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Finished Good afternoon everyone, This will be shorter but I will finish it. On the 6th of this month, my husband and I drove to Rosarito Beach, Baja MX for a week and to visit the construction of the condo we have purchased there. The first night there I had my wallet stolen. I had no credit cards in it but I had my driver's licences, medical cards, medicare card and a check book. I call my bank immediately and they put a hold on everything. So I didn't worry about and just knew I would have to waste time at the DMV, SS, banks ect. I couldn't use my phone there and had called on my husband's phone. So I wasn't using my phone but on the 10th I saw a terrible message from my sister in law, telling me my brother had taken a fall. We drove up to San Diego and booked into a hotel there so I could make calls. My sister in law told me he had taken a fall, flat on his face and shattered his nose and broke his neck and wasn't breathing when the EMT's arrived and they put a breathing tube in because there was no DNR on record. He was moved to ICU and the saga begins. That was on a Saturday and the doctors said they would remove the tube on Monday and operate on his neck. So they pulled the tube and he couldn't breathe but they put it back in and proceeded with the surgery, going in though his throat. The next day they took him back in and worked from the back of his neck and fused C1-C7 and laminated it. Now he would never be able to move his head again. On the 15th they removed the tube and he was breathing. They did a Cat Scan that day and came to my sister in law and said he would never be able to eat food again and did she want to put in a tummy tube. I had been on the phone with her during all this. I was gentle with her but in the absince of that DNR I asked her if Jim would want to live like this? He wasn't responsive to doctors, her, his or his environment. I asked to speak to his doctors and one called me and he said the fall had done massive brain damage. I asked him why he had not told my sister in law this? So he did inform them and it was his suggestion that Jim be with hospice. So that night they moved him to hospice and put on morphine. The next morning my dear brother passed on and now is free of this dreaded disease and all the unnecessary surgeries with that pain. I am happy for him but still the tears come at time, for no apparent reason. What I want to say now is that if you don't have a will, at least put a DNR in your medical chart. It's such agony for your loved ones that won't know your wishes with out one. As a retired RN I have seen this scenario play out so many times. My brother would never have wanted to even be revived by the EMT's. I know that in my heart of hearts. With all his fortune he didn't have a will. Of course that had been married for 43 years so my sister in law will have no money worries but the emotional impact of watching him in die in this way was so unnecessary. I beg you not to put your families though his. Hugs and Kisses Judy |
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Wow so sad to hear. I totally agree with you.
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1 post 6/20/2017 2:20 pm |
such a sad story... may god give u enough stregth to tide over
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May you and your family have peace in your hearts
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family/ You advice is so correct and hope that everyone takes note to make our lives easier at troubling times. God Bless
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que historia, mis mejores deseos!!
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Once again so sorry for your loss Judy and your advice is right on the money. I don't have anything to tell I want DNR on my will but that is going to be taken care of before this week is out... xox Jerry
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Hi, I am so sorry to read this and my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know that words can never express what you all are going thru, just know we are all here for you. Smooch!!
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6/23/2017 7:22 am |
My deepest condolences to you and your family dear heart. The DNR addition seems a bit extreme and yet the suffering and loss of Quality of Life that invasive surgeries cause make the DNR the best thing to have. He is at peace and I hope that the shock of his passing becomes bearable. All my best wishes. Bob M
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I feel the pain he endured because I to had or have cervical spine problems. They went in the front of his neck and fused C2 and C3 from my own pelvic bone craft . Also C4 - C6 have 2 plates, 6 screws and 3 pads for artificial disc holding them apart. It's been 4 years and I still receive epidural injections for the pain. I have swallowing issues as well that keep closing off and gets food caught. Most of the vertebrates were either flat, bone to bone and C7 had caused irreversible damage to the spinal cord. Mainly it's was from off road motorcycles and dune buggy crashes. I never had a problem until my left arm was tingling and going lifeless at a age 60. By the way you are one stunning beautiful woman.
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Hi, Passionately! It’s been some time since have been connected! You knew me as JustHrnyM! Hope we can reconnect!
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