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"True Friends" does anyone know what that means?  

indymanandwife0 50M/49F
303 posts
12/28/2008 7:28 pm
"True Friends" does anyone know what that means?
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indygirl1977 46F
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12/28/2008 7:35 pm

 I am with you and I do not do one sided friendships. There are a few people from this website that I considered friends at one point along this journey in life that have become very one sided and well I just can't waste my energy on them any longer. One way streets do not work in the communication department. There is only so much give you can give without getting back. Seems to be a few flakes around here. But as I notice that some of these people who I thought were friends in my life have fallen off the face of the earth my world has been much calmer. Who knows.

Love you guys.


49AK 62M
1820 posts
12/29/2008 12:04 am

 I completely understand your frustration. I think NoStrings selects for people who aren't really all that interested in a deep friendship... But I have been surprised... I have met some incredibly wonderful NoStrings people.

But that same problem isn't limited to NoStrings... Some relationships seem so one-sided.

I think the key is to find the ones that work for you and cultivate them. The one-sided ones are one-sided for a reason.

(I call those 'vampires')


indymanandwife0 50M/49F
221 posts
12/30/2008 4:53 am
    Quoting indygirl1977:
    I am with you and I do not do one sided friendships. There are a few people from this website that I considered friends at one point along this journey in life that have become very one sided and well I just can't waste my energy on them any longer. One way streets do not work in the communication department. There is only so much give you can give without getting back. Seems to be a few flakes around here. But as I notice that some of these people who I thought were friends in my life have fallen off the face of the earth my world has been much calmer. Who knows.

    Love you guys.
Indygirl1977

I guess I just don't see the point in one-sided friendships. I have come to realize that there are people that just change for whatever reason, and move on with their lives, I guess to me you should still keep the same friends who do make the effort ya know. Anyway, thanks for commenting

Indywife


indymanandwife0 50M/49F
221 posts
12/30/2008 4:57 am
    Quoting  :
jen

I completely agree with you, that a good friend is definately as hard to find as that god man in our life. You wouldn't think it would be so hard though. And I am with you on if someone can't take the time to email or txt to say a simple hello, then they are not thinking about you to begin with. It is sad that friends come and go, but then again I guess we can look at it such as this. For every friend come and go, you get another one, and they are always that much better than the last.. Thank you for being a true friend to me. I sooo enjoy enduring early morning ventures to local fine food establishments with you... Thanks for always checking in with me, it really means alot. You are the best, and I can't wait to see who the lucky man is that will figure all of this out. You do know you have to kiss ALOT of frogs to find your prince..


indymanandwife0 50M/49F
221 posts
12/30/2008 4:58 am
    Quoting 49AK:
    I completely understand your frustration. I think NoStrings selects for people who aren't really all that interested in a deep friendship... But I have been surprised... I have met some incredibly wonderful NoStrings people.

    But that same problem isn't limited to NoStrings... Some relationships seem so one-sided.

    I think the key is to find the ones that work for you and cultivate them. The one-sided ones are one-sided for a reason.

    (I call those 'vampires')
49AK

WELL SAID!!!!!


indymanandwife0 50M/49F
221 posts
12/30/2008 5:00 am
    Quoting  :
bbwindygirl

You are too sweet. I know you are right about the ones who stick around and care are the ones who matter most, which is why I treat those people with such respect and kindness. I am sure it is hard for you with your vanilla friend to give up such a friendship because you guys have endured so much together, and some friendships are just better left one-sided I suppose. And you definately have made my world a better place by being in it.. xoxoxo


fuckmelongandhad 53F

2/10/2009 9:32 am

 Here is the way I see it. The type of person who is only around during the good times, does not want to see you for who you are, and runs when things get sticky is not a true friend. I have people on this site as chat friends, and then friends. My chat friends I have come to realize do not necessarily want the honest answer to how are you. My actual friends understand that my life is a somewhat complicated mess, partake in a give and take type of banter, and will talk me down off a ledge if it has been a very bad day. These are also the people I have had the most fun with ever. I believe you get more out of a friendship when you invest in it. Ok, so my true friends will understand when I say gotta go get some incense burners now !
"...Take me as you find me. All my fears and failures. Fill my life again..." From Mighty to Save


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