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Shooting your shot! (learning to handle rejection in your life)
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Shooting your shot! (learning to handle rejection in your life) If there is anyone knows more about being rejected it's . I have a PhD in it. However there is NOTHING wrong with being rejected. Oh sure it sucks. No one likes to be rejected. But there is still nothing wrong with it. Why? Because while it does stink to be told "No, I don't find you attractive." or "No, I don't think we are compatible.", by being told no, you are now free to move on and grow with someone else wants to be with you. I would rather be rejected by someone, and move on than have them not tell me anything at all. Because with some women, they avoid conflict and hate to tell others no. They are afraid because they don't know what a might say. They are afraid it will bruise a man's ego, and then the must in some way salvage his frail ego, and then attack woman with some insult to make himself feel better. Ladies, I'll admit it. The majority of men have frail egos. Why? Because of generations of males who do not teach their sons how to handle rejection. Rejection is the most important thing a man must learn how to deal with in their life, and to be blunt, my dad did nothing to teach me about rejection. I had to learn it the hard way, and at first I would leave, find a corner and cry. And then my dad would say, "Hey, be a man!" He was clueless in regard. So I never approached anyone. And when I did, I was SO afraid in fear of being rejected. As I grew older, I grew with this fear of rejection for everything in my life. Until one day I had one of my friends tell how does he deal with rejection. And he wisely gave some sage advice. "Women are like buses", he said. "If you miss bus, there will always be another bus within the next half hour. Sometimes in 10 minutes." first I laughed because I thought he was joking. But then he said something profound hard. "Do you know for every man in this world, there are two women?" I didn't know . I then looked it . It's actually for every man there is 1.9 women in this world. So say if there are 9 billion people on the world today...hypothetically speaking here... means there are approximately 3 billion men and then rest are women. Which means you women outnumber us. Which means if one woman doesn't like you, another will. And drastically changed my attitude toward women. I started to "shoot my shot". Doesn't matter if my shot missed. I can shoot again. Did you know Michael Jordan made 32,000 shots. Out of those shots, he missed 9,000 shots! NINE THOUSAND!!! Failure will happen no matter what. No one wins everything. It's impossible. For every person to say yes to someone for their entire life...it's just statistically not possible. You will be told NO many times in your life. So just get used to it. Does it still sometimes hurt when you get rejected? Absolutely it can. But if you can mentally keep in your mind if you are rejected, it's for a reason. Whether you believe in God master plan or not, remember when you are rejected, you can move on to bigger and greater things in life. So don't be worried about being rejected. It's ok, because then you can move on to a new person will care about you as opposed to someone who couldn't give you the time of day. Or if someone says no, they are freeing you to move on to bigger and better things in your life. Say "thank you", move on, and then allow yourself to search for better things in your life! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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thank you....hugssss right back at ya 
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As salesmen say, it is a numbers game. Take a shot and hope for a good outcome.
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I really needed this. feel like a failure since got out of long relationship in January. thank you!!!
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5/3/2019 10:20 am |
I don't expect anything- so i'm not disappointed if rejected- I usually know before hand if we are compatable and I say up front what I'm lookin for- I'm not into courting a woman- if she is interested in wanting the same as me - then there shouldn't be any problems- lol to many fish out there- even if your fishing capability's are bad-lol
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Thanks for reading! Peace! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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