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Is Sexuality Intimidation?
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Is Sexuality Intimidation? Men yearn for a woman that is in tune to her body. Desires rise for a woman who knows what she wants. Women enter into the age of the 40's and an intangible blossoming of a comfortable sensuality blooms. Sounds like a utopia? But can a woman who knows what her body is craving and her mind is yearning for, be something of an intimidation for a man? Can a woman comfortable with her sexuality, and her desires, be something of a discomfort to a man? Does her sensuousness make her cheaper in the eyes of a man and seem almost whoreish? Can a passionate woYet isnt this everything a man yearns for, hopes for and wishes to experience? To find himself unable to know how to enjoy this treasure, this gift that was bestowed upon him as his ony true gift, and instead make him feel insecure and intimidated. In return it makes the woman ashamed of her sensuousness and sexuality? I am trying to come to grips with such a thought. I would really like feedback on this, as I have found this a phenomenom I have encountered. |
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6/2/2009 1:35 pm |
Ya know, sometimes i think my hubby thinks i'm whoreish and we have been married for 15 yrs and i DO think it intimidates them, and maybe that's because we are NOW comfortable with ourselves and men just don't know how to handle it.
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6/2/2009 1:38 pm |
still men will always find a woman's sensual side a bit intimidating and more so when she has desires that seek no bounds and desires.cheaper in a mans eyes never since woman have needs just like men and those that think woman are whorish well put in one word intimidated to the highest degree .if men can be called whore dogs and not looked down on it should be the same for women not a double standard.
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6/2/2009 1:50 pm |
for now i am speechless......and thats hard to do...lol....you should be a writer i love you! frankie
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6/2/2009 1:51 pm |
you know, I am more comfortable with a woman open about her sexuality then closed and am never intimidated by the situation you describe. A man needs, in my opinion, to best enjoy his life when watching and sharing a partner enjoy hers so that means few limitations on sexuality. The phenomenon you describe is only so strange because more men do not simply accept the gifts they are given but try to control them,
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funny you asked me to read this i had a similar conversation with a woman in vegas last week about sensuality and sexuality it seems the more open a woman is with her sexuality, and her sensuousness, that some men would be intimidated, and that is truly there loss a few will cherish it embrace it and explore it as well as there own to me the heights of passion can't be reached if one of the two is not open to feeling it or is intimidated no where in my vocabulary does it mean whoreish and personally i am morer turned on by woman who has realized her sexuality and i do embrace it and grow from it
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6/2/2009 2:32 pm |
It depends on the looks of the woman,how she dresses and acts.For some guys its a challenge to grab a woman like that of (sensual perfection), but for others seems unobtainable.
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Aww cum ere hun I promise not to judge.
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OK Still i have to agree with DB, but i have been the guy you are talking about,but im trying to change that about me ,but women that know exactly what they seek,tend to intimadate guys or so it seems to me . But dont you dare change you ,its your heart and ghappiness that counts the most ,so if your happy to hell with the guy .
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I met my first truely "in tune" woman at 44. She was 42. I have never captured that again. Everyone has an opinion on this I'm sure, and you know what they say about opinions. Some that I read in reply here are quite judgemental about men in general. Rather than generalize about men or women, why not see it as chemistry between two people? I KNOW when I'm "connected". It's part mental, part physical, and in part quite intangible. When you can look at a person who has ultimate value to you, how can you not throw caution to the wind? If you cant, I might suggest you're with the wrong person. I bet we all have "settled" for something or someone, at some point in our lives. Sometimes, having the conviction to hold out for something grand is worth the emotional investment. It isn't "men this" or "women that", it's the personal choice we make as individuals. Dare to be different. 
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6/2/2009 6:52 pm |
Still honey that was very well written and i personally am not intimidated by a self confadent woman.I knew Driversbabe was self confadent when i seen her again at 21 when i worked for the carnival in California. I just wish i had the balls then to walk up to her and plant a big ole kiss on her hehe.Still someguys are afraid of a self confadent woman and others are just assholes lol.
