hater of women would think women do not rate as friends. If someone is not interested in sex anymore, that does not make them inhuman. I will tell you a story(not that you deserve that). My brother has managed to stay friends with most of his ex girlfriends. In fact at our Mother's funeral, three of them attended along with his current girlfriend. My brother has his faults but for some reason his exes can forgive him eventually and they can even joke about those faults. You see, having a sense of humor makes life better for everyone. Because only a hater of women would think women do not rate as friends. .... See you're getting all emotional now, and clouding your understanding of what you read. I didn't say women can't be friends. I said, when a man has had an intimate sexual situation with a woman, and she stops the sex, demotes him to her "Sounding board", aka friendzoned , aka gay buddy... he must dump her ass and walk away. If someone is not interested in sex anymore, that does not make them inhuman. ... When a woman is not interested in having sex anymore with him, she needs to be let go. Don't waste time with her. My brother has managed to stay friends with most of his ex girlfriends. .... The poor guy should wise up and walk away from these women.. In fact at our Mother's funeral, three of them attended along with his current girlfriend. .... Doesn't matter if they attended. These women have him friendzoned. This isn't good for him. How would you feel if you brother kept maybe just one ex for purely sexual purposes? Bang her, leave. Come back in a week or two...bang her, leave.. You'd get all upset with him. Same thing a woman does , except instead of banging him, she uses him to validate her feelings, listen to her, talk to her... then leaves...Comes back in a week or two when she needs an ear. No man should be there for an intimate ex , in this way. .... The only possible exception? Maybe having "HIS" own kid with her, then he's stuck by proxy.
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