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Blogs > partygald > this way to heidi

Do people really change that much?  

partygald 41F
3085 posts
5/28/2015 3:35 am

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Do people really change that much?

Mr Married and I had a fight a few days ago. A HUGE one. We haven't had this kind of a fight in a looong time. He was over and we were both tired. I think we were both also unhappy about something that the other did, so there was already something boiling under the surface. We were talking, then I can't even remember what triggered it, we moved to screaming, and I was flinging things at him. Then he got really pissed and smashed a standing fan (which cost us both a few hundred dollars, mind you), which upset me and all I could remember was crying, screaming and grabbing things and throwing it at him Okay, not my proudest moment. He then stormed off and it has been 2 whole days that we haven't spoken to each other. Sure, we see each other in the office, and we try to steer clear or each other. But damn....ah well.

Anyways. So I gave myself a day off today (okay...you got me. I called in sick ) and spent the first half of the day hanging out with two of my friends at the pool. There were 3 of us plus her little girl, who's just turning one. Such a little darling. But anyhow. We even managed to make it a micro bikini day out at the pool too, and there was plenty of sun. So yeah, it was a good day. Some of the people staying in her compound weren't so approving though, and gave us "the look". When we had left after lunch, my friend texted me to say that some of her neighbours actually asked her if she could get her friends to "cover up" the next time we were over. Ha. Some people. Anyways, let's not get distracted. I wanted to post about one of our topics of conversation.

I've known them both for over ten years now. As a matter of fact, we used to hit the clubs together to pick guys up for one night stands I remember we used to book a room in a hotel in town for a night or two, prep there, hit the clubs at night, disappear for a while after we had our fair share of drinks and reappear with a guy or more of our own back in our room. LOL Ah...good times

So yes, I know how freaky these girls can be. I've seen them, multiple times. So one of the topics or conversation turned to sex, naturally. With one of them being married with , and the other engaged, I found out that not surprisingly, their tastes and preferences have changed, dramatically. Like I said, it's not surprising. I know mine have changed too. But what got me was the drastic change. One of them even admitted to not like oral anymore. Both receiving, and giving. My first reaction was, poor Tom (her husband) LOL

So the only place she and her husband have sex is on the bed, in the bedroom. This is coming from the same person, who I saw once holding her boyfriend's dick while he pee'd, tapped it and gave him a blowjob right after Initially, I thought it was different now that they had a , so I asked, and to my surprise, she has been like this for the last few years. The other girl too. She and her partner don't have sex as much, and for her too, gone are the days of, well, porn star sex. She still enjoys oral, both giving and receiving, but it surprised me that they changed soo much. Which puzzles me. How can two people, go from really enjoying porn star sex (ok, I think porn stars don't really enjoy it so much, but you know what I mean...) to being, well, sexually prude. Okay, maybe one of them is a prude. The other, not soo much. But you know what I mean. I understand that people change, along with it their tastes, preferences, etc. But to have changed so much? Wow. Hmm...something to think about.

Have you changed that much, as far as sexual preferences go? I'm guessing the people here aren't that drastic. Heck, most of you probably went from bad to worse! LOL

kimdao1 43F  
116 posts
5/28/2015 5:10 am

 Sounds like things got old hat for them, and they've lost something since the kids came along and some of the fun went away.

The first happened in my marriage, thankfully we don't have kids together.


Not_here2meet 56F
3843 posts
5/28/2015 6:33 am

 I'm going to agree with kim on this one. It sounds like things are boring and they got "used" to it. Take it from someone with a huge sexual appetite who has been married three times, it happens. Life gets in the way and relationships evolve into something else.

I know I'm prone to having that tendency and it is probably one of the underlying reasons my relationships didn't last...so I decided not to get married (anymore...lol)
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SirTeezalot 74M
21966 posts
5/28/2015 5:07 pm

 But wouldn't it be boring if we stayed the same?

I think they call it "fuzzy logic" in computer lingo.

