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There Are Real People Here!
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There Are Real People Here! Often times, people online forget one or two major things about online communication, based on what is happening to THEM at that moment. First, many people forget that there are real people behind these nicknames. There are real people who feel real pain and cry and have bad days and cry and take offense at something due to their OWN lives and cry and and and - did I mention cry? One day in a chat room, many years ago when I used to use the IM programs, a so-called Master (more than likely a kiddie dom) - I suppose in order to feed his overwrought ego - lambasted a poor submissive who was not only new to the Internet and new to chat programs, but new to her just realized submissive nature. She got on the microphone and was crying, big sobs and obviously in some real pain. Believe it or not, the kiddie dom in question apologized profusely. Yeah, I know what some of you are thinking, the submissive/slaves saying, what? a Dom Dom apologizing, no way! And the Dominants saying, admit weakness or the extremely remote possibility that One of Our Brethren made a mistake???? Heaven forfend! But that is what happened folks. I was there. He actually stated that he didn't know how anything as harmless as what he said could cause that much anguish. And, no, no storybook ending, no relationship leading to BDSM heaven or little D/s running around or anything like that. The point is, you do not have any idea, usually, what that person you are 'yelling' at has been going through - that day, that month, that lifetime. And the second point is that words can hurt, can cause real pain. Sometimes, even the best of us, can say something just a bit too harsh, a bit to cutting, a bit too forceful. We might think it is 'cool' to use our rapier-like wit, our cutting edge rancor, our almost blasphemous like indignation to make a simple point! It is not necessary, but more to the point, it can hurt unintentionally. And it is that 'unintentional' slight that we often justify in the name of the fight against mediocrity. Leave the mediocre alone, please. They have feelings too. Words can be used to hurt, to help, to caress, to teach, to intensify and to pulverize the very psyche of Human Beings. Using them should be an<b> enormous </font></b>responsibility - and that responsibility should actually be felt, palpably.... So, think, care, and be responsible with your words and your appreciation of the other person, online, just as you would offline to someone's face. After all, the 'nose' you save may very well be your own 
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I have been a victim of a Dominant who failed to realize that "With great power comes great responsibility." He enjoyed the power, but neglected the responsibility.  The results were almost fatal. As a Professional Dominatrix, I am very aware of the effect of my words on submissives. (I believe our words are far more important than our actions in D/s.) In my situation it could be considered a legal obligation, but everybody should have the same moral obligation.
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I agree. The moral obligations are paramount. Thank you for your comment.
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