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Observation #1 on being a single Male on AFF
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Observation #1 on being a single Male on AFF I recently had an email exchange with someone that left me shaking my head a little bit. There are soo many stereotypes about single men on NoStrings that permeate the consciousness of the average woman (or even the avarage couple) that it can become a bit depressing and disappointing. It's true, there are many guys who fall into the desperate, lonely, wierd, sex crazed and fiendish categories, but not all of us are that way. Here's the situation: I met a woman on chat and we seemed to hit it off. Conversation was easy, we seemed to be into the same things and decided to try to meet up in a few days on the weekend. I then got off chat and proceeded to get back to real world. Later that day, I got a message from her asking if I could meet that same night. I had made previous plans and could not, so I asked for a rain check and she said sure. I didn't hear from her on the weekend so I reached out and got no response. I reached out again a few days later to say good luck to her in her search because I realized that she was not interested, which was cool. Weeks go by, and I finally receive an email from her, actually two messages. Both of them seem to have gibberish messages, so I responded and asked what was up and if this was a sign that she was still interested etc. I received a terse and nasty reply which basically said " I don't know you, never spoke to you, would not be interested in you etc. " Its as if she thought I was a desperate dude clawing for her attention who needed to slapped away fiercely to get the message that she was not interested. look, I get it... women are bombarded by hundreds of messages... but still, if you don't have anything nice to say, its better not to say anything at all. So heres my observation: Due to the sheer number contacts that approach women ( or due to a of lack of social graces), if you are a single guy, be prepared for some nasty responses and grow a thick skin. M |
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I've noticed all too often that you send a nice well-crafted message it gets ignored and you find the same people going on about bad messages that they do respond to I think they call it baiting.it always reminds me of that Paul McCartney song misogyny and misandry JB Using more than all the road!
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I feel awful when I hear about some of the things women say to guys on here. Because it's so easy to not say anything at all if you aren't interested. A lot of women complain about the types of messages they get but many of the men have had nastiness to deal with, too. I've been reading a lot of blogs lately...so many riprimanding men for various offenses (and I do understand the female's perspective too....I've done a little complaining myself) but it's pretty amazing that you guys handle it so well. And most of you do. Kudos. Hang in there. There are actually some of us that know there are some great guys on here.
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Acck...where's the edit button. Spelling. Should be 'reprimanding'.
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Irregardless of being bombarded with messages on here, and believe me they go from the sublime to the ridiculous, thats still no reason to take it out on the good guys. You may just have had a lucky escape.
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