And marriage has a major impact on you in more ways than just sex. And it don't end there. Age, experience and maturity have to be accounted for too.

I just wish I could have continued sowing my wild oats as long as you have but even for you that isn't going to last for ever.
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FunPleasurable 60M
3997 posts
5/28/2015 5:20 pm

 Please check for tell take signs.

1) there is a microchip implanted at the back of their head.
2) there are human sized green vegetable pods (not iPods) lying around in their homes and that your friends have very little emotion exhibited.

If you find such evidence, get the fuck out (errr not get more fucking outside) and run far far away.
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partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/28/2015 10:47 pm
    Quoting kimdao1:
    Sounds like things got old hat for them, and they've lost something since the kids came along and some of the fun went away.

    The first happened in my marriage, thankfully we don't have kids together.
Yeah, I can see that happening. Although I do also know people with kids who still keep it up in the bedroom and beyond. But yea, I get what you mean. Kids...heh. Thanks for popping by


partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/28/2015 10:49 pm
    Quoting Not_here2meet:
    I'm going to agree with kim on this one. It sounds like things are boring and they got "used" to it. Take it from someone with a huge sexual appetite who has been married three times, it happens. Life gets in the way and relationships evolve into something else.

    I know I'm prone to having that tendency and it is probably one of the underlying reasons my relationships didn't last...so I decided not to get married (anymore...lol)
LOL
Now that's one way to deal with it. Getting "used" to it, that sounds familiar...I swear, shitloads of work needs to be put in if you wanna keep things fresh. Why...must...it...be...so...damn...hard...?


partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/28/2015 10:52 pm
    Quoting SirTeezalot:
    But wouldn't it be boring if we stayed the same?

    I think they call it "fuzzy logic" in computer lingo.

    And marriage has a major impact on you in more ways than just sex. And it don't end there. Age, experience and maturity have to be accounted for too.

    I just wish I could have continued sowing my wild oats as long as you have but even for you that isn't going to last for ever.
Fuzzy logic indeed. Even I've changed. But I already know that change will happen. It's just the degree of change that is dumbfounding me. How does one go from one end of the spectrum to the furthest side of the other? Know what I mean?


partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/28/2015 10:53 pm
    Quoting FunPleasurable:
    Please check for tell take signs.

    1) there is a microchip implanted at the back of their head.
    2) there are human sized green vegetable pods (not iPods) lying around in their homes and that your friends have very little emotion exhibited.

    If you find such evidence, get the fuck out (errr not get more fucking outside) and run far far away.
Haha! That's some really old "B" grade movie reference. And IF that were the case, wouldn't that make life a little more interesting...


08540Tantrafun 60M  
1072 posts
7/9/2015 9:37 pm

 Yes, it is very common. I figured out the reasons a bit too late. Some of it, you can read here in my old post.Chemistry of Sex Why we fall in and out of love
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discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
4/7/2016 12:21 am

 Long belated reply here, since I haven't read blogs in almost a year, it seems.

When my wife and I were first a couple, we had sex together very frequently -- sometimes three times in a day, often twice a day, and very rarely missed a day.

Now, six years after we met, we're down to every few days. What happened? I think the first change is that when we were first together, we didn't know whether we were going to stay together, so we both wanted to have as much great sex as we could while it lasted. Now, if we're in a rush in the morning, rather than saying, "Well, we can skip breakfast," it's more likely, "Well, it can wait until evening, or afternoon if we're lucky." I suppose that's complacency. Another thing is that we're busier, partly with things we've added to our lives over time, partly with things that we set aside in favor of lots of sex.

One thing that hasn't changed is the quality of the sex. It's still great. If it's changed at all, it's better. I love giving her oral; she loves receiving it. I enjoy receiving a little warm-up oral but I consider oral-to-completion just a back-up plan, and she's not crazy about it either. We still try to indulge each other's kinks on occasion. We communicate better because we know each other better. It's great.


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