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6/2/2009 6:56 pm |
I agree with Gary. Both men and women have issues with acceptance of their sexuality and who they are. It really is about the connection that 2 specific people have with either other. It's either there or it's not. But it's definitely not worth changing yourself or beating yourself up for not living up to what you think their expectations might be or even your own. Being true to yourself is the only way to make yourself happy. And if some guy can't accept that then it really wasn't meant to be with that person.
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Lush makes some very good points... Insecure men are intimidated by women that are confident with themselves and their sexuality. Some men are afraid of being a disappointment sexually and believe if they are their woman is going to find someone who's not a disappointment. That's their issue not yours. Being comfortable with sexuality and desires is great. I might suggest that the "behaviors" a woman comfortable with herself and her sexuality displays may be the intimidation factor.
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1 post 6/3/2009 9:37 am |
Stilly, I really don't find it intimidating at all. I would love to find a woman who has it ALL together. Only problem I've experienced is getting the whole woman. I've been wondering if sanity and libido are mutually exclusive characteristics. To find them both in one woman would be a dream come true. Jake is truly a very lucky man!
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Still, I so know what you are talking about. and it isn't just feeling like there is something wrong with me, but they don't even have the courtesy to talk to me again. for the longest time, I thought there was something wrong because sex wasn't as good for me as everyone said it should be. Then I hit my 40's...and life is definitely making it up to me.  But for some reason, I can't seem to find anyone who isn't intimidated, (ok except for one or two sub's which I cannot do, must have a man stand up to me, lol), I cannot stand the used and discarded feeling just because they're not strong enough in their own masculinity.
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Hey babe... I love it when a women is comfortable in her body..Then IO know what to do and how I can do it.
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11/8/2009 3:37 pm |
Still, you said what you belive so well... would be a adventure to explore something of your desires with a women of your taste and beauty. You explain so well...
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What a wonderful question and one that must truly come from your heart. I have never been anything but complimented and intrigued by a woman that knows herself and expresses it to me. It doesn't have to be sexual in nature, either. A confident woman is a turn on. If she knows that she has a sexual need that needs to be filled, it doesnt cheapen her, it enhances her. It gives me the knowledge that she is in control of herself. That is a GOOD thing. That is not to say that people cannot cheapen themselves through their behavior. They can and often do. The "attitiude" behind the desire is everything. A classy woman does not throw herself at men, She gives them the opportunity to ask a question she has already said YES to. That is my opinion. Yari Inspire me!
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11/18/2009 10:18 am |
You would be surprised how many men will NOT appraoch a confident woman. Many a nights I am alone and wonder why? Is it perhaps that men dont think they have a chance with a confident woman? Or is it intimidation?
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I think it is a little of both, Stillwater. I have been a bit shy around women regardless of their confidence level. I guess it is my confidence level that is in question, in this case. I have always wondered why the man must be the aggressor? What is that about? Ug.. ug... grab woman by hair and drag into cave.... I would think most of us have advanced a little past that, so why can't a confident woman engage a man in conversation herself or at least know to send the right signal to get a shy man off his butt. Leads to another question... is a shy guy less attractive to a confident woman? Gee... stop me.. quick. Inspire me!
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11/24/2009 3:51 am |
Dont get me started the comments I have from your last comment, it could be another blog. I'll tell you why I prefer men to be the aggressor. First I am a bit old fashioned and still enjoy chivalry. I dont like being the aggressor because most men will go after anything. I want the man to WANT me truly and come get me, not just say hey she wants me I'll go for it, because a man would. Women are picky usually. Although this isnt always the norm it is a general consensus. Plus the chase is SO fun
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A woman who is in touch w/ her sexuallity I've found is rare in younger women. Insecurities have to take a back seat to WANT! The best thing to happen to me at 19 and 28 were women who were 37 and 46 years old, VERY attractive and comfortable with themselves who truely enjoyed sex. I miss it dearly as the standard repressed American male. American natives had it right- when you were old enough to marry, the young were married to older of the opposite sex, and when they died, you were given a younger spouse- the sex drives are matched much better that way. I dearly miss those unbridled experiences........and want more! MUCH more......
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