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Trying to find the spirit
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Trying to find the spirit I refuse to do the Black Friday thing. I will not subject myself to insane shoppers pushing and shoving and grabbing things like territorial dogs fighting over a chew toy. That kind of a display of human tendencies makes me feel despair. Growing up without Christmas wasn't as terrible a thing as some would assume. When I needed something I got it, even if it wasn't exactly what I wanted, and I had a vivid imagination and my brothers to play with. I didn't need a ton of toys. My mom may have dressed me funny, but it sure does let you know who your friends are.  I had a wonderful escape in books. I'd read my favorites over and over and the library was my wonderful place. I did the Christmas thing with my first ex and his family. It was ok, but I still felt like something was missing. I'm not a good gift receiver. I like practical things that I can use. I have no use for stuff, yet every year I'd get more stuff that just sits there. I always say thank you, but sometimes I'm just sighing inside and wondering how soon it would be considered rude for it to "disappear". It just seems like such a waste of time and money to me. Not that I'm not grateful that I was thought of, I am. When I shop for gifts for others I try to be both practical and to make sure it's something personal and unique to that person. It takes me a lot of time to find the right thing for the right person sometimes. I don't do the religious aspect of Christmas. For me it's all about the and Santa. The magic and beauty. I've never lied to the and told them that Santa is real, I explain about the magic of believing in something wonderful and the spirit of giving. I leave it up to them what they wish to believe, what makes them happy. I asked the what they want for Christmas this year and they've told me that they have everything that they really want or need. They each have more clothes than they really need.(For the record, I don't dress them funny.  ) And they all have a bunch of toys, game systems, electronic gadgets, ect. I was telling a friend of mine about this and he came up with a wonderful idea. Hope chests. One for each to be filled with things that they will need when they are old enough to be on their own. I have more years to fill them for some than others obviously, but the oldest being 12 that's still plenty of time to add to it on birthdays and Christmas, ect. I can help them each decorate their own in their own unique designs. They can each pick colors and themes to help fill them up. I wonder how much their tastes will change over the years.  Knowing how much are always anxious to grow up, having some grown up things in a box of their very own I think will show them that it will happen sooner than any of us is really prepared to think about right now. It will mark a very important milestone in their lives. Becoming independent. I got thinking about this and I know that it will happen someday. They will all grow up. Someday they will all leave the nest. As it's supposed to be. I wonder if I will be ready for that when it comes. And so for now, I look at them each in the age that they are at, enjoy them as they are, and help them to prepare for the future that none of us are quite ready for yet.  If you could have any gift, what would it be? Do you have Christmas spirit?  |
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11/29/2009 7:59 pm |
I could really go for some of that blissful ignorance I keep hearing about. At this point, I'd even settle for a lobotomy, that's gotta be pretty close. I'm not a Christmas person anymore, I just don't like the pressure of getting the right gifts for people, and if I want something I buy it, or at least I used to. And since my birthday follows right after, it's just another reminder that my better years are all behind me, and to be honest, they weren't that good. So yeah, I get a little grinchy this time of year.
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i don't like the comercalization of christmas most of them i have worked so sometimes it's niether here or there with me. Now for the gifts. Giving- i would love to give someone my time so that they could sit and say anything they want knowing someone is listening, Receiving- What i would like is someone with a kind heart so i can share time and space with. so really these things are about the same. Truth,kindness and respect is what i give,and thats all i ask in return How to treat the ladies There39s a right way and a wrong way
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11/30/2009 9:32 am |
I hate getting gifts. It's not the grinch in me, just that it feels like a waste. I need nothing really. I don't even really want anything. Travel vouchers would be good though! Maybe an extra year or two added on to my life? More practically, give me something I can give to someone who needs it, and without guilt. Yeah, that'd be good.
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I'm thinking about digging out the tree. Maybe tomorrow... If I had $500 to spare it'd be yours. (Or was it $600???) 
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Mine was found!  I'm getting there... Maybe I should recruit some help.
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I could really go for some of that blissful ignorance I keep hearing about. At this point, I'd even settle for a lobotomy, that's gotta be pretty close. I'm not a Christmas person anymore, I just don't like the pressure of getting the right gifts for people, and if I want something I buy it, or at least I used to. And since my birthday follows right after, it's just another reminder that my better years are all behind me, and to be honest, they weren't that good. So yeah, I get a little grinchy this time of year.  I might get that way too if it weren't for the midgets. So come have some milk and cookies with me. That'd be alright.
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I couldn't agree more. I'm so happy for you!
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i don't like the comercalization of christmas most of them i have worked so sometimes it's niether here or there with me. Now for the gifts. Giving- i would love to give someone my time so that they could sit and say anything they want knowing someone is listening, Receiving- What i would like is someone with a kind heart so i can share time and space with. so really these things are about the same. The gift of friendship is wonderful to give and receive.
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Definitely more of a girly gift, unless it's like a pirates chest. Can't shoot zombies with one though. The oldest once told me that she was never going to move out because she doesn't want to have to pay rent anywhere.  Maybe I shouldn't make it so pleasant? I'm sure she'll come around when it's time. Me too!
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I don't do commercial Christmas any more...just me and my 5 furries so I don't bother with kamakaze shopping...it would be nice to spend the holidays with someone who cared. 
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Looks like you'll be having a lot of fun under your tree! I hope you get your rabbit and plenty of batteries too.
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I hate getting gifts. It's not the grinch in me, just that it feels like a waste. I need nothing really. I don't even really want anything. Travel vouchers would be good though! Maybe an extra year or two added on to my life? More practically, give me something I can give to someone who needs it, and without guilt. Yeah, that'd be good. The gift of your time and compassion is always appreciated.
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I'm getting into the Christmas spirit (slowly) again. I want the entire recently re-mastered Beatles cd collection for Christmas. You can buy them singularly, but the set looks good in it's box. I've got all the albums on vinyl and although some are rare, I wish I had an original gold/black label copy of the first LP. 
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I'm getting into the Christmas spirit (slowly) again. I want the entire recently re-mastered Beatles cd collection for Christmas. You can buy them singularly, but the set looks good in it's box. I've got all the albums on vinyl and although some are rare, I wish I had an original gold/black label copy of the first LP.
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That sounds lovely. Can't wait to have grandkids? Always room around my tree for more company. The kids may torture you though. Fair warning.
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I'm looking my whole life for the xmas spirit,never found it and stopped searching, for me it's just a normal sunday. The greatest gift would be if my kids were home that day but they both have to work ..so it will be lonely this xmas for me _ _ _ _ _ it's better to live and do the things today than to be sorry tomorrow 
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I'm looking my whole life for the xmas spirit,never found it and stopped searching, for me it's just a normal sunday. The greatest gift would be if my kids were home that day but they both have to work ..so it will be lonely this xmas for me I hope you're not lonely on Christmas, there's still plenty of time to make plans.
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