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not sure what I should do  

shysexual_MTgirl 42F  
760 posts
1/5/2014 11:48 pm

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8/15/2019 2:38 am

not sure what I should do


Recently, I ran into a blast from the past. He has begun working at an establishment that I frequent. My jaw dropped when I realized he worked there. I'm not quite comfortable going in there. It's not that we fought or anything. But in order for you to understand, I'll have to take you back to the beginning.

Normally, this guy isn't someone I'd go after. He's younger, 2-3 inches shorter than me and skinny. Very skinny. But I still managed to develop quite a crush on him. He's not the normal personality that I'm even attracted to. He's kind of quiet and serious. But there was something I liked. We eventually exchanged numbers and along with my gay bff (at the time) began hanging out. Somewhere along the way, I started hanging out with one of my guy friend's ex gf. (he was ok with it). She didn't really understand the crush, nor did she like the guy. She was always calling him some name...loser, ugly, lame etc.

One night, the gay bff and the crush were hanging out with me. I was in heaven. The guy was actually getting flirty with me. Well, I'll just say that things progressed while we were alone. Then the gbff walked in and proceeded to get all bitchy. I didn't understand why. He knew how much I really liked this guy. (we'd been on many long drives after he gotten off work.) So, the party broke up and we all went our separate ways.

When I finally managed to corner my gbff, I wanted to know what the fuck was up. He looked guilty. I finally got it out of him that he'd positioned my crush and my crush allowed the gbff to give him a blow job. Now, I'm not one to judge. The crush, was single at the time and if he was bi or bi curious, that's his deal. Where I had the problem, my FORMER gay bff sucked my current crush's dick. Knowing full well that I really liked the guy.

So, I dropped the gbff when he wouldn't apologize for breaking bff code.   The reason he had gotten pissy when he'd walked in on me and my crush was because he was jealous.

Next friend. The one that really disliked the crush,. She tolerated hanging out with him when we'd get together. One night, after the bar closed, I invited them to come hang out and watch a movie at my place. He rode with me, she followed. I was excited. We had more drinks at my house. Enough that things were getting a little hazy. Later, when it was time to take him back to his vehicle, she all of a sudden was eager to take him back to his truck. I had sobered up by this point and was getting a little irritated with her. She knew I liked him and wanted to be alone with him, but she was being weird. I'm sure you can see where this is headed.

I took him back to his truck and headed home. Later that day, I sent her a text to ask her what was up. After some texting, she finally called me and explained that she and my crush had spoken the previous night and she was going to date him. Wait! What!? The man that the night before she been calling ugly and a loser, she now wanted to date?! She didn't see why I should have a problem with this, because he didn't like me that way. Does anyone see why I would have been upset? Then she says this: "Why can't you be happy for me? I just want a boyfriend!" She didn't say, "I really like him," or "he's a nice guy." She JUST WANTED A BOYFRIEND! If she'd come to me and said that after talking to him, she had begun to like him and he liked her, would I give her my blessing to date? I probably would have , I've done it before.

I ended the friendship, they began to date. Less than a year later, they were married and moving. Less than a year after that, they were divorced. She called me and told me and asked if I was still mad at her. I wasn't , but I told her that I'd never trust her. When she couldn't understand why, I realized how truly selfish she was.

Fast forward a couple of years. I was out with a friend, when who should I see, but the former crush. This friend knew nothing of the crush, but she noticed the guy. Why would she notice the guy you may wonder? Because every 5-10 minutes, he made sure to walk by our table. She mentioned it, so I told her an abbreviated story of the one above. A light bulb seemed to go off. She mentioned he seemed to be trying to get my attention. I agreed but didn't know how to proceed our how to approach him.

A few months later, I walked into the same place, only to find that he now works there. I know this is a long, drawn out sorry, and if you're still reading, I owe you a kiss. He still makes sure to walk by me frequently. I don't know if I should say hi to him, or if he's playing some sort of weird game. What do I do? Should I say hi to him? What should I say if I do? I never told him the things his now ex-wife used to call him. I'm not angry with him, just not sure where to go from here.

shysexual_MTgirl 42F  
370 posts
1/11/2014 9:37 pm

    Quoting kittykatgal:
    Honestly, he's not worth your time or acknowledgement. Don't give him the time of day. He KNEW you liked him. Believe me he did. And BOTH times him and your former shithead friends screwed you over. So, mad props for ditching them ALL. I believe 1000% in the girl code. I will not date anyone's ex or if I know my friend likes them. I will walk away no matter if I am attracted as well. Chicks before dicks... Men can come and go... I expect my friendships to last a lifetime.
I've walked away from a couple of friends' exes. Great looking guys, but I couldn't go there. Idon't think the guys could believe I turned them down. Lol
As for this guy), I've come to the conclusion that fucking him would be too weird. I thought about it on the middle of one of my toy sessions and it wasn't hot, it was awkward. How can I make a fantasy awkward? Smh


kittykatgal 46F
233 posts
1/11/2014 1:04 pm

Honestly, he's not worth your time or acknowledgement. Don't give him the time of day. He KNEW you liked him. Believe me he did. And BOTH times him and your former shithead friends screwed you over. So, mad props for ditching them ALL. I believe 1000% in the girl code. I will not date anyone's ex or if I know my friend likes them. I will walk away no matter if I am attracted as well. Chicks before dicks... Men can come and go... I expect my friendships to last a lifetime.

meow

~~kitty~~kat~~gal~~


shysexual_MTgirl 42F  
370 posts
1/10/2014 2:19 am

A couple of new friends noticed him. It was funny. One of the girls asked, "Why does that guy keep walking by you?" I explained the story and they both said he wanted me to acknowledge him...by I'm a chicken...bak bak!!


sehd07 57M
1059 posts
1/6/2014 9:09 am

I'll take that kiss


shysexual_MTgirl replies on 1/7/2014 6:15 pm:
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JustHere2Cam 56M
14229 posts
1/6/2014 3:00 am

He might still be trying to get your attention, but I wouldn't bother with him ever again. Not only did your two friends break your trust, but so did this guy -- twice! As they say, it takes two to tango, and this guy was involved in both breaches of trust.


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shysexual_MTgirl replies on 1/6/2014 5:26 pm:
The man and I never had any sort of relationship other than friends. Yes, he was probably aware of my crush, but he never promised me anything. The reason I'm disappointed with my former friends and no longer talk to them is because they knew. They broke my trust by going after someone I liked...purposefully. And if I ever choose to do anything, it wouldn't be anything near a relationship.

I want to ease the awkwardness I feel when going into this establishment. IF I chose to allow him back into my life for a sexual reason, that is all it would be.

shysexual_MTgirl 42F  
370 posts
1/6/2014 12:52 am

As a post script, I would still fool around with the guy, but I'm not interested in anything more from him...(I know he's well endowed from the one time things progressed further than ever before lol )